New Member from NY

[IThinkIGetItNow2023]

Hi everyone,

I'm a man in his early 60s who has lived a very easy life, yet I feel alone. Everything has always been take care for me. This has made me weak, and reliant on others!

I found this website after searching the term "valued and loved" in google! I have type of eating disorder, (sugar and carbs), and I realized I binge on processed foods because I don't feel valued or loved, and that was the reason for the search. Knowing that this void in my life brings upon unwanted dietary behavior is an eye opener. I can move forward from here!

I also am in a marriage where I feel neglected and unloved! It's a real struggle! Oddly enough, my brother (who passed away last year), told me during our last get together that I was a neglected baby. Maybe this has something to do with my nature. I know it opens the door to self pity. And I don't want to give in to that again! I want to move forward in a strong confident manner.

I left a very good paying job late last year, because I could see the hard work I was doing went unnoticed. I felt a certain woman was giving me a hard time because I am am an, and she would have wanted a woman in my role. If I was or wasn't right about that, I do now that woman was incompetent, and I can't have my reputation destroyed by someone like that. I have mixed emotions. Part of me thinks I made the right decision by leaving, and the other part of me feels it was a dumb move.

Here I am, unloved, unemployed, and wanting to rise above.

 

[Kar]

Welcome! Good luck as you strive to improve yourself and rise above!

 

[Rohini]

Welcome!!

 

[Unsigned]

Hi and welcome.
Glad to see a fellow NYer here!

 

[okidoke]

Welcome to the forum and thanks for sharing your situation. Know that for things to change in your life, you need to be the change. You can improve most things in your life if you really want to. Enjoy the forums.

 

[Butterfly 2]

Welcome to the forum! Just by some of the things you have shared with us, I know you will find people who have situations similar to yours. I wish you well.

 

[Finished]

Welcome to the site. Sometimes you just got to leave your job before it wrecks your brain.

 

[IThinkIGetItNow2023]

Thank you everyone for the warm welcome. I very much appreciate it.

 

[IThinkIGetItNow2023]

Welcome! Good luck as you strive to improve yourself and rise above!

Thanks. I keep on trying. But life's problems keep on repeating themselves.

 

[okidoke]

Thanks. I keep on trying. But life's problems keep on repeating themselves.

If they repeat in a negative way, then it’s time to change tact.

 

[IThinkIGetItNow2023]

Welcome to the site. Sometimes you just got to leave your job before it wrecks your brain.

This job was not bad. The pay was great. And for my age, that means a lot.

But it was just that one woman who ruined everything for me!!! She was making me look bad, even though I was working hard. She was incompetent!

Then I asked myself, why did I put up with all the abuse at past jobs, when they clearly did not like me! Why didn't I just give them what they wanted, and leave! They clearly wanted me out of the picture.

So I left this time. And believe me, I have a very good work ethic, and I believe my work is good.

What can I say, many people just don't like me! And perhaps that's a good thing.

 

[IThinkIGetItNow2023]

Welcome to the forum! Just by some of the things you have shared with us, I know you will find people who have situations similar to yours. I wish you well.

If they repeat in a negative way, then it’s time to change tact.

Yes, I agree. But I try. I really do try!

 

[okidoke]

Yes, I agree. But I try. I really do try!

That’s great. You might get more ideas on this forum. Never stop trying to better your life.

 

[IThinkIGetItNow2023]

That’s great. You might get more ideas on this forum. Never stop trying to better your life.

Thank you! I'm older now. But I still try. And many times those efforts bloom into fruitful outcomes.

 

[Forgottendanfan]

Hi everyone,

I'm a man in his early 60s who has lived a very easy life, yet I feel alone. Everything has always been take care for me. This has made me weak, and reliant on others!

I found this website after searching the term "valued and loved" in google! I have type of eating disorder, (sugar and carbs), and I realized I binge on processed foods because I don't feel valued or loved, and that was the reason for the search. Knowing that this void in my life brings upon unwanted dietary behavior is an eye opener. I can move forward from here!

I also am in a marriage where I feel neglected and unloved! It's a real struggle! Oddly enough, my brother (who passed away last year), told me during our last get together that I was a neglected baby. Maybe this has something to do with my nature. I know it opens the door to self pity. And I don't want to give in to that again! I want to move forward in a strong confident manner.

I left a very good paying job late last year, because I could see the hard work I was doing went unnoticed. I felt a certain woman was giving me a hard time because I am am an, and she would have wanted a woman in my role. If I was or wasn't right about that, I do now that woman was incompetent, and I can't have my reputation destroyed by someone like that. I have mixed emotions. Part of me thinks I made the right decision by leaving, and the other part of me feels it was a dumb move.

Here I am, unloved, unemployed, and wanting to rise above.

Hello and welcome, from England, U.K.

 

[Murakami_1]

Hi, even though you say you had a ''easy'' life, you very much sound like you aren't having it easy. The thing your brother said just shows it's never just black and white.

Hopefully you'll find a job where you are appreciated. I can better say, i hope you just get appreciated.

Anyway, a warm welcome

 

[IThinkIGetItNow2023]

Hello and welcome, from England, U.K.

Thank you!!

 

[IThinkIGetItNow2023]

Hi, even though you say you had a ''easy'' life, you very much sound like you aren't having it easy. The thing your brother said just shows it's never just black and white.

Hopefully you'll find a job where you are appreciated. I can better say, i hope you just get appreciated.

Anyway, a warm welcome

Thank you so much!
I really want to work again. The job search has been grueling.