If you're average or less looking like me, I suggest coming to grips with the fact you just might be alone forever. This isn't as bad of a fate as it may seem. Single life has its perks. Want to play the new videogame or binge watch the new TV show all Saturday? How about go wherever you want whenever you want on a moment's notice. You can do that single. Of course I would much rather share my life with someone else, even at the cost of personal freedom.
Anyways, average or less looking men, this is why I think you face near certain failure, unless you are willing to settle for someone even less average then you.
Hypergamy
Studies show women think 80% of men look below average. That's right. If you don't look "good" or have a 6 pack abs, your not even considered average. Your demoted to below average. And this isn't the top 20% of women being picky. This is top to bottom. That means an average looking woman tends to view another average looking man as below average, and thus, not desirable.
To put it simply, if 100 random single men were put on an island with 100 random single women, 80 women would fight over the top 20 men, leaving the other 80 guys alone to have the 20 least desirable women.
While this data is based on studies, I've seen evidence of it's reality in my life. My brother is 25. On a scale of 1-10, he is a 8 in terms of looks. He is 6'1", 185 lbs, 6 pack abs, in great shape with strong arms and a nice face. A great catch. Women approach him randomly in public and GIVE their number to him unsolicited. Sorry average looking guys, wish it was this easy for us.
So who is my brother dating now? A 36 year old divorced mother of 2 who is a 5 in terms of looks. She's even slightly overweight. Her desirability rating is far lower then my brother. She's older, has kids, isn't in shape like him, and doesn't look as good. Yet she's dating my brother. This is hypergamy, a very real example of it.
Now, if she breaks up with my brother in the future, do you think she will give a guy who is a 5, same as her, in terms of looks, a chance? No she thinks she deserves a 7 or 8. This is why average guys are screwed.
Looking back at my crushes and women I've inquired of I never pursued someone who was better looking then me. I consider myself to be a 5, and I've only really liked other women who were 5s or even 4s. This was probably because subconsciously I knew what my reasonable limits were. It appears women, as a whole, think they deserve better then themselves. Of course men fantasize about women who are 8s or 9s but I feel most men know they are unobtainable to them and are more then happy to settle with someone who is equal to them in terms of looks.
But that's the problem. Women who are 5s tend to not give other men who are 5s attention. The only time they do so seems to be out of desperation due to aging or needing a financial provider. If a woman who is your equal in looks dates you, it's likely she feels that she is "settling" for you.
Right now I know someone who likes me. I could ask her for her number and it would be good as mine. The problem is, I'm a 5, and she's a 2. She is over 100 lbs overweight with a below average face. As an average looking man, who is not overweight, this is the type of options available to me. Women who are 5s like me are pursuing men who are 7s or 8s.
I get attention from women who are 2s or 3s, despite me being a 5. I have never gotten serious attention from a woman who was a 5 or better. Never.
So my choice is to settle for a woman who is considerably less attractive then me, usually very obese and below average looking, or continue to be prepetually single.
So my question is for other average looking guys, has your experience been the same? Do you find women who are less attractive then you are the only ones who give you a chance?
