How do i forget someone and get on?

[grainofrice24]

Hey,

I agree with most of the sentiment here. Sounds like you're just taken by her because she's the first one to show you some real affection in a while. It would be like if you were outside doing physical work on a hot *** day, and someone gave you a drink of cold water...it would be AMAZING...but if it was a cold day of working @ a desk in an air-conditioned room...that same glass of water would be nothing special.

For me...an online ROMANTIC relationship seems like it would just be a way of acting out a fantasy relationship because it's easy and convenient.
1)You never really know the person for who they are fully
2)Things that are the foundation for a good relationship like financial stability, physical attraction and social status can be put on the back-burner in the name of whispering sweet nothings to their inbox
3)You don't really have to get attached because burning the bridge is as easy as hitting the "block" button.

They're great for building confidence, and helping each other out with some personal problems....but if it's someone on the other side of the world...it might be romantic to say "to hell with obstacles...i'd cross the oceans for her/him" (and maybe I'm just too jaded for that type of thing ) but the chances of it materializing into something real are low, and if it was going to happen, the two of you would have (or need to) make it happen. If you're too nervous to send a picture then it sounds like it's just a fantasy that would be shattered by reality.

My advice: Don't beat yourself up by having her keep running through your mind. You cheered each other up but you made the mistake of getting attached. Nobody on earth would blame you for it man. Just learn what you need to learn from it and move on to the many bigger and better things out there with your name on it!

 

[putter65]

The best way to scare away a girl is to freak out and get obsessed with her. You may have had a chance with her, but freaking out ended it, I'm sorry to say. I highly suggest focusing on getting some part of your life together if you don't wish it to happen again.

Yes that is truly what i experienced and i learnt my lesson but this would not have happened if i had a good job, friends and a steady social life. Its that im often depressed about my life that i was just holding tightly on her as if it was the only good thing going for me, and it was...

The main thing you want to do is try and get a job. That should be your major goal. Even something crap on minimum wage.

The thing is when you are unemployed you have all that spare time but no money to do anything. I've been there myself. You have nothing to look forward to and life becomes boring. When you work, you have less spare time so you apprieciate it more. I work 31 hours a week in a shop. So on my days off (Sunday and Monday) I play golf. Saturday lunch time when my working week is over, it's a great feeling. I've got 2 days to look forward to and I enjoy myself playing golf. I also have the money to treat myself if I ever get down in the dumps.