care too much?

[ucxb]

A long life friend told me that I am the only person she knows that cares too much about what people think and feel. I told her that my sister does too I know I am not the only one… Among other worries, I think I keep myself from meeting people or mingling with strangers because I do not want to care.

So, I care too much what people think and feel... I do not know how to teach myself to care less without avoiding meeting people all together. Is changing my consideration towards others possible? Does anyone have two cents or help with perspective on this?

/cheers to your potential consideration

 

[Rosebolt]

Try putting the care you put in others into yourself. This is a hard thing to do, i know from personal experience.

What basicly happens is that putting more care into yourself you're better able to help others as well, so it's kind of a win-win situation.

I hope i didn't miss the point.

 

[ucxb]

I hope i didn't miss the point.

You did not! Thank you for your thoughts. They are just. I have read a little bit about caring more for yourself but is hard to comprehend as I do take care of myself. Perhaps there is a difference that I am just not grasping mentally ?

 

[Rosebolt]

What it was for me is that i had to move the focus away from the people i care about and focus more on me, your lifes focus, so to speak. I had a lot difficulity doing that since i have a huge fear of becoming arrogant, but it worked somehow and it only went better that way.

 

[ucxb]

I have been able to comfortably communicate with the people in my life (family and life long friend) that I am not able to be there for them emotionaly from time to time like I once was. They know how much of an overly caring person I am and know about my life turning upside down, my new journey, etc. So I feel somewhat manageable with people I do know its those that I don't.

Thanks again, Rosebolt. I appreciate you sharing your story and congrats to you for finding what works for you

 

[bodafuko]

If you care what other people think, it means you value their opinion over your own, which in turn means that you think they have a higher inherent value than you do. Every time you think that way, do yourself a favor and wind up and kick yourself in the nuts as hard as you can. If you don't have nuts (I can't tell from your username and am too lazy to check your profile), then punch yourself in the ****s or something. It's all about conditioning.

 

[perfanoff]

shh, just don't let them know that

 

[ucxb]

I am female and I get what you are saying I do not disregard my own feelings when it is of a serious matter. I to feel that it is something I could learn over time, just not certain how to go about it without becoming uninterested all together. What a feat, to learn how to care less... Thanks gents for your consideration