If you make a post in The Diary section

[painter's radio]

does this mean you don't want replies?

I mean, do you just think that what you have to say is not worthy of a thread, or are you perhaps afraid of the replies you'll get/the attention in general? Would you consider it rude to receive a PM answering or talking about something you have posted there? Sometimes I get the urge to reply to Diary posts via PM, but then remind myself that it's probably posted there for a reason.

 

[MissGuided]

does this mean you don't want replies?

Would you consider it rude to receive a PM answering or talking about something you have posted there?

That is how I have always understood it and I wouldn't think it in bad taste to send a PM, if you are so inclined. However, I would also not be offended if the author did not respond to said PM.

Guess it just depends on the person and whether or not they want to talk it out.

 

[ladyforsaken]

I usually think that the person wouldn't want to have a discussion about what they are posting about. Just wanting some listening ears maybe. It helps, in a way, when you see the number of views the diary post has.

Also, when I feel inclined to PM the poster of a diary post, I do it anyway.. hehe. If they don't want PMs or replies to it, then they wouldn't reply to my PM - and I'd understand it. I just think that by PMing them, I can put a hand out for them to reach out to, if they so need it.. kinda letting them know that I'm here, if it would mean anything.

 

[Rosebolt]

Personally, if i didn't want anyone to PM me about the diary, then i wouldn't post the diary on the forum. If you really don't want people to respond at all to it, and prefer to keep it to yourself, then do just that. Write it in some sort of private document.

Whenever i write a diary, i sort of hope people read it and check up on me. It's kind of an attention seeking thing, for me.

 

[mountainvista]

I don't think it's meant to discourage people from reaching out, rather it might be because the poster does not wish it to become a hot topic of discussion where others dissect it or turn into a thread which becomes some sort of free-for-all. If someone truly never wanted feedback on how he (or she) felt, I think he (or she) wouldn't even post in the first place.

I have never minded people reaching out. Sometimes the PM discussions that have resulted have ended up being very good for me. Hearing others' perspectives often helps me refocus my own at times. And sometimes all I need is a hug. *shrug*