Seeing ourselves as a label like "loser". Is that helpful.?
No, F*ck that.
I've f*ckin' pwned noobs in my time, IRL. I've been a friend. I've been there for people in dark times. Nothing can change that.
Definitely not perfect. Definitely down on myself some times.
What is now, is now. One can philosophically own it, and live it: slacker, underachiever, unsuccessful, alone, depressed, single, unloved, misunderstood, hurting, confused, frightened, hopeless, etc... All of it. Call it whatever. It's own-able.
Lots of amazingly beautiful, unique, lively, interesting, people have come and gone through this place.