Oh Naizo, there will be people who are deffo trying to attack you over your opinions, happens to me everyday lol But don't worry, you are safe with me lol I think thats the issue, is that sometimes a question is looked at like a massive attack, but I cant understand how I am meant to see someone else's perspective if I don't ask questions.
Thanks for taking the time to answer the question
Sometimes people can't necessarily act on what they don't perceive just as much as they may act on what they do perceive if that makes any sense. Sometimes it's enough that we don't recognize that someone is asking a question with earnest intention. We're all so defensive of ourselves, our individuality and personality that it can feel like an attack to hear something we don't agree with at first glance, second, or third. And so our body creates hormones that make us feel certain ways about certain things, leaning our opinion one way or another. I believe in free will, but I also believe that we are animals, with copious amounts of trigger mechanisms. I wouldn't be as able to step back as I am and observe myself, if I hadn't myself been in a situation as such enough times to feel like I had been actively hurting people by being derisive or destructive with my words. We build callouses on our souls so we can help the next generation live a better life by helping them to circumnavigate our own mistakes while allowing them to make their own without destroying their sense of adventure and wonder in the process. Such is the power of humanity+time. We are... Batman.
But even when you're calm, if someone does happen to come at you with aggravated nature it can become even harder to maintain composure, perhaps in part due to the body creating chemicals that put us on edge, a form of fight or flight. Often it can be easier to shy away from confrontation, even if you believe your correct and the more "powerful" personality could be harmful to others. We can't blame ourselves, even when we misstep, but instead try to always build a foundation of experience, like learning any skill.
I wonder if perhaps that fight or flight mechanism, in a more social setting, could explain in part why when in heated discussion, some people, myself at many times in the past for example, may subconsciously feel like conceding, in some primal way, equates to becoming dinner, and thus will actively become more and more defensive or aggravated as they lose sight of what they're really talking about. A form of fighting for their life they don't even realize they're engaging in. Could be people don't have as many anger problems as they think, but an entirely different issue, the fear of becoming dinner if they aren't bigger, more powerful, in size or tone. Modern society makes much of what makes us as animals tick, redundant or vestigial. Which is a big part of why it's my opinion that society does not equate to real life in any way shape or form. It's a tool, like a phone. We use it, it provides safety. It should not dictate our value. The only power anyone or anything can have over you, is that which you allow them. We allow society. We give up certain freedoms in exchange for collectiveness and safety. That does not make it necessary or imperative, or all that important.