I thought this article might help.

[Alonewith2cats]

http://www.davidbothered.com/?p=54

I thought this article might help some of you to understand that what you are feeling is natural and certainly nothing to feel embarrassed or ashamed of. According to this article it is against our natural mammalian instincts to believe that we can overcome the drive to connect with others and learn to be content solitary creatures. Did you know that a lot of people would rather admit to having an STD than admit to being lonely, a natural condition like being hungry or thirsty? What causes this kind of backward, screwed up thinking in our society?

Anyway feel free to agree or disagree with this article and post your thoughts. I personally believe there is nothing wrong with living alone. After all it gives you the freedom to be in control of your own home, your sanctuary. Just as long as you have an active social life that includes friends, family, connections and you are free to leave your home to visit people and/or invite them over. This is what I'm trying to work on, making connections. My friends are not always available and most of my family does not live here in San Diego.

 

[Veruca]

Hey Alonewith2cats, great article, thanks for sharing. I couldn't agree more. Humans are indeed social creatures. For awhile there I tried to convince myself that being alone would be equally meaningful, but with time I realized that without close bonds with someone be it family, friend or romantic partner, there will always be something missing.

I guess there are exceptions to the rule. Some enlightened people seem to have mastered the art of being content without relationships, but I am not that advanced yet

 

[Tiina63]

Brilliant article. Thank you for the link. I have had people telling me to be happy and fulfilled totally alone, but I can't do it. Almost all of us need someone to share our life with. As Veruca says, there are exceptions to the rule, but I am not one of them.
As you said, in our society it has become shameful to admit to loneliness. We are supposed to be independent, to not have any emotional needs on display, to be so strong all the time. It is like a straitjacket. We present a strong image to the world, but are crying inside.