I want to stop looking at ****ography.

[Azariah]

**** is so widespread today and it's no surprise since we live in a *** obsessed generation. *** is all over the place. You see it on the TV screen, hear about it in music, browse through it on the internet. We're brainwashed to think that it's normal to have *** just for fun. No emotional attachment involved. People would betray their boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, all because they crave ***. They don't see the consequences of it. Broken relationships, unwanted pregnancies, STD's, and not to mention your reputation.

Now that's ***, not ****. So where does **** come in? Well, **** is what fuels people's lust for ***. And when I say *** I'm not just talking about sexual intercourse. I'm talking about the fascination with ***.

As a **** addict I see how **** has affected me negatively firsthand. I've wasted countless hours just searching for images that would excite my mind. And after reaching orgasm I'm done. It's what? 4, 5, 6 in the morning. No sleep. I have work in a few hours. I've lost self-control. A slave to my lust.

Of course, there are many times when I've tried to break free before. I tell myself, "Delete all those files you downloaded. Clear your web history. Stay away from the computer"... only to have another relapse.

I can also say that the women I used to look at years ago are ugly compared to the ones I see now. My taste in women have changed or the Devil just tempts me with prettier women as my addiction grows.

It has also affected me when I'm just out in public, say, going to the mall for example. I see a woman and already I've classified her as someone hot or not. Would I "tap" that or would I "pass"? What body parts does she have that look sexually appealing?
I know it's not right and I struggle with that tendency sometimes. I tell myself to look the other way or not in her direction because I feel like a pervert viewing these women as objects rather than people with lives of their own

There's nothing clean about ****ography...


...no matter the degree. Weather it be bikini models to force fantasy **** to whatever other sick degrading material. It will all lead to something worse.

I've had many steps in trying to break free from my addiction. Small steps. And I've stumbled many times. My giant leap would have to begin by trashing this computer.

It's a tough fight.

But I'm not about to lose.

 

[kamya]

Could it be that you dont have anything else to fill the time so you just always turn to ****?  **** has never really done much for me because of how fake it is. I just cant get into it. Some amateur stuff maybe.

What else are you doing to fill the time with? I know that the busier i am the less i end up masturbating period. **** or no.

 

[ardour]

Probably a good thing. Not wanting to sound self-righteous, but your conscience will feel a lot better. A lot of **** is made under dubious circumstances, and it's so obviously fake along with humiliating.

You can stay up doing something that at least won't make you feel like garbage.

 

[LaoDing]

I haven't looked at **** for ten years. Lots of messed up unhealthy things about it for everyone that have nothing to do with religious morality and all that. **** was always depressing for me but it got worse. But what really helped me was watching documentaries on the lives of people involved in making ****, especially the women of course but the men as well. I for sure didn't want to contribute to that anymore, and you know, those free clicks make big money for the producers of it.
Also, aren't the images on those thumbnails in Internet **** just way too much? A guaranteed downer. When you seek **** images on the net I imagine the person has an ideal for what he or she wants to see but is inadvertently exposed to a lot of dehumanizing stuff whether they wanted to see it or not. Doesn't make you feel too good about yourself, needless to say.
I wouldn't say that staying clear of **** has increased my libido, but it sure has made my sexuality and feelings toward women much, much healthier. I don't nowhere near the lust burden I had before and I can talk to women without imagining them naked. Cuz **** did that to me- unwanted images of people.
As a lonely person obviously I haven't had much romance in the last ten years, after my divorce. But I had a girlfriend for a year (I've dated too), a couple of years ago, and although sadly it didn't work out, it was the best sexual relationship of my life. Go for real live people for sure! And be nice. That's my preaching. lol

 

[DanMann]

I know a trick about addiction. But I am not sure if you relapse.

Try to substitute it for something else. Buy a few **** magazine.

Get addicted to the magazines only.

Once addicted, try to shake off that addiction, by coming back to watching ****.

Do the process again until you are 50% and 50% addicted to both.

Then, shift back to the magazines. This time however, buy soft core magazines.

Stick to the soft core magazines for a while (it can be a fetish or any other niche magazine).

It is a method that I developed.. and it worked for me to get rid of the caffeine addiction that I had for 10 years.

Substitution of one addiction for another mild one. Both addiction need to be a bit similar.

Over time, deal of getting rid of the mild addiction.

What do you think? tell me if has worked?

 

[Xpendable]

I agree. Constant distraction can alleviate the urge. Like a big task or hobby that requires a lot of time but also brings passion to you.

 

[DanMann]

There are professionals who deal with such kind of addictions.

Also, have you tried to look for a solution at the internet?

 

[TheRealCallie]

Is there anyone you trust enough to go in and block the **** sites you go to? Or maybe set it by content, so anything X would get censored? There must be easier ways than trashing the computer. But yes, find something else to occupy your time. Don't sit down at the computer, get up and do something. Exercise, go out, take a walk, just do something to get away from the temptation.

 

[Azariah]

Could it be that you dont have anything else to fill the time so you just always turn to ****?  **** has never really done much for me because of how fake it is. I just cant get into it. Some amateur stuff maybe.

What else are you doing to fill the time with? I know that the busier i am the less i end up masturbating period. **** or no.

I had a lot of things but when you're hooked you don't realize that. I had videogames too before but that became an addiction too. I dropped **** and videogames. Now I have this forum hopefully it doesn't become an addiction or else I'll drop it too. But I'm trying to pick up the guitar, trying to get better at drawing, and I want to buy a harmonica. Sometimes during the day I go to the beach and just sit and think and watch people, I try not to look at hot girls in bikinis though. I might start to pick up other things as well little by little like reading or cooking...

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I haven't looked at **** for ten years. Lots of messed up unhealthy things about it for everyone that have nothing to do with religious morality and all that. **** was always depressing for me but it got worse. But what really helped me was watching documentaries on the lives of people involved in making ****, especially the women of course but the men as well. I for sure didn't want to contribute to that anymore, and you know, those free clicks make big money for the producers of it.
Also, aren't the images on those thumbnails in Internet **** just way too much? A guaranteed downer. When you seek **** images on the net I imagine the person has an ideal for what he or she wants to see but is inadvertently exposed to a lot of dehumanizing stuff whether they wanted to see it or not. Doesn't make you feel too good about yourself, needless to say.
I wouldn't say that staying clear of **** has increased my libido, but it sure has made my sexuality and feelings toward women much, much healthier. I don't nowhere near the lust burden I had before and I can talk to women without imagining them naked. Cuz **** did that to me- unwanted images of people.
As a lonely person obviously I haven't had much romance in the last ten years, after my divorce. But I had a girlfriend for a year (I've dated too), a couple of years ago, and although sadly it didn't work out, it was the best sexual relationship of my life. Go for real live people for sure! And be nice. That's my preaching. lol

 Ten years! Wow. I hope to reach that milestone and beyond too.

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I know a trick about addiction. But I am not sure if you relapse.

Try to substitute it for something else. Buy a few **** magazine.

Get addicted to the magazines only.

Once addicted, try to shake off that addiction, by coming back to watching ****.

Do the process again until you are 50% and 50% addicted to both.

Then, shift back to the magazines. This time however, buy soft core magazines.

Stick to the soft core magazines for a while (it can be a fetish or any other niche magazine).

It is a method that I developed.. and it worked for me to get rid of the caffeine addiction that I had for 10 years.

Substitution of one addiction for another mild one. Both addiction need to be a bit similar.

Over time, deal of getting rid of the mild addiction.

What do you think? tell me if has worked?

Nah, man. I can't do that. I just deleted the last **** file on my phone today. Before I told myself, "use the vid for emergency purposes only." But I haven't had the urge to watch the vid since sunday. And I don't think I want too see it. If I can go 100% clean Then I'll go a 100% clean.

 

[Azariah]

Is there anyone you trust enough to go in and block the **** sites you go to?  Or maybe set it by content, so anything X would get censored?  There must be easier ways than trashing the computer.  But yes, find something else to occupy your time.  Don't sit down at the computer, get up and do something.  Exercise, go out, take a walk, just do something to get away from the temptation.

My iPhone is restricted, I actually confided to a friend and asked him to put a pass code to restrict my phone. I don't think he'll tell me the pass code. Ever. And I'm not too desperate to ask him for the code.

I said I was going to trash the computer. I thought breaking this laptops' battery would've done the job. I soaked the battery in water but found out my laptop still works if I plug it. I swear if I get a relapse I'll cut the power cord.

During the day, when I'm not working and idle I go down to the beach.

 

[DanMann]

Is there anyone you trust enough to go in and block the **** sites you go to?  Or maybe set it by content, so anything X would get censored?  There must be easier ways than trashing the computer.  But yes, find something else to occupy your time.  Don't sit down at the computer, get up and do something.  Exercise, go out, take a walk, just do something to get away from the temptation.

My iPhone is restricted, I actually confided to a friend and asked him to put a pass code to restrict my phone. I don't think he'll tell me the pass code. Ever. And I'm not too desperate to ask him for the code.

I said I was going to trash the computer. I thought breaking this laptops' battery would've done the job. I soaked the battery in water but found out my laptop still works if I plug it. I swear if I get a relapse I'll cut the power cord.

During the day, when I'm not working and idle I go down to the beach.

You are doing the right things.
- Tell someone you have an addiction.
- Tell someone you are quitting.
- Use distraction to go down on to a beach.

Also, consider using some philosophy. Why do you want to stop using ****? Why should you be different?
Why do you think you are a better person if you dont watch ****.

Try to do something instead for a week at least. Play video games heavily.. Let your brain chemistry be very different from what it was when you were watching ****.


I used to have addictions to obsessive reading, video games, caffeine and masturbating, but I got free from them, apart from masturbating.

You need a philosophy.

 

[soresoul]

Going to the beach isn't going to help with your **** addiction. You see ladies that you can't have showing off their bodies to only tease you like a big middle finger to and your self esteem. Then you go back home thinking if those **** tease women and next thing you know unzip the pants and there goes more sperm on your computer.

Think of is this way. Better a **** addiction then drug/alcohol addiction. At least in **** your not hurting your love ones, money, or at risk killing someone on the road. I never saw once a cause of death related to **** addictions.

So cut yourself some slack. Relax, unwind, spank it and feel refresh. **** the haters.

 

[Sci-Fi]

Going to the beach isn't going to help with your **** addiction. You see ladies that you can't have showing off their bodies to only tease you like a big middle finger to and your self esteem. Then you go back home thinking if those **** tease women and next thing you know unzip the pants and there goes more sperm on your computer.

Think of is this way. Better a **** addiction then drug/alcohol addiction. At least in **** your not hurting your love ones, money, or at risk killing someone on the road. I never saw once a cause of death related to **** addictions.

So cut yourself some slack. Relax, unwind, spank it and feel refresh. **** the haters.

A little descriptive...but **** tease women? What? Women have the right to wear whatever they want to the beach as long as they aren't breaking any laws. There are men who do the exact same thing. Let's not get gender biased here you know that doesn't fly. Wow...that made my head explode, **** tease women...wow.

No one should have to worry about wearing whatever swimsuit they want because of someone who can't control themselves, woman or man. There is also a HUGE difference between going to the beach and watching ****. If a person can't go to the beach without their mind wandering towards **** then they shouldn't be going to the beach or anywhere for that matter.

 

[soresoul]

It only made your head explode because I made that reference. If it was someone else made that comment then you would let it slide but that's another story for another day. You clearly missed my whole point to my post (again) and I wasn't gender basing. But your right about one thing, both parties are guilty too.

I agree that anyone can wear whatever they want on the beach. But when it comes to a ******* point where a under age girl is wearing a thong as swimming gear just to get a reaction or the dad to look for a reason to fight someone because someone takes a second look out of a more "holy **** she's wearing that" then anything sexual thought that's when you question your parenting and dos and don'ts of what your allow your daughter to present herself to the public. I have two daughters myself, I would no way in ******* hell have them show more skin than necessary in any public setting.

The beach is borderline ****o setting. Lesser clothes is going to set a person mind off who can't control their urge. That's why I made it my first point that the beach is a bad place to get your mind off ****. Hell, jogging can be a bad place too. Many people wear tight outfits running as well. I know this since I do jog 10 miles a day.

 

[VanillaCreme]

The beach is borderline ****o setting. Lesser clothes is going to set a person mind off who can't control their urge. That's why I made it my first point that the beach is a bad place to get your mind off ****. Hell, jogging can be a bad place too. Many people wear tight outfits running as well. I know this since I do jog 10 miles a day.

The beach is not a borderline ****o setting. It's a beach. If you go to a beach and think ****o, then that's your mind going to the gutter.

 

[soresoul]

The beach is borderline ****o setting. Lesser clothes is going to set a person mind off who can't control their urge. That's why I made it my first point that the beach is a bad place to get your mind off ****. Hell, jogging can be a bad place too. Many people wear tight outfits running as well. I know this since I do jog 10 miles a day.

The beach is not a borderline ****o setting. It's a beach. If you go to a beach and think ****o, then that's your mind going to the gutter.

How is not? Let's see breast sticking out? More skin revealed? Hmm yes borderline. Not everyone will think **** automatically but it's also a trigger to the **** obsessive person who is looking for an alternative to seek refuge from it. It's like going on a diet but you still go to a fast food establishment once a day with the motivate "I'm just going to eat only one cheeseburger."

 

[Xpendable]

What about a nudist beach?

 

[TheRealCallie]

So I guess a nightclub is out of the question too? Oh and...well anywhere, what with the low cut tops and short shorts/shorts being everywhere. Can't watch TV either. Or read magazines. Sorry, you can only listen to the radio, I guess.

 

[TheSkaFish]

I agree with what others have said about making sure you're doing enough. It helps to have enough to do, that you become too busy to think about it. You might all the sudden stop and find that you haven't even thought about it in days, weeks, maybe months. Or you might find yourself more interested in what you're doing instead.

I also feel like every time that you don't give in, you will become less likely to give in next time.

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I agree that anyone can wear whatever they want on the beach. But when it comes to a ******* point where a under age girl is wearing a thong as swimming gear just to get a reaction...

I share this view too. Anyone can wear what they want, but at the same time, I do feel like there are some people who enjoy trying to get a reaction, being exhibitionists, and yes, people who enjoy teasing others.

 

[soresoul]

So I guess a nightclub is out of the question too?  Oh and...well anywhere, what with the low cut tops and short shorts/shorts being everywhere.  Can't watch TV either.  Or read magazines.  Sorry, you can only listen to the radio, I guess.

In all fairness, he never once mention a nightclub as an option to escape the **** world. And hell Jen where are  magazines at nowadays? It's a dying format. When i go to the doctors office it's nothing but tvs or plug in outlets for phones.

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I agree with what others have said about making sure you're doing enough.  It helps to have enough to do, that you become too busy to think about it.  You might all the sudden stop and find that you haven't even thought about it in days, weeks, maybe months.  Or you might find yourself more interested in what you're doing instead.

I also feel like every time that you don't give in, you will become less likely to give in next time.  

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I agree that anyone can wear whatever they want on the beach. But when it comes to a ******* point where a under age girl is wearing a thong as swimming gear just to get a reaction...

I share this view too.  Anyone can wear what they want, but at the same time, I do feel like there are some people who enjoy trying to get a reaction, being exhibitionists, and yes, people who enjoy teasing others.

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Thank you once again for backing me up to the wolves and actually seeing my point.