Do you ever wonder who you would be without your loneliness/depression?

[lusker]

I would be a stupid moron. Friends make you less intelligent, less cerebral, less prone to critical thought. Most of my friends would of held me back intellectually and professionally.

Totally agree! I've had to dumb myself down for decades; but this is Australia. Stand out, get cut down or ostracised.

I disagree. I feel as if everyone has someone to teach someone else. I am always holding my breath when someone in class talks because I think maybe I have missed some hidden facet of their intelligence which would be an insult to them to miss.

Everyone knows something someone else doesn't. We just need to listen more and stop assuming that we know because then the door to learning closes for us.

Also, sometimes we try to justify why we are alone to make ourselves feel better...

You're not from Oz then, I take it! I stand by my assertions. We invented "tall poppy syndrome" down-under, where the only people applauded for being better than the rest are athletes. Try being an intelligent guy in a country where the official reading age is 13 and politics is all about appealing to the lowest common denominator. I'm glad the place you live allows you to be so sanguine! Scandinavia, perhaps?

 

[perfanoff]

Being an intelligent person is the black mark in Bulgaria.

Glad I don't care about ignorant people anymore. You think I'm not social? Many people have little of value to say. I'm a boring guy? You have no idea what goes in my mind and it's not my fault you can't keep up with knowledge and logic. I'm too judgmental? I believe in actual justice. You know, stealing that candy yesterday, you REALLY wish you'd get away with it right? Fat chance with me. Not exciting and impulsive? I'm not a fool and I don't want to be a fool. Less love experience? I actually was working my ass off while you were out having your silly fun.

Granted to say, I've started to reap the benefits of being myself, which come later in life, so I'm not affected anymore by people trying to play themselves up in front of me. It does discourage most of them that know I make double theirs. The only thing I regret, this bitterness still hasn't gone away completely. All in due time

 

[SophiaGrace]

Frey, I was going with the information which you gave, which was to say Friends. Thank you for clarifying further.

 

[Romantic_Flower]

i thank god for my loneliness and my depression. i wouldnt be the man i am now if wasnt for that...

 

[Gurp]

I would be more happy , happier , happiest. More active , doing a lots of work(office , sports , travelling, shopping , cooking) in a single day and this makes me very happy.More involved in my hobbies like guitars and music.More downloading songs and movies(not x rated ones).
More focused , more energetic , happier , less analyzing , less thinking stuff/issues over and over again.Depression makes me think about life more than is needed , which tires me.

Further to be frank , my depression = breakup 3-4 years ago + the resulting porn addiction.
And ya , i was very badly sucked in the vortex of porn addiction , which i am still a very little struggling.It is almost over , thanks to my positive , cool minded new outlook towards life.
Thinking bad things and being sad wont make things any better , do they ? so thats why started feeling better.Let life's boat move on its own to be the least thing you can do better than taking depression in.
Hell with the pressure i am not caving in.

 

[ardour]

Soph as usual you are correct, but i did not surround myself with those people. I was surrounded by bad people who would not be adding to my knowledge. I was surrounded for a very very long time by drug users, hopeless people, and abusive people. These people made up my majority, and really being more social doesn't mean you meet better people. It just means you meet more people.

You're muddying the water here. The topic sort of assumes that the relationships you might be having if it weren't for depression are the kind you would want. Avoiding unwanted contact doesn't require you to be depressed.

 

[Drew88]

I would like to think it would make me a better person if I didn't have all this bs

 

[Peaches]

a nicer person
- after a large dose of loneliness I become petty, envious, resentful, offended at small things, needy, touchy, depressed, I have "weird" thoughts

usually I am not like that
just when drowning in rejection and unwanted solitude

 

[ucxb]

i thank god for my loneliness and my depression. i wouldnt be the man i am now if wasnt for that...

Wisdom is merely healed pain? I have been trying to see loneliness and other issues as a learning process. I am open to it, but do not welcome such suffering :\

 

[ardour]

a nicer person
- after a large dose of loneliness I become petty, envious, resentful, offended at small things, needy, touchy, depressed, I have "weird" thoughts

usually I am not like that
just when drowning in rejection and unwanted solitude

The mind looking for release from the boredom or feelings of rejection, manifesting in ugly thought and behaviour.

Add laziness in there; isolation and anxiety is a de-motivator for me.

 

[xninjaguyx]

I'd be more motivated. I believe I'd be finished with college, have a decent career, and perhaps be in a stable relationship. It usually takes a degree of pain to reach the depths of your mind, but if I had a little less depression in my life I may have had more aspiration to accomplish. I may have used the pain in my heart to aspire to be an artist or even a songwriter, I've come up with many ideas in my head but never put them on paper. I may have done some cartooning or learned computer programming. May have become a psychologist, always had an interest.
Or I might be in the same position I'm now. But I'm certain that if my life wasn't so lonely, I'd have much less awkward moments, and the pursuit of happiness would be a much smoother road.