It's not everyone else - it's YOU.

[user 108508]

I told her that I was sorry, but that I cared enough to tell her because I didn't want her to think that people were required to want to be around her and that not many would make a point to look past the surface at what lied beneath.

Doesn't surprise me in the least, Evey-poo. I'd expect no less from you.

Good to see you post, been missing you. <3

 

[EveWasFramed]

I told her that I was sorry, but that I cared enough to tell her because I didn't want her to think that people were required to want to be around her and that not many would make a point to look past the surface at what lied beneath.

Doesn't surprise me in the least, Evey-poo. I'd expect no less from you.

Good to see you post, been missing you. <3

I've missed you too, Cookie Mistress. <3

 

[ardour]

It's a false distinction to say that nobody is being blamed here when the onus is still being put on one person to change. The message is still: "It's you". There are good and not-so-good situations to use this sort of advice.

 

[VanillaCreme]

And as for your second comment... well, I expected nothing less from the person who wrote a former member's emotional troubles off as bitterness and a need to blame others. Simply repugnant. You can tell yourself you're practicing brutal honesty, but you possess neither empathy nor kindness.

What do you know of Callie to say these things to her? The woman is the most honest person I know and for that I admire her. I don't want her to start being insulted again because you know there are some people out there that just love to see her put down by comments like this. Try going after me and leave her alone.

What doe she know of me to make those remarks? Hmm? Also, I invite you to dispense with the idea that people love to see her get put down. There's a fine line between verbally tearing someone apart and just responding in kind. You can't expect one person to always take the higher ground.

I asked for things not to be started and to move on. Last warning.

 

[EveWasFramed]

It's a false distinction to say that nobody is being blamed here when the onus is still being put on one person to change. The message is still: "It's you". There are good and not-so-good situations to use this sort of advice.

No it's not a false distinction. I wasnt assigning blame. The situation is what it is. There doesn't always have to be fault or blame.

 

[BeyondShy]

No it's not a false distinction. I wasnt assigning blame. The situation is what it is. There doesn't always have to be fault or blame.

That's true. You made an educated observation when you had that conversation with that woman. You didn't say this-and-this was her fault and you did not place blame. You gave your opinion on what you observed and that was that. If people can't see that then I don't know what to say.