Done with women and done with life

[miltonbradley]

The one person on earth I knew just left me with nothing but a **** you. It's eating at me to the point where I don't want anything to do with living. There was no reasoning, no talk, no nothing. I said nothing wrong and did nothing wrong, yet here I am left with a giant hole in my heart. I'm totally empty now. I'm innocent, I promise. I don't have anyone I can trust or even talk to anymore and I thought she would always be there no matter what. That's what she said. She was my rock and my reason to keep living. Now I see no point. I have absolutely nothing going for me and not a single soul on earth to talk to. If she can do what she just did and completely gut me like that, knowing everything she knows about me, then I can't trust anyone. If I can't trust females anymore, what's the point of life? I can't go through life not trusting women or I'll be alone forever. Can't do it. It took the jaws of life to get me to open up to her about everything, something I've NEVER done with ANYONE, and she mentally tortured me then ****** me in the *** with a brick. After all that time making me believe she would do anything for me. I'm convinced 90% of women enjoy mentally torturing men and the other 10% can't get a man. I feel like giving up.

 

[jjam]

Life can be filled with disappointments. Heck, seems to me a lot of life is about just that. Giving up, however, should not be an option. I am probably continuing to blow an opportunity with an incredible woman as I type this and I realize that I'm already preparing myself to suck it up. I wish I could talk to someone in private about it because I could seriously use some advice here. Anyway... Maybe you should try to have a good talk with her about what you're feeling. If you want to go into details, you can PM me about it. I'll see if I can conjure up some decent advice, though I'm far from an expert on these matters.

 

[Zak]

I am going through the same thing from a month now. Although I have recovered from it like almost completely, I still get stupid nightmares and moodswings (I never had moodswings before). I can exactly feel your words there. If you want to talk feel free to pm.

 

[EveWasFramed]

Sorry you feel that way....you're shutting the door to a possible future relationship with a woman who will care about you.

 

[Enchanted Girl]

Don't think that way. You know that I am a woman and that I am in the same situation as you. Trust me. In my relationship I acted perfect. I made sure never to get close enough to another guy to have an emotional affair of any kind or a physical one. I was always loyal to him. Always listened. Always loved him. Kept all my promises. Devoted myself fully to him in every way and believed all his promises that he'd always be there. I told him everything private about me as well and actually gave UP a lot of my life because I assumed that I'd be moving there to be with him. He chose that life over me and didn't even feel that badly about losing me. As he put it . . . . he was "lucky" to have that life he had and didn't want to lose it for me. =/ Basically, he didn't feel lucky to have me even after all I gave him. He didn't appreciate me and he never loved me to the depth I loved him. He also thought I was easily replaceable since he basically told me he would date girls like me in the future.

I don't know why relationships are this way and it hurts really bad, but trust me, not all girls are the same way. I'm definitely not. I'm actually SCARED that I can't keep one of my promises to him that I'd never love any guy as much as him even if we broke up. I'm going to try really hard to love a guy MORE than I loved him . . . . one that deserves it, but we'll see.

In the end, I would have never ended the relationship. I would have stayed with him for the rest of my life, but that wasn't good enough for him.

You just need to find someone who will appreciate you and love you as much as you appreciate and love them. That was what was wrong with my relationship and I always partly knew it deep down inside . . . . that I loved him more than he loved me. I just thought . . . that he loved me enough not to leave me, even though it wasn't as deep as my love for him. I was wrong.

 

[SophiaGrace]

You will feel better eventually. You took a risk with opening up to her. This is a risk, period, no matter who you open up to. To trust is to risk. And to risk to trust is to possibly gain love and something wonderful. Of course it may bring you unbearable pain like you are experiencing now too. You just got the bad side of the coin this time.

Someday you will and should get back on that horse and deserve to find out the wonderfulness that human relationships can be. I am only sorry this one did not show you that.

 

[miltonbradley]

Don't think that way. You know that I am a woman and that I am in the same situation as you. Trust me. In my relationship I acted perfect. I made sure never to get close enough to another guy to have an emotional affair of any kind or a physical one. I was always loyal to him. Always listened. Always loved him. Kept all my promises. Devoted myself fully to him in every way and believed all his promises that he'd always be there. I told him everything private about me as well and actually gave UP a lot of my life because I assumed that I'd be moving there to be with him. He chose that life over me and didn't even feel that badly about losing me. As he put it . . . . he was "lucky" to have that life he had and didn't want to lose it for me. =/ Basically, he didn't feel lucky to have me even after all I gave him. He didn't appreciate me and he never loved me to the depth I loved him. He also thought I was easily replaceable since he basically told me he would date girls like me in the future.

I don't know why relationships are this way and it hurts really bad, but trust me, not all girls are the same way. I'm definitely not. I'm actually SCARED that I can't keep one of my promises to him that I'd never love any guy as much as him even if we broke up. I'm going to try really hard to love a guy MORE than I loved him . . . . one that deserves it, but we'll see.

In the end, I would have never ended the relationship. I would have stayed with him for the rest of my life, but that wasn't good enough for him.

You just need to find someone who will appreciate you and love you as much as you appreciate and love them. That was what was wrong with my relationship and I always partly knew it deep down inside . . . . that I loved him more than he loved me. I just thought . . . that he loved me enough not to leave me, even though it wasn't as deep as my love for him. I was wrong.

Oh my God, you just took everything I'm feeling and put it into words perfectly. That's exactly how my relationship went, that's exactly how I feel, and that's exactly what I needed to hear. The whole time I was reading that I was thinking "omg this girl is...me." I can't even think of something good to say right now, that's just the EXACT situation I'm in. Word for word. I think I'm gonna have a heart attack. I have faith again! That was beautiful, thank you.

 

[VanillaCreme]

I went through it myself. Took me a year and a half to really get over it to the point where I'm okay. Even now, I miss him, and I think he was the only one who I ever felt comfortable enough to be myself. But it's just not true, and I can't shut out other guys because of him. I can't do that to myself. Because, if you do that to other possible relationships, you're the only one who really suffers from that.

 

[Krossknife]

I completely understand how you feel 3 years ago the same type of thing happened to me along with abortions and cheating i was devistated and nothing in life seemed to have any meaning anymore. The first step is building your mind up again meeting new people, maybe understanding the who you are now. It might take years to feel even alive again but once it happens it is worth it^^ Hang in there and if you want to talk email me^^[email protected]

 

[Badjedidude]

Don't judge the entire opposite sex based on the actions of one person that treated you horribly.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Wow..man I remember saying that. N the very same day Michelle asked me out.hahahahahaaa

Don't trip out...just wait until you get your heart stab by the same woman twice
in one life time. It feels narly as ****. Glued my heart back together with crazy glue
the first time...**** it..now I ma just leaving ****** up N broken.
Just look on the bright side...when you go out there's going a lot of women wanting
to take you home N fix you when they see that crazy look in ur eyes..

But you gatta get up and show up. Women loves that.
A strong man..she can see it and sense it that your twist or hurted in someway...but
you still get up N stand up inspite of the pains.

Or you can get spitiual and put GOD...the love of god into that big empty hole
to heal that wound.

The other option..is to put a **** load of women in there.lol
Maybe you need more than just one woman with that big heart of your's.

Don't trip...as soon as I let go of one woman..another one or two will simply step in
or find her way into my life. That's been my experince

BTw...you know other people cant make you happy. Happiness is an inside job.
When your happy...chicks N life just be flowing at ya...
Love yourself first. Stand up pick yourself up...that's becuase chicks wants a strong man to help them and
lead them when they have a ****** up hair day.haha
If your not strong enough to stand up as a man...how in the world are you going to expect a woman to be a woman?

Sorry ladies...but as a man talking to a man. Sometimes you gatta treat women as just bumps on the roads..

 

[A Desolate Soul]

Don't judge the entire opposite sex based on the actions of one person that treated you horribly.

Exactly as Badjedidude said it. You can't judge the entire female population based on what one girl did to you. it saddens me to hear when people say things like "i quit, i'm done with the other gender". you're basically giving up on finding happiness. Yes a lot of women out there are evil, lying, manipulative, backstabbing, *******, but there are a lot of good hearted women out there, you just gotta find em (which of course is the hardest part). my advice? Stop focusing on her and work on your self. do things that make YOU happy. do things that make YOU feel better about yourself. everyone else can **** off right now. things you could do might include: going to the gym regularly, taking some classes at your local community college, find a hobby that really interests you, or hell maybe even some volunteer work. You never know, you might even end up meeting a better girl than the one before while doing these things.

You will learn a lot from this. possibly one of the most important life lessons you'll ever have. don't let her make you this hateful and cynical person because then she'll win at robbing you of all possible happiness in future relationships. hell, i couldn't tell you how many times i ended up getting ****** over by a woman, but here i am standing strong and still happy as can be (for the most part) because deep down, i know they're missing out on a great opportunity. but anyways, like i said... work on YOURSELF and probably someday in the future, she'll see how much better you're doing with a great girl in your arms and she'll think "wow, i screwed up. i should have never let him go".

 

[Badjedidude]

Stop focusing on her and work on your self. do things that make YOU happy. do things that make YOU feel better about yourself. everyone else can **** off right now. things you could do might include: going to the gym regularly, taking some classes at your local community college, find a hobby that really interests you, or hell maybe even some volunteer work. You never know, you might even end up meeting a better girl than the one before while doing these things.

Buncha good advice here. Pay attention to it.

Good words, ADS.