I Have a Date And Now I'm Nervous And Other Random Mutterings

[SofiasMami]

I met a guy online (eharmony) and now we're supposed to meet on Wednesday at Starbucks. What the hell am I supposed to talk about?! Maybe the fact that I've been on like two dates in the past 5 years, yeah, I'm sure that'll be a big turn on - lol.
It will be nice to talk to an adult and to be talking about any other subject besides Dora the Explorer and Barbie princesses.
Wish me luck - We'll see how it goes - he sounds very....eager.

Teresa

 

[Badjedidude]

CONGRATS!!!

be safe and good luck!

 

[tehdreamer]

Ask him a lot of questions and get him talking about his life. Then when you find something you have in common, talk more about that.

Good luck and congrats

 

[Samuel Lonewolf]

You don't need luck. If anything, he should be nervous around you.

 

[Brian]

Teresa, you go girl!

As you know I've been equally nervous and anxious about my own recent developments, so I think I can relate. All I can say is don't be afraid to let your trepidation turn in to excitement. I was nervous tonight, but I let it turn in to excitement and it went very well.

Just ask basic questions about his life. His goals or recent objectives. What does he like to do and -how- did he get in to those hobbies? I find that's a good one; asking each other how they picked up their pastimes.

Make sure to smile genuinely and give him a little laugh where it's appropriate. That lets me know I'm not boring a girl to death and I imagine it will work for him, too (assuming you are in to him when you meet!).

Coffee is the perfect first date, keep that in mind; if things go awesome, you can go for a walk after, or just have a sit outside. If things go poorly and it gets awkward or uncomfortable with no hope of return, you can always drink faster and politely excuse yourself.

 

[edgecrusher]

good luck and let us know how it goes.

 

[lomojojo]

Good luck. I hope it goes well for you ^^ yeah let us know

 

[Nina]

SofiasMami--
Excellent!! You'll do fine, just relax and ask questions like Dreamer said. Also if he knows you have a child you can relate cute moments to him about her as well. Good luck on this and ENJOY!!

 

[cheaptrickfan]

Oh, yay! Have fun. I like that first coffee date. The getting to know you stage can be interesting. I usually use that time to see if we have any interests in common. If we don't, then sometimes his experiences/interests are sufficiently, um, interesting to get him to talk about. I like to get the other person talking and comfortable.

Best of luck.

 

[SofiasMami]

Hey, great tips everyone. Maybe I should take a little cheat sheet with me!!
Yeah, will post on how it goes. He'd better not flake!!!

Teresa

 

[Brian]

I await with baited breath. I hope it goes well

 

[SofiasMami]

Hi-
It went swimmingly. He lives 45-60 minutes away so I was glad he drove to my neck of the woods, he definitely gets points for that. He was there when I got to Starbucks, I got out of the car, his eyes got big and he said "hey, you're cute!" Then I turned beet red and said "thanks!"
And I was trying to remember my ALL tips for conversation on the way to meeting him -lol. I thought it went well, we'll see where things go!
So if a big old dweeb like me can manage not to fall completely on her face, I guess there's hope for everyone here too

Teresa

 

[lomojojo]

I'm glad to hear it went well Teresa, hopefully things will get where you want them to.