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friends or no friends?
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Look@theflowersTLOU
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I've always been a person to have a few close friends and then many people I would consider acquaintances. I choose my own company most of the time. It can be a difficult balance for me at times because by the time I start to feel lonely, it has been months since I've socialized with friends. Even in people I consider my close friends, I would say I see them maybe 6-7 times a year.
maybetrollingmaybenot
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No, but at least you're saving time and money that way.
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very true
LonelyUser
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Have you thought about the possibility that you could end up with a long term illness? such as strokes, spine problems, neuro problems, dementia, paralysis, chronic pain...etc, and could last for years. My grandpa was seriously paralyzed for 10 years before he die, because of strokes. My uncle had an undetected spine problem and was paralyzed from the waist down overnight, since then he had constant pains, lost control of urine and bowel movement. He has been like that for 8 years.
OMG! That would be horrible. But, yeah I thought about something like that. I do crazy **** sometimes and I could easily break my back. My grandfather had lots of strokes and then dimentia. My grandmother messed up here back and was couched bound for the last 5 - 6 years of her life. They both had cancer multiple times. I'm physically very much like my grandfather. So, I know ***** coming. I looked into long term care insurance many times. But, it's disappearing as costs are skyrocketing. One thing that may be a real possibility for me is to get into an assisted living place with long term care available while I'm still mobile, when the time comes.
At the end of the end, **** happens and we can't control it. But, we can try to do our best to keep ourselves in good condition.
Bam111
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I have had no friends in recent years but before I had quite a few growing up my life has bin very chaotic to say the least, yes, I had friends when I was younger, but I didn't choose to be social I was made by my mother to go out and do physical activities ever since 3rd grade I was in soccer, baseball, football after one season would end the next would occupy my time. I had a mental issue as a child that was always treated like a overstimulated personality so in order to take my energy down my mother would occupy me in any and all sports activities. Needless to say, I hated it mainly because I was praised by the grown up for being a athlete but ridiculed by most of my peers and not for sports but for being different. So, in school I excluded myself from others and hung out only with those whom I thought at the time I would fit in with, it wasn't until I got older that my condition only got worse and for many years, I struggled fighting my condition I lost all my friends (so called friends) It wasn't until recently that I have bin able to fully control my symptoms and now I wish for nothing more than to establish connections with other people and make new friendships that will hopefully last a long time.
howdidifindmyselfhere?
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That's such a good question, and not having them has never really bothered me, but the older I get, the more it begins too.
I have always struggled with friends throughout my life, making them and holding on to them. You are definitely on a back footing when you look different and are not what society deems as normal. You certainly have to work that extra bit harder from the off, and as a kid, when you can't do the normal things that all kids do, its hard to fit in and really knocks your confidence.
Whether I have chosen not to have friends, or whether this was just a result of the continuation of the situation I found myself in as a kid, where not really having any real friends I made the most of the ones I could get, the likes of Sonic, Mario and Pac-man, I am not sure.
I have always struggled with friends throughout my life, making them and holding on to them. You are definitely on a back footing when you look different and are not what society deems as normal. You certainly have to work that extra bit harder from the off, and as a kid, when you can't do the normal things that all kids do, its hard to fit in and really knocks your confidence.
Whether I have chosen not to have friends, or whether this was just a result of the continuation of the situation I found myself in as a kid, where not really having any real friends I made the most of the ones I could get, the likes of Sonic, Mario and Pac-man, I am not sure.
dan27
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Friends are worth the risk, they add to your life in so many ways.
The fakers always expose themselves in the end.
A true friend is like having a million dollars in your bank account.
Give 'til it hurts is my motto.
Everything in life comes & goes...money, lovers, family & pals...
Don't be too judgemental of friends.
Do guard your Trust in anyone.
The fakers always expose themselves in the end.
A true friend is like having a million dollars in your bank account.
Give 'til it hurts is my motto.
Everything in life comes & goes...money, lovers, family & pals...
Don't be too judgemental of friends.
Do guard your Trust in anyone.
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dan27
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Hey...I'm your friend ...I have no friends and no family. I would like a friend like me. But, I've never been able to find one. So, I stopped trying. Besides it's super difficult to make new friends when you are old. Well, unless you reside at some place like this:
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I'm a Creative Introvert.
Socializing has never been my strong point.
I also have a meta-cognitive learning disability that is not legally recognized by colleges in my state.
I'm also early into middle age at 34.
Friends are few and far in between, and I usually expect them to fall off the bandwagon or leave.
Having the problem of what young people call "the frienemy" and what old people just call Sociopaths, doesn't help.
I think the last time people make genuine friends is between 14 and 23 years of age.
Money and Worldview Ideologies is really all it takes to tarnish a friendship, unfortunately.
And in those younger years, those things don't really apply too much because they aren't that big of factors in the lives of younger people yet.
There's a very complex reason as to why that becomes a factor but I think I'll spare the forum an essay for once.
Socializing has never been my strong point.
I also have a meta-cognitive learning disability that is not legally recognized by colleges in my state.
I'm also early into middle age at 34.
Friends are few and far in between, and I usually expect them to fall off the bandwagon or leave.
Having the problem of what young people call "the frienemy" and what old people just call Sociopaths, doesn't help.
I think the last time people make genuine friends is between 14 and 23 years of age.
Money and Worldview Ideologies is really all it takes to tarnish a friendship, unfortunately.
And in those younger years, those things don't really apply too much because they aren't that big of factors in the lives of younger people yet.
There's a very complex reason as to why that becomes a factor but I think I'll spare the forum an essay for once.
dan27
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Eh.................
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I have one lifelong friend who lives about 2 hrs away. I have another friend who will meet up with for lunch or an event, etc. And I have a friend or two that I text with or call. But. that's about it. I would like more but never had the ability to make friends. I have tried to join things, go places, invite people over, etc but never goes anywhere. I seem to function well in the rest of my life in terms of my career and other areas. I have tried to examine my personality and I know that i have more of an Eeyore type personality and more monotone voice. I have tried to make sure my conversations are polite, pleasant, upbeat, etc. Doesn't seem to matter. And honestly seems that most people don't need anymore friends in their lives so no room for me.
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Once upon a time, I had friends, but then I got sick and tired of people asking me for favors. Now I have no friends by choice.
dan27
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Well....I'd just ask for a favor of equal value in return...let 'em know how you really feel.
