I’m a 30 year old male friendless virgin

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Yes, people make friends and find a partner later in life, but that is after they experience all this and more in youth and have moved on. It isn't fair to expect someone who missed all that to feel the same way, when they are essentially stuck in stasis still waiting for their 20s to happen.

The one positive thing here is, at 30, you can still pass for younger and hang out with people in their mid-late 20s without it looking too "creepy" yet. That's not an option for me, but if I were you, I'd be angling for a slightly younger crowd closer to your life experience level.

Most of the people in my age group are, frankly, way too old for me to want to be around. They have the usual tired been there/done that mentality about them, because, well, they have been there and done it, and I guess they don't want a repeat screening of their youth. That doesn't work for me though. Not interested in a relationship with a middle aged woman either, who would have 20+ years of relationship experience, might just be settling, so we can spend the dull part of life together.

But at 30 you still have some time, and I hope you get the point here that you need to get on to this quickly. Whatever you do, don't go near reddit for advice.
 
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I was not going to return to this thread, but now I have to because NO ONE should be publicly shamed like that. So what if he posts pictures. So what if you don't like his shower curtain. He doesn't deserve to be treated like that and I'll be damned if I don't say something about it. Stop trying to bully people on a forum where the people already have issues. Are you not aware of what that **** can do to a person that has depression and anxiety? Seriously, just **** off.
 
I was not going to return to this thread, but now I have to because NO ONE should be publicly shamed like that. So what if he posts pictures. So what if you don't like his shower curtain. He doesn't deserve to be treated like that and I'll be damned if I don't say something about it. Stop trying to bully people on a forum where the people already have issues. Are you not aware of what that **** can do to a person that has depression and anxiety? Seriously, just **** off.
Oh no it's the woke police again you obviously didn't read the whole thread, your such a lady just jog on
 
Oh no it's the woke police again you obviously didn't read the whole thread, your such a lady just jog on
Take a chill pill bro, do you even realise how ridiculous this sentence is....


as for these kinds of threads, they always make me a tad sad. I don't know what the experience is for well, lonely guys...but I wish they'd keep hope. I never got the hyperfixation of being a virgin though and wanting to change that. In my experience there are a lot of people available.
I'd say, dont focus too much on losing your virginity, but focus on yourself. Build up your confidence, go join a club where you can ORGANICALLY meet peeps, or try dating apps etc...
 
Oh no it's the woke police again you obviously didn't read the whole thread, your such a lady just jog on
Don't pay attention to her, she's always trying to one-up someone, calls the kettle black a lot, and always has something to say that has nothing to do with herself. If we say anything, it's wrong, but it's okay for her to say the exact same thing in a different way. Manipulation at its finest, but she won't win with us, as we're too wise to her, while others are blinded by her.
 
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You look like a normal guy, but are desperately trying to fit in. It's one thing to try and another to try too hard. Be natural and things will flow into place.
 
Oh no it's the woke police again you obviously didn't read the whole thread, your such a lady just jog on
Don't pay attention to her, she's always trying to one-up someone, calls the kettle black a lot, and always has something to say that has nothing to do with herself. If we say anything, it's wrong, but it's okay for her to say the exact same thing in a different way. Manipulation at its finest, but she won't win with us, as we're too wise to her, while others are blinded by her.
 
Take a chill pill bro, do you even realise how ridiculous this sentence is....


as for these kinds of threads, they always make me a tad sad. I don't know what the experience is for well, lonely guys...but I wish they'd keep hope. I never got the hyperfixation of being a virgin though and wanting to change that. In my experience there are a lot of people available.
I'd say, dont focus too much on losing your virginity, but focus on yourself. Build up your confidence, go join a club where you can ORGANICALLY meet peeps, or try dating apps etc...
You wouldn't understand it your Dutch
 

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