Hey guys, I'm Chris, 23 from the UK. I'm new here and from looking around I'm really glad I've found this forum. I've decided i'm going to write a bit about my situation, mainly because i've not done it before and also I need to vent a little.
Well like I said, i'm 23 and from the UK, I currently live at home and have been since July 2009. Since finishing university i've found it really hard to find and maintain any form of relationship with people. I'm either at work or sat at home passing the time or sleeping. I live in a small village without any mode of transport, there isn't even a shop here. I walk 4 miles to work and back (which isn't so bad, because I quite like outdoor activities!) But I find it's very draining especially as I work as a waiter/barman who walks around and am on my feet for 12 hours a day.
I dread going to work because it's so unfulfilling, I have a nightmare of a boss and because we're constantly busy there is no chance to form any real bond with anyone I work with. There's also no other work opportunities around where I live.
I'm single, I can't drive and I have no way of meeting anyone new. I've learnt how to occupy myself, I play the guitar and I read books. But from going from a very sociable person to a recluse is not only taking its toll on my personality, but my confidence is at an all time low at the moment.
All my friends seem to be with partners or have moved out and working in the area they wanted after university. Whereas I feel i've gone back to square one and I have real trouble remaining positive. I worry this will also have a knock-on effect for when I actually get to meet new people. I don't want to come across as miserable to them but unfortunately that's what I am at the moment.
As well as this, at university I had a few bad experiences with girls/girlfriends and it's really put me off and made it hard for me to trust not only girls, but people in general. It gave me a taste of bitterness that I just can't shake at the moment. Infact i've turned into quite a bitter person on the whole because of my situation. I'm not constantly bitter, there are times when I enjoy myself, but these occasions happen very rarely, then I end up back at home feeling very shut off from the rest of society and anybody who I can relate to.
I've had to write this very quickly as i've got to go to work, but venting has helped, I could honestly keep writing all day, there's so much on my mind but I just lack the confidence to tell anyone, I don't like people worrying about me and I also don't want to come across as miserable to my friends, I try to put on a brave face infront of them but I find this also causes tension and probably doesn't help the relationship I have with them. I have so many anxieties concerning my future I just don't know how to deal with them all if i'm honest.
Anyway thanks for reading, I have to get ready for work. Words of advice are very welcome and again i'm glad to have found this forum.
Well like I said, i'm 23 and from the UK, I currently live at home and have been since July 2009. Since finishing university i've found it really hard to find and maintain any form of relationship with people. I'm either at work or sat at home passing the time or sleeping. I live in a small village without any mode of transport, there isn't even a shop here. I walk 4 miles to work and back (which isn't so bad, because I quite like outdoor activities!) But I find it's very draining especially as I work as a waiter/barman who walks around and am on my feet for 12 hours a day.
I dread going to work because it's so unfulfilling, I have a nightmare of a boss and because we're constantly busy there is no chance to form any real bond with anyone I work with. There's also no other work opportunities around where I live.
I'm single, I can't drive and I have no way of meeting anyone new. I've learnt how to occupy myself, I play the guitar and I read books. But from going from a very sociable person to a recluse is not only taking its toll on my personality, but my confidence is at an all time low at the moment.
All my friends seem to be with partners or have moved out and working in the area they wanted after university. Whereas I feel i've gone back to square one and I have real trouble remaining positive. I worry this will also have a knock-on effect for when I actually get to meet new people. I don't want to come across as miserable to them but unfortunately that's what I am at the moment.
As well as this, at university I had a few bad experiences with girls/girlfriends and it's really put me off and made it hard for me to trust not only girls, but people in general. It gave me a taste of bitterness that I just can't shake at the moment. Infact i've turned into quite a bitter person on the whole because of my situation. I'm not constantly bitter, there are times when I enjoy myself, but these occasions happen very rarely, then I end up back at home feeling very shut off from the rest of society and anybody who I can relate to.
I've had to write this very quickly as i've got to go to work, but venting has helped, I could honestly keep writing all day, there's so much on my mind but I just lack the confidence to tell anyone, I don't like people worrying about me and I also don't want to come across as miserable to my friends, I try to put on a brave face infront of them but I find this also causes tension and probably doesn't help the relationship I have with them. I have so many anxieties concerning my future I just don't know how to deal with them all if i'm honest.
Anyway thanks for reading, I have to get ready for work. Words of advice are very welcome and again i'm glad to have found this forum.
