Feeling much better (prostitution really helps)

[Punisher]

Because a countries laws, enforcement and procedures don't work well does not prove that the idea of legalised prostitution is a bad idea. Your logic is severely flawed.

I didn't say it was a bad idea. YOU said legalising it would stop pimping, when clearly it doesn't. All I did was show you how you don't what you are talking about, and it's not my logic that is flawed.

A lof of Priests abused children when there were few checks made on the welfare of those children. Would it be a good idea then to ban all Priests from working with children? Or perhaps a more intelligent approach would be to simply improve existing procedures, enforcements and laws and screening.

People abusing their power in the work place has nothing to do with prostitution, human trafficking and pimping.

I can see some people here are against the very notion of prostitution and will never ever agree with it regardless of any argument or any rational point of view, even if it would improve the situation. That is very sad.

Some people, like LimLim, have rational points of view, but you do not. It is "very sad" how you think your opinion, which isn't based on any truth or facts, is the right answer.

The internet can be used to help criminals, should it be banned or improved?

Guns help criminals commit crime, should they be banned or the laws and procedures improved?

Parents sometimes abuse/kill their children, should parents be banned from looking after their own children or should parents be given more help in becoming better parents?

Again, none of the above have anything to do with prostitution, human trafficking and pimping.

The very idea that bad things happen in a given situation therefore it must be banned is a very very dangerous knee-jerk reaction and helps no one.

Are you sure about that? Not that I'm saying ban everything.

 

[cubycue]

Hope you used condoms. Knock yourself out. Sex doesn't work for me

 

[Tansey]

Probably the most important reaction to having sex with a few women in a short time is the realization that sex is not such a momentously big deal.

This line literally made me "lol."

You mean you needed to get laid to figure out that getting laid is really not that big of a deal? Usually those lessons are learned at a much earlier age, aren't they?

I can't speak for anyone else, obviously, but I seriously doubt that not getting laid would 'morph into anger' for any reasonable, thinking person. Can it be frustrating? I guess. But it's not the root of misery.

I used to get laid a lot and when I did, I had the same old feelings that I do now, when I'm not getting any. I still felt depressed at times, I still over-analyzed way too much, I was still way too self-aware. It really wasn't any different at all, quite frankly.

I don't have a problem with what you did and I'm not against prostitution at all. (In fact it's always funny to read reactions toward this kind of thing. Some people would react to violence the same way they react to sex. The same disgust and rage. I guess that's a by-product of our sexually repressed society.) But for me personally, I wouldn't want to get laid by a bunch of prostitutes. It's not sexy to me. All I'd be thinking about is the bacteria and disgustingness that was left by the last guy. Gross. But I digress...

My point is, what causes misery for me is not a lack of sex. It's a lack of purpose. Because I really believe that finding something you are passionate about, immersing yourself in it, and finding a way to turn it into a career is the number one thing for happiness. Otherwise, without it, it's not hard to see why people go off the deep end and/or become depressed. Because you have way too much time to ponder the world and how messed it up really is. It's much better to have a healthy distraction; something you're passionate about.

You can get laid a lot, but at the end of the day, you're going to be left with the same feeling unless you can fill this void. (Even though I would argue that it's probably easier to cope if you're getting laid frequently and with beautiful partners.)

I also find that if you can define your purpose in life - find that one thing you're passionate about it and make it into a career - then the rest kind of falls into place. The money, the sex, the happiness, etc. And I think the biggest reason behind it is because you're self-sufficient. You don't need anyone or anything to make you happy. (When you rely on other people / things, you're only setting yourself up for disaster.)

That's my take, anyway.

 

[resist73]

Update: I took another trip to Bangkok in December for a longer time, and this time had nine sessions. One was with two women at the same time, although again, the reality did not match the fantasy.

Looking through the various replies that have accumulated here, it's obvious that this is a hot-button topic and provokes strong reactions. Most of the repliers don't understand my particular situation and set of circumstances. But I know there are many out there who do understand and have been going through similar problems. They are the people who will gain something from my original post.

 

[MrBurns]

Update: I took another trip to Bangkok in December for a longer time, and this time had nine sessions. One was with two women at the same time, although again, the reality did not match the fantasy.

Looking through the various replies that have accumulated here, it's obvious that this is a hot-button topic and provokes strong reactions. Most of the repliers don't understand my particular situation and set of circumstances. But I know there are many out there who do understand and have been going through similar problems. They are the people who will gain something from my original post.

I have no problem with people using prossys so long as the prossys are ther because they want to be and are not doing it because they have to.

 

[Kataphractos]

One was with two women at the same time, although again, the reality did not match the fantasy.

That's the thing about threesomes...fun to watch in porn and sounds erotic in theory, but they're hard to pull off effectively in real life.

 

[Ladysphinx]

Update: I took another trip to Bangkok in December for a longer time, and this time had nine sessions. One was with two women at the same time, although again, the reality did not match the fantasy.

Looking through the various replies that have accumulated here, it's obvious that this is a hot-button topic and provokes strong reactions. Most of the repliers don't understand my particular situation and set of circumstances. But I know there are many out there who do understand and have been going through similar problems. They are the people who will gain something from my original post.

It sounds to me that your problem rather sound closer to sex addiction then anything else. If you need sex to keep or make you happy you might have some serious issues.
I'm married and know all about a man sexual desires and how to please, but sex without romance is worriesome especially if sex becomes the be all and end all. By the way 99.9% of prostituates don't want to do what they are doing, most just won't admit it openly.

 

[Laguna]

@ resist73:

Just as Ladysphinx pointed out, if that sort of sex is able to satisfy you, then there's something wrong.

I don't think you've got a problem, but it denotes that your hormones and sexual pulsions overwhelm your rational thinking and this can get you in trouble.

And taking advantage of women whose only hope is to earn some money to survive is quite immoral.

 

[triilsk]

Update: I took another trip to Bangkok in December for a longer time, and this time had nine sessions. One was with two women at the same time, although again, the reality did not match the fantasy.

Looking through the various replies that have accumulated here, it's obvious that this is a hot-button topic and provokes strong reactions. Most of the repliers don't understand my particular situation and set of circumstances. But I know there are many out there who do understand and have been going through similar problems. They are the people who will gain something from my original post.

hey resist73,

It's a relief to hear you put it so bluntly. I wouldn't bother arguing with the moralist or sexually atypical in this thread...bottom line is prostitution solves a lot of problems for us lonelys in need of some company and a sexual outlet. It's just an easy natural fix and we can't help the inhumanity in it, just as we can't help the inhumanity in consuming meat.

For those who care to know...

I have been going to the lowest/trashiest brothels in Rio de Janeiro for 3 years now and not once did a girl offer to do anything without a condom.
I never have to worry about std's (not even here in a developing country) believe it, despite of what statistics and the media tell you.
Also, I recall a number of times when I was lost and drunk in a brothel, let my money fall out of my pocket and the girls would hand it back to me...they would take care of me and never did me any harm. Now I wonder why? perhaps because there still is some humanity left in what we do to each other.

Anyway, it's a blast...nothing loosens you up more than a girl, just be nice and treat her like a person!

 

[nerdygirl]

I love the contradiction of the statement that sex is not a big deal vs the action of paying for sex that many times in such a short time span.

 

[Kenny]

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[redrotary13b]

Interesting thread......

I'm tempted to try this but..... I think I will pass.

 

[TheSolitaryMan]

I remember reading an article on this in the paper a long time ago.

The author said that he was frustrated with showering women with gifts, but having things fall apart because they weren't interested, or work issues, or whatever.

He started seeing higher class "girlfriend experience" escorts, and said it made him much happier. Sometimes he didn't even do anything intimate with them, he just wanted someone to hang out with.

However, he was deeply shocked and saddened when one of these women told him tearfully that his visit paid her gas bill. After that, he decided to stop what he was doing and re-think his approach to the whole situation.

As for me, I feel very lonely sometimes. However, I could never contemplate using a prostitute. I don't judge others (I can understand why people use them, especially after years of loneliness), but it doesn't fit with my own ethics.

I think sex should be a personal, special thing with a person you feel an emotional connection to. Buying it as a product of the physical side of it all goes against that completely.

Still, I am happy that it made the OP feel better.

I can definitely empathise with some of the sentiments in the OP - such as the "thirsty" comment. This is why it irritates me when you hear about and meet these girls that intentionally lead men on - especially in this day and age, where "sexual harrassment" is an potential threat towards a guy that tries to take the lead in such a situation.

Perhaps my being a virgin changes my view too. I really want my first time to be something wonderful, if it arrives at all that is

 

[triilsk]

I have been going to the lowest/trashiest brothels in Rio de Janeiro for 3 years now and not once did a girl offer to do anything without a condom.
I never have to worry about std's

You are dangerously misinformed. Condoms don't prevent herpes, genital warts, or hepatitis in the instance of weak skin structure near your pubic area. They also don't prevent pubic lice (crabs) and a whole host of other creepy crawlies, fungus infections, yeast infections, or things such as molluscum contagiosum. And heaven forbid that condom break or be defective, welcome to the wonderful world of AIDS.

I can't argue with you there, and yes I am aware that some std's can be transmitted by the slightest contact with the skin. But pretty much everything we do including sex involves risk. Frankly I'd rather take risks, than be sad and celibate at 23.

Btw I tested recently and results came back negative. I remember the first time I did blood testing, I was paranoid and scared, half expected at least hpv. But my worries are all gone now. I've had a fair share of low-rate females and shemales alike and to this day I'm clean. Is that so hard to believe?

 

[resist73]

I love the contradiction of the statement that sex is not a big deal vs the action of paying for sex that many times in such a short time span.

I agree! The reason I went so many times in such a short period was that I knew this was all I'd be getting for who-knows-how-long. Towards the end it was becoming a chore! I wish it was decriminalized here, then I would go every once in a while. When having the sex it doesn't seem like it was worth all the emotional turmoil. But after a while without sex, here comes the depression, the obsessions, the misery.

 

[paulo]

would never be an option for me.
i have problems with people touching me, unless i know them really wel and really really trust them.
even than its not easy for me.

getting to know someone like that that well is gonne cost me a whole lot of money

the onely problem i have with prostitution is that for those women its prob not something they really want to be doing.
if they even have a choice.

so no not gonne work for me.

 

[putter65]

would never be an option for me.
i have problems with people touching me, unless i know them really wel and really really trust them.
even than its not easy for me.

getting to know someone like that that well is gonne cost me a whole lot of money

the onely problem i have with prostitution is that for those women its prob not something they really want to be doing.
if they even have a choice.

so no not gonne work for me.

I've been going to massage parlours for the last 14 years. I go 6 to 8 times a year. I can afford it. The parlours are clean, safe and the ladies are always every nice. Condoms are always used. I enjoy it. Chatting with the lady is almost more important than what goes on. You can't go in with a bad attitude.