Do u always go out alone?

[putter65]

But Ive been off work this week. Apart from my Dad who I live with, I have spoken to my Mam, her fella, a few people at golf on Sunday and thats it. I'm not that bothered. I am used to it after all these years. (Ive had no texts and no facebook messages either !)

When I'm off work, I hear from no one. That's why I come on sites like this.
Today was an oddity because the lady down the street needed me to come over and work on her phone since it stopped working. Normally the only time my doorbell rings is when a sale person comes by. They don't like me because I'll talk and talk and talk and they think they have a sale. But I'm only talking because I have someone to talk to. Finally they go away once they realize I'm not buying. *laughs*

I used to be used to the dead silence but as I got older, I decided I wanted to have people to talk to. Unfortunately they didn't have classes in school on how to find people to talk to.

I'm not that unhappy though. I don't have a great deal in common with most people so I don't mind being myself all the time. Earlier in the year I did send alot of text messages / facebook messages to people but nothing came of it. I always knew if I didn't initiate contact then I wouldn't hear from them.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

I go out alone sonetimes..wheather
I was in a,relationship or not.

I still go out with my buddy and what Not....but sometimes I do better Alone in meeting women if im by myself.
Its cool to have bufdy hang out with you sometimes...
Cuase its a **** up role my friebd choose to Play. He fucken repells women....
All the women tells me this...it's fucken rediculous.
So im sort of like the good cop. lmao
But Im actaully the badboy. i dont really give a ****..or Im not cliggy. Telling women a bunch of stupid lines.
It has nothing to do with badboy, nice guys, ********...
It's about codependency and controlling...Women can smell that **** a mile away.


Most women that wants to get it on with me Dosnt really want other around people arund after a while.
It gets stulid awkward and ruin the mood. If you gitta drop poeple off Or just hang out..

I meet different poeple all the time... Regardless of gender. Im not always
Going out looking to get laid....

I dont like sitting home all the time....
People are just people...its not a big deal.

Going out by myself is another way of me not being codependent on others.
I'll eventually meet someone throughtout the night or chit chat with people.

Other times i wish not to be around people or enteract with people closely.
I'll just take a simple stroll or job around the park...stuff like that.
i used to just take my stun kite and go fly it after work very day...it's an activity that donst require more than 1 person....
but eventually a stranger will come up to me and asked if they came test fly my kite...stuff like that.

 

[lonelyfairy]

I usually go out alone... No friends.

 

[blackdot]

When I go to meetings for a community service group I am with, everyone tells me hello and enjoys the fact I am there because I'm so friendly and can make anyone laugh about things. But once I leave the meeting, it's like I don't exist until the next event.
I can e-mail them and sometime get just 1 e-mail in return. But once there is another meeting or event, I'm everyone's friend again.

I miss college where everyone is crammed together in dorms so there is no "distance".

 

[ahaikulife]

When I go to meetings for a community service group I am with, everyone tells me hello and enjoys the fact I am there because I'm so friendly and can make anyone laugh about things. But once I leave the meeting, it's like I don't exist until the next event.
I can e-mail them and sometime get just 1 e-mail in return. But once there is another meeting or event, I'm everyone's friend again.

I miss college where everyone is crammed together in dorms so there is no "distance".

Do you like any of these people? are there any of them you could imagine wanting to spend some time with? Do you ask them questions about what they do with their free time? You ever tried asking anybody, in person, if they wanted to catch a drink or a "quick bite" after the meeting? I know, easier said than done... I need to actually do that...

me: you seem like a nice guy blackdot, hey, wanna grab a beer quick after this online message? There is a li'l bar down the road I've been wanting to go to....
you: ummm.... ok?


i know, i'm odd, but in my defense, aren't most people on this site ?

 

[blackdot]

to be honest, I don't match up with any of them. The group used to be about 500+ people but we are down to just about 100 now. Even when it was 500 people, I didn't match up with any of them.

There have been 2 people in the group that I have considered asking out. 1 figured out I liked her and quit the group. She came back a few years later and realized I was still there and quit again. We got a long really well and she loved to talk to me but when she realized I actually liked her, she was gone.
The other one told me I would be a great person for anyone to date and i know she likes me. But she is in some kind of weird relationship with some guy that refuses to show any feelings for her and she doesn't want to mess that up by dating me. Plus once I pointed out that if she does decide to break up with that guy, i would be willing to date her, she stopped sending me e-mails. *laughs*

Plus I don't ask people out to bars since I don't drink.

One of the things I have always tried to avoid is attempting to date someone within a group of friends. When (not if) it doesn't work out. I'd end up losing a lot of friends because I wouldn't be able to hang around that person.

 

[putter65]

When I go to meetings for a community service group I am with, everyone tells me hello and enjoys the fact I am there because I'm so friendly and can make anyone laugh about things. But once I leave the meeting, it's like I don't exist until the next event.
I can e-mail them and sometime get just 1 e-mail in return. But once there is another meeting or event, I'm everyone's friend again.

I miss college where everyone is crammed together in dorms so there is no "distance".

I can't really complain because I don't really like being around people. Not large groups anyway. I got asked to a wedding yesterday but I didn't go. It would be my idea of hell. The last time I went anywhere was a couple of weeks ago. This woman I used to work with asked me for a coffee. When I got there, she had invited somebody else. I just think three is a crowd. I made my excuses and left rather quickly.

 

[sentiententity]

By default I do go to parks and such alone. I don't go out to movies since they're expensive and it's like a more inconvenient version of watching a dvd at home.

I do go out to eat myself, but mainly cuz I want the food and not to "go out". It's often on a work day when I need to so I don't know if it counts.

I'm outside all day for my job and occasionally talk to customers so I do get some small talk a few times a week.

But going to events like an art fair or a parade makes me feel worse because it emphasizes my otherness. Especially seeing happy couples together, as I feel that such a thing is just not an option anymore for a person like me. Staying at home often feels like the lesser of two evils.

I'm rambling. Did I even end up answering the question?

 

[Lonesome Crow]

wtf...I can go to a support group meetings. Go outide to have a cigg during a meeting.
The next thing I know there's a young fine babe sitting next to me catching second hand
smoke. She has sueicidal tendencies and likes living life on the edge. I'm her ******* issues.

In events that i should decide to open my mouth and share during a meeting.
The next thing i know there's a chick talking to me giving me her number.
Telling me I can call her anytime if i needed anything....She attended the meeting alone and really
needed a friend...The next thing I know,we're taking a shower togehter rubbing each other's back.
You gatta come clean somehow after you put everything on the table.

 

[HappyYogi]

Trent....you've highlighted how socio economic differences can separate us. Yes, having friends with different economic statuses can be uncomfortable and not fun. I personally have trouble being friends with those who have a lot of people in their lives, strong family ties because it makes me feel worse afterwards.

J

when i was in a long-term relationship, i encouraged my significant other to foster and grow the relationships with her close friends. these were friends she had from childhood and had always stayed in touch with.

several times over the years, she feared their were falling out of touch, i encouraged her to give herself (and her friend) the gift of "dates" (basically, planned events), no matter what it is...the ritual of getting together to spend the day at the mall (every month, or every season) or going away for a weekend somewhere (yearly, whatever) keeps the bond of friendship clean and corrosion-free.

i always encourage(d) that.

i am a loner, by choice. i have a job that forces me to be in contact with "people" ALL DAY LONG and EVERY DAY, dozens of new people every week, thousands per year. all day long, people in my ear, people in my face...their problems, hopes, dreams, ambitions, issues, comedy routines. i get to a point where i am fed up with people in general after a long day of having them consume my soul.

but i understand the need for friends. i remember it like a vague dream.

my ex resented me for being a loner. she wanted to force me to be friends with her friends' husbands. but these guys were all total *********s. i had nothing in common with them and wanted to have nothing in common with them.

my life has been about struggle. from day one. always another challenge, always another disaster. i don't really have hobbies, not in the typical sense. don't have time. i work. i work. i train. i train. i go to school. i go to school. i raise my child. i feed my child. i clean my house. i pay my bills.

and once a week for about two hours, i might have time to watch tv.

what i'm saying is, it's hard to sit down with people who live a more priviliged existence and listen to how they snowmobile in the mountains, or travel abroad, or spend lucratively on this or that.

all i can say is: that's nice.

then i go to bed and get up and go to work.

 

[Felix]

I hate going out alone so rarely go out. The odd time my friend calls up I'll go out with them. The only time I go out alone is out of necessity, like when I need to get groceries. It's just very awkward being alone.

I'm kinda like this.

Trying to change this habit, I want to go out by myself more often but it's just hard.

Sometimes I'm ok and I have a good time but other times I notice too much how other people are having a good time with each other and I'm all alone.

 

[Milly]

I've been out to nightclubs alone before. Which probably isn't really the best idea...

 

[Sarah_Lbnz]

wtf...I can go to a support group meetings. Go outide to have a cigg during a meeting.
The next thing I know there's a young fine babe sitting next to me catching second hand
smoke. She has sueicidal tendencies and likes living life on the edge. I'm her ******* issues.

In events that i should decide to open my mouth and share during a meeting.
The next thing i know there's a chick talking to me giving me her number.
Telling me I can call her anytime if i needed anything....She attended the meeting alone and really
needed a friend...The next thing I know,we're taking a shower togehter rubbing each other's back.
You gatta come clean somehow after you put everything on the table.

You know dad, I like totally respect you and your Awesome Integrity, like.

 

[Romantic_Flower]

I'm always going out alone, 'cause i have no one to hang out with.
I used to call people to hang out last year, but they always refused, saying they had plans with other friends.
The interesting is that they had never called me for anything, even I calling them a lot of times.
It Sucks.
But i can't rely on them to hang out.
If i want to have fun, i hang out alone, as I always do.
It would be much better to have someone with me, either a friend or a girlfriend, but since i dont have, I have to get used with what I have - I have me.
Life hate us. That's a fact. If life doesn't, we would have no reasons to be in this forum at all.

 

[ardour]

Movies on your lonesome... ahh yeah.. People say "I go alone all time" or "plenty of people go alone" but even when I'd stick to a week night all I would see was theatres packed with people, and not one of them by themselves. It made me self-concious, I was laughed at a couple of times, so now I tend to wait until something comes out on DVD. Pointless moan over.

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It's bad that your friends live a while away. But it's worse when your friends live 5 minutes away and still they come out very very rarely lol.

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I am...or was really close to the 1st friend, but we stopped working together about 2 yrs ago. So the outings and conversations went downhill w/a quickness. I had no idea that we were just "work friends" bc I never got that indication. (shrugging shoulders). Anyway, I guess that's what we were bc now that we're not co-workers, its like pulling teeth to get her to do anything. Oh, well...you live and you learn.

Did you ever just consider saying this to her? As in some sarcastic "oh I guess we were just "work friends"" followed by a deletion. What is there to lose? Nothing wrong with some well placed indignation (assuming there weren't other things going on in her life that made it difficult to find the time)

 

[putter65]

Movies on your lonesome... ahh yeah.. People say "I go alone all time" or "plenty of people go alone" but even when I'd stick to a week night all I would see was theatres packed with people, and not one of them by themselves. It made me self-concious, I was laughed at a couple of times, so now I tend to wait until something comes out on DVD. Pointless moan over.

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It's bad that your friends live a while away. But it's worse when your friends live 5 minutes away and still they come out very very rarely lol.

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I am...or was really close to the 1st friend, but we stopped working together about 2 yrs ago. So the outings and conversations went downhill w/a quickness. I had no idea that we were just "work friends" bc I never got that indication. (shrugging shoulders). Anyway, I guess that's what we were bc now that we're not co-workers, its like pulling teeth to get her to do anything. Oh, well...you live and you learn.

Did you ever just consider saying this to her? As in some sarcastic "oh I guess we were just "work friends"" followed by a deletion. What is there to lose? Nothing wrong with some well placed indignation (assuming there weren't other things going on in her life that made it difficult to find the time)

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going to cinema on a night time is awkard. It's full of couples, you might as well walk in with a sign saying 'i have no friends'

Thats why I go in the afternoon when it's alot more quiet.

 

[blackdot]

Last time I have been to the movie theater was when I only had to pay $4.50 for a ticket.

 

[sth]

I never even go anywhere. (I have no social life whatsoever) But whenever I do, yes, I go alone. It doesn't bother me.

 

[veronica]

I usually always go out alone, if I decide to go out at all. I am afraid most of the time, so I stay inside

 

[ahaikulife]

I am out alone currently... at a coffee shop, by myself..and lonely.... sometimes, I like being out alone...sometimes, like now, I kind of forced myself to go out, even though a part of me wishes I wasnt' here, I feel like I have to get out. I dont' know... I traveled for 40 minutes just to go to a coffee shop I had never been to.. I like coffee shops. You should to. You know why? it is absolutely acceptable to be alone in one, and it is acceptable to just escape into your own world, on your computer even, and ignore everybody else... it is totally acceptable and normal to be alone at a coffee shop....and even if I get just a small amount of interaction, for example with the barista chick...who is kind of cute, but to young for me anyhow, even if I only say "hi, could I have a latte please?" ... even if that was all I said, that is at least some kind of interaction with soembody else.... it may not cure loneliness, but it is better than sitting in the basement....

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I usually always go out alone, if I decide to go out at all. I am afraid most of the time, so I stay inside

what are you afraid of?