Just Curious..

[ExtensivexLDL]

It's been a while since I joined this site and I've made a fair number of posts and started a fair number of threads, but haven't gotten a single reputation point yet.
What do people think of me? (just solely judging from my what I had to write I mean, as I almost never go into the chat and I haven't PMed anyone).
I'm not really desperate for others' acceptance or whatever, just curious as to what others can tell what I'm like solely from my posts.

You can keep it as brief as you wish and if it's not something really pleasant, then so be it, I'm willing to listen and take note.

Ok, if anyone wants to add a comment, go right ahead.

 

[jasmin]

I like some of the same bands as you I haven't really spoken to you, pm if you get the chance.

 

[Caesium]

I don't know you very well, but you seem ok...sort of. I mean, I've met worse people than you.

 

[ExtensivexLDL]

I don't know you very well, but you seem ok...sort of. I mean, I've met worse people than you.

Tss.. well thanks for that..i guess..You're not the worst person I've ever encountered either.. (No really, I'm serious )

 

[Brian]

It's just one of those seldom thought of forum features. Every board has one

There's only a few people on here that I've formed solid opinions about. But, I'm basically the same age as you (Im 21) and you seem smart for our age. From what I've seen in your past threads you go through a lot of the same issues I do. Feelings of singularity regarding your dating status, feeling 'old', etc. But then I think that's why a lot of us are here. Just a hunch. =P

I think sometimes that you react disproportionately in regard to your age since there are people much older who still suffer from the same dating problems. My fear isn't so much not being able to get a girlfriend this week. There's still a semi-considerable group of people our age who have that problem. Personally, my fear is ending up like the middle aged guy on the 'Incel Project' videos. 40 and dateless. Because at that point it seems so terminal; right now its still fixable with considerable effort.

I get the impression you're in sort of a hurry. But, again, I can sympathize. Or maybe I'm just getting the wrong impression.

Overall I like ya.

 

[ExtensivexLDL]

heheh.. thanks

it's alright, there's not much to worry about anymore.. my predicament makes complete sense when you consider the aspect that I've been a loser for the last 7 years.. OF COURSE I've never been kissed or kissed a girl... OF COURSE I've never even really asked anyone out yet or been on a date... I'm not really worried anymore.. I used to be really down concerning the reality of online dating, for instance, but now it's probably the medium which will offer me the greatest chance of striking gold.. real life is just too random and there's no guarantee for success in ANYTHING, particularly this... regardless of who you are, WHERE you are or what you do in the majority of your time...

 

[ExtensivexLDL]

i mean, i think it gets a lot harder finding someone in real life after you're done high school.. the world is just a WHOLE F***ing lot bigger.

 

[Brian]

Well thats good to hear you've taken the time to think further on it all. School does provide that shared medium everyone in it has in common and so, despite high school's failtastic social atmosphere and selection of personalities, you still have more of an appropriate window to talk to girls.

And you're right I think. Get out in the real world and you have to work at it to find that window. Everyone's got their own thing. Unless you're joining an organization of some sort, you have to present yourself as someone they want to be a part of their 'thing', or they'll just keep about their routine.

As far as online dating goes, to go a bit off topic...I've tried OKCupid and Craigslist. OKC I had a couple of responses and almost got a date out of one. Then she stopped responding after New Years. My abilities as an Internet Super Sleuth led me to her MySpace page where I promptly discovered she had hooked up right before New Years with some fat redneck type guy who has a beer in just about every picture. Ironically, he too is a firefighter. I hesitate to give him that title but it's the only way to convey the situation. And he's with a district I was almost right next to so chances are I would have seen him after not too long.

How dumb is that?

Then his failness was properly demonstrated with pictures of her masquerading in his fire coat. When a professional realizes you don't take your gear home to your family or put it on them because you are introducing them to some pretty nasty toxins. But that's a whole 'nother topic. Long story short, I was passed over for a drunkard joke who shames the profession we both work in. There is another gal I'm talking to on OKC right now, off and on. She seems somewhat similar to myself at least.

Craigslist has largely been hit or miss, mostly miss. But I tried a different approach and decided to post to 'Strictly Platonic' to see if I can't just find a female friend to attend theater events and jazz concerts with. Just some company you know? I figure that's a step in the right direction. And so far I have two prospects that could work out, one of which is only 20 miles away. Hopefully we'll meet soon.


At any rate, I recommend those two venues to start out with, personally. Besides, they're free in the truest sense of the word. If nothing else, I've found a slight improvement in my anxiety speaking to females in real life.

 

[ExtensivexLDL]

That's cool.. So far I'm signed-up to shysinglescrowd.com and I'm getting a fair bit of emails from girls.. The only things are 1. I can't read their emails because i don't want to upgrade my membership since that would mean paying 2. They all live in different provinces and 3. They're all like 5/6 years older than me anyway AT LEAST, and I'm not that kind of guy .. Generally, I'm not really sure when I'll have a fair bit of time to pursue the online-dating aspiration since I'm busy with school most of the time, but I'll probably give other sites (probably the ones you mentioned) a try sometime in the future. The only thing that would suck that would be paying for this honeysuckle (but as far as I know, like 90 or so percent of dating sites aren't free so I guess too bad with that)..

And I can understand what you said about about that girl settling in for the drunken moron..As far as I'm aware a lot of girls make this mistake of jumping into relationships just because they want to have someone and then they're the ones who come out brokenhearted because they find out that their "dream guy" actually keeps a whole closet of female friends he casually sleeps around with/ or would rather spend time leveling up video game characters, buying booze, blowing his money at casinos, strip clubs, sports memorabilia/cars, etc...
But then again..Myspace/facebook pictures tell only a small portion of what the person in question is like so you may be wrong perhaps..who knows..(but in regards to him violating safety protocol, he probably is a little stupid to say the least)..

Too bad.. it seems a little pathetic to be talking about dating websites when you're surrounded by females a lot of the time but such is life (well MY life) at least..

... And by the way (slighly off-topic) I've thoroughly checked out sites like www.succeedsocially.com and www.datinggroundwork.com. You might want to take a look if you haven't and you're interested.

 

[wolfshadow]

ExtensivexLDL - kudos to you for having the guts to ask a question like this! Not only has it impressed me on account of it's bravery but it has also put my mind at rest. I get very disheartened, in a short space of time, if I feel as if I'm not making an impression of some sort. The initial feedback in this thread has helped remind me that silence or indifference don't nessacarily translate to active dislike.

 

[ExtensivexLDL]

ExtensivexLDL - kudos to you for having the guts to ask a question like this! Not only has it impressed me on account of it's bravery but it has also put my mind at rest. I get very disheartened, in a short space of time, if I feel as if I'm not making an impression of some sort. The initial feedback in this thread has helped remind me that silence or indifference don't nessacarily translate to active dislike.

Glad to be of help.. in this very INDIRECT WAY lol

 

[Punisher]

I loved your post In the Punisher thread

 

[ExtensivexLDL]

the Punisher thread was awesome.. just like Punisher..heh