Silvernight
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LazzarusB said:4) Everything is great, he seems perfect... He's already taken.
I just can't seem to win at this relationship thing. Everyone always says "Don't worry about it, you're young, you've got plenty of time to find someone". But I can't even find a decent (or even sane) guy, let alone "Mr Right". What makes it worse is that some of my friends are already settling down, getting engaged, having kids... I just feel so behind.
It's not just me, right?
This. No guy I like is ever available or even pays the slightest bit of attention to me. It's really not just you. If it's any consolation, I'm 27 but never been in a relationship. It doesn't seem that I stand a chance of ever being good enough for anyone. I'm okay-looking, but not stunningly pretty. I'm also short (a little over 5 feet) and although it never bothered me personally, maybe that is also sort of a turn-off. There's a buttload of pretty girls/women in my country, pretty much every foreigner agrees with that, it's hard to compete. My (probably former) best friend is also married, we rarely ever meet and when she eventually has kids, rarely will become never. Hope never dies I guess, but I pretty much resigned myself to the fact that I'm just not attractive to guys. It seems that just being yourself (not that I disagree with this bit of advice) does not always cut it. I try not to get in a serious funk over this stuff, I know it won't get me anywhere, so I just smile, laugh when I'm in public and carry on. But it's still hard, humans are simply not meant to be lonely.