i donno how much longer i can go on:(

[Carnosaur]

hey i'm matt. i'm 17 and from New zealand. I don't have any freinds, i dont leave the house much and i never had a GF. i am very lonley and depressed. till recently i played games to help me forget about it. but i am bored of games... and i just been thinking of girls and depression more and more.I need a GF i really just wanna care for one. what do i do i need help

 

[keeper]

Hi and welcome, Matt!
I've been there too. First of all I think you should go out a little more, maybe join a group, in order to meet some people. Hold tight! Good luck!

 

[Carnosaur]

i think i need love

 

[joeynicdao]

You definitely need to get out more, you need to become happy, and maybe you should focus on friends first.

 

[Carnosaur]

i kno... i really need to make freinds and stuff

 

[lonelygirl]

Hi Carno.

What's life like in New Zealand? I am from America and I wish I could move there!

Love isn't all it's cracked up to be. Love can really hurt worse than loneliness. Because if you give your heart to someone, and they break it and throw it on the floor, then you feel worse than just being alone!

What are your interests? What do you study in school? What do you like? Movies? Foods? Video Games? Travels?

 

[kimberleykat]

so Matt,you feel lonely,for the most part,romantically?
But its not always roses in love you know, and relationship is usually the cause of loneliness and depression and any kind of down feeling...I was always seeking and expecting some one to care for me..but till one day things started to get "better" a little bit, I regretted for all that I'd been wishing for. I think I am better off on my own for quite a while before I find "the one",which I don't expect any positive outcome in years...I am kinda cursed..in terms of relationship...

 

[Taiga Colt]

I am afraid that girlfriends can't be purchased at a shop or found easily - unless you look in the right places with the right attitude.

I am in no position to tell you what the girls of new zealand want and how you can offer it to them but I will tell you that the first you need to do is try and understand yourself, if you can do that you will be able to see the good sides to your character and these are what you need to be able to show a person.

Also, and I really don't mean to sound harch but you have to stop looking at a girlfriend as a solution to your problem. Loneliness is not the absence of people in your life but the absence of connections with them. Even if you do go out you may find yourself surrounded by people and still feel alone. Focus on finding people with similar interests that you can build a connection, you can connect over anything and once you have come this far things will naturally evolve and occur.

 

[Steel]

I very much doubt Matt will ever read these comments, as he posted them 3 years ago...

 

[Badjedidude]

What's with everybody resurrecting ancient threads lately?

Lol like Steel said, the last post in this thread was in 2007.

Let it die peacefully and naturally, people! ^_^

----Steve

 

[yesm]

lolz lol... 2007, original poster may not even be around here anymore heh. oh well. sometimes i think it's funny to bring back an old dead thread lol

 

[Taiga Colt]

Gotta admit I didn't noticw the original date, should pay more attention. Hopefully it won't be a total waste and someone will find it useful. Saw the original isn't the only one with this problem