mgill said:
studies show that it's far more than just a pattern and this requirement is certainly not limited to OLD. it's also not just about height either (but i think in many cases a lack of height alone can be the determining factor) as the top three physical characteristics women rate us on are a man's height, his face & his hair. i would agree that perhaps if he is average or below average in one of these categories he may be able to help make up for it if he is exceptional in one or two of the others. the problems come in when he is at best average or below average in 2 or all 3. as a short (pathetic 5'6), bald and at best average facially man who has not had a single date in over 7 years, i know all too well how extremely critical height, face & hair are for any man seeking an intimate relationship and how the lack of these qualities will make it virtually impossible for him to find a partner.
the bottom line is that a man is attractive when women are attracted to him and he is not when women are not attracted to him. some men are just too genetically inferior for women to ever show us any interest even if we are very successful in many other area's. as another old saying goes, there is no gym for your height or face.
I still don't understand what looks have to do with finding love . A solely intimate relationship is just that - an intimate relationship , based on instincts and therefore looks. But love is much more than that. Love takes time. It starts with friendships and continues without ending, incorporating on the way: intimacy, trust, laughter, the good times, the bad times, strong friendship, etc.
When you say most women are interested in looks when it comes to intimacy is like saying a car needs to look good in order to ride it. Yes, those who are looking for instant gratification, will choose a great looking car . But a great looking car doesn't guarantee anything else . Looks fade. A car gets rusty and if you didn't choose it for what's under the hood, it won't take you too far.
A gorgeous looking guy will get old eventually and get to 85 years old for example , and he will not look young anymore on the outside, he will have wrinkles and less hair or even no hair at all, no teeth or a few teeth left, a bump on his back, a limp maybe, etc. What matters is the inside. If he has a beautiful soul, his inner beauty will reflect on the outside too and his wife will love him and appreciate him for who he is, she will love every inch of his body because he is the one for he, he is her knight .
A true woman needs a man with a beautiful soul. You must search for such a woman if you want to find happiness in a romantic relationship.
True love is almost impossible to find these days. Some people think they found it but they didn't in reality. Most never find it. But it's better to spend eternity alone than with the wrong person.
