What dating platforms do you recommend?

[SlavicNa97]

I am on Boo and Tinder (I struggle to log in but if my account disappeared, I am good with it) and Boo seems to be very good so far (it is rare to spot scammers) and verification is simple (they don't ask you for documents). I signed myself in ZenDate (I remember a while ago Chat GPT told me about that one) and I deleted account within 2 minutes out of fear. Within seconds after making an account, video call requests appear pretty often + few profiles texted me 1 line (different each other) and photos are too professional, too clear and I have found on TrustPilot reviews 1,3 star from 173 reviews and there was only 1 positive opinion but all opinions tell about the same). There you spend "credits" to text more, 1 credit = 1 minute of video call etc etc and Idk if you get credits through daily logging in, watching ads or what but you can spend real money too.
Also I don't like their way of verification: you choose 1 of 4 or 5 and another website appears with taking photos of your ID, passport and rest I forgot..

 

[okidoke]

All dating apps are flawed and designed to keep you on them so it makes the company money. That is a fact, not just my opinion. Miracle connections can happen, but the odds are against you. I wouldn't waste my time on them, again. Yes, I wasted too much time, effort and money on them.

 

[littlefish555]

Good luck to you! I don't know what Boo is, or Zen Date, and I agree with okidoke that dating apps are super flawed. And some of the things you're talking about do sound scary! Not sure about the credits thing you're talking about either, that might be specific to your country, but my understanding was that all these apps are supposed to be free for users unless you're doing like boutique apps where you're paying some company to find you a best match (i've never tried that).

I wanted to share my positive experience though. I was on Bumble and actually met someone wonderful after a long and exhausting bout of weird dates and hurt feelings (and one sleazy encounter I prefer to forget about). It's been three years since I closed the app forever. Was really horrible until it wasn't. Maybe I got lucky, but I recommend Bumble because you can be on there to meet new friends or date. I never tried Tinder, but to me that app seemed like it was all about sex, which might be fun if I was younger.

Things changed for me on Bumble when I switched the "what are you looking for" from "I don't know" to "relationship" and expanded my search to look outside of the big city. Once I was honest with myself that a relationship was why I there, and made that clear on my profile, even though it felt a little vulnerable and embarrassing, I found a really excellent match. Someone I was unlikely to have ever met in 'real life' too.

I had never really 'dated' and did not enjoy it, with the apps it's just all condensed and everything happens a lot faster and feels a little unnatural because everyone is trying to not waste time. It's really not fun. But I'm a success story and even made a good friend through the app that really helped get me through the end of the pandemic. So I don't hate on Bumble even though the whole experience until the end success was unpleasant. I also tolerated video chats (which are also awful) because you can get a sense of someone. It's all so awkward but for me it was worth it.

 

[MrLonely86]

+1 on what OkiDoke said . I recommend none, they are all like .... programmed that way that you get best people last, and so they can money milk you. So yeah - none.

 

[TheRealCallie]

I personally don't feel that dating sites are that much different than finding someone the old fashioned way. You still have to get to know someone, you still have all the risks, you are still going to get rejected until you find the right person and even after you do find the right person, you could still get hurt. People lie in real life as much as they do online.

Now the differences are this. You can read body language and hear tone in real life. You will have a larger pool to fish from online and have access to people you may not have ever met in real life.

As for which sites are better....none of them? Though, I think Tinder is more for hookups than actually finding someone to spend your life with. Not saying it won't happen there, but it's probably less likely. It's way too focused on looks (not that the rest aren't, of course....even real life is based on looks for most people). I'm not even sure if all the options in America are available to other countries. I would assume so, but I don't know for sure. It's going to be hit or miss on any site you go to. It's going to be hit or miss in real life. You just have to keep trying until you find someone you mesh well with.

I don't know much about the different dating sites personally. I know several people who have successful happy marriages through Match. I've met some decent guys on Plenty of Fish. I'm pretty sure you get better (more serious) results on the paid sites, but I assume that is out for you? Eharmony makes you fill out pretty extensive questionnaires to try to actually pair you with a compatible person, but the free version is pointless since I don't think you can't actually message anyone.

 

[insecure]

I find it hard to recommend any dating platform.
I am on many platforms: Facebook dating (free), Tinder, Bumble, Fruitz, Breeze, Waiter, Happn.
I recently deleted my Tinder profile and started with a fresh one.
Even though there are lots of likes, and I found this script that allows me to see 10 of my likes, so that I can easily match, they turn out to be fake or people that want to waste your time and money.
Many of them turn out not to be where their location says they are ("just visiting a friend/uncle", "on a business trip", ...), so those are fake.
Then some want to meet really quick, but then shortly before you're going to meet, they call it off with some lame excuse and say they no longer want to meet and end the conversation.

Bumble is very similar to TInder, and both suffer from the type of woman that wants to somehow get paid for the date (sugar daddy, or even women who are 50+ asking you to financially "help" them.

Also, like I said, some want to waste your time and money.
I was in a conversation with a girl who originally came from the Filippines.
Now she wants me to pick her up at her job when she finishes, but she works at the airport, and traffic is tense there, so that would take me 1,5 hours to get there and 1,5 hours to return, and of course some gasoline too.
The funny thing is that she lives a lot closer to me than her work place, and after work, she needs to return home anyway.
So in essence, I would be a glorified taxi driver, just because wanted to have a date with her.
So it seems like she's just testing whether I can be at her beck and call.

Happn often has fake profiles, which supposedly passed by your street, but when you match ('crush' as they call it), it turns out they live far away and never visited even your country.

Fruitz seems to be geared more at young people (18-25), and very French-based.
Many young girls (18-21) who seem to want a one night stand, though I suspect most of them want to get paid for it.
Never even come close to a date on this site.

Waiter shows you 3 profiles per day and you can give a like to one of them.
If that person also gives you a like you have a match.
Seems like a total scam to me, as I have received 12 likes, but all of them from ladies I did not choose.
I read from people who paid to see who those names were, that those profiles simply replied with a hello, and nothing more.

Breeze also shows you 3 profiles per day, and if you have a match you are supposed to go on a date with that person.
It's not a bad system, but it makes for very few matches.
I've only had 1 date with this system.

Facebook dating is free, and even then it seems just as difficult as the other platforms to find a decent person.

My recommendation would be to start live dating.