No good deed ever goes un-punished

[A new life]

Now and then I slip up and try to
"do the right thing"
"do unto others"
"be the change I want to see in the world"
And it bites me in the ass every time.
I always end up wishing that I had been as hard, cold, and uncareing
as those who did nothing.

I'm beginning to think that
"do the right thing"
"do unto others"
"be the change you want to see in the world"
is just somebody's idea of a sadistic joke.

Comments?

*****EDIT*****
Today I read an article by a psychiatrist who said that
doing good deeds is a narcissistic "rescue fantasy"
I can't help but think that he's right.

 

[SophiaGrace]

You can be nice, just, you have to stand-up for yourself and not let people walk over you. Sometimes people mistake niceness for weakness.

 

[A new life]

You can be nice, just, you have to stand-up for yourself and not let people walk over you. Sometimes people mistake niceness for weakness.

May their Karma run over their dogma.
Then back up and do it again!

 

[Ladysphinx]

I know what you mean, but I'm the type of person that can't help doing good to others. Sometimes I don't know why I even try but then I can imagine being one of those selfish ppl, it's just not who I am.

 

[edgecrusher]

if i had to guess i would say that there is no such thing as kharma. i think that if you can do something that screws someone over but benefits you and never tell anyone about it, there wont be some force in the universe that will right the wrong. im not saying to go around and be a **** or anything. i just dont think it works like that.

 

[blackwave]

I agree with the opening post. I've tried to be a good man, to treat people with utter respect and love, and been kicked in the ******* face repeatedly. I'm tired of it. I'm beginning to think, 'if you can't beat 'em, join 'em'. Is that a weak cop out? Yeah, but like I say, I'm fed up of losing out. I've realised, for one thing, that you have to let people know they can't **** with you. If you don't, they will take advantage of you to the full extent of their powers.

As for karma, it's just wishful thinking. We all want to believe that the universe is just, but it's not. A question for Buddhists: If there's no God, who created karma?

 

[so very lonely]

I agree with the opening post. I've tried to be a good man, to treat people with utter respect and love, and been kicked in the ******* face repeatedly. I'm tired of it. I'm beginning to think, 'if you can't beat 'em, join 'em'. Is that a weak cop out? Yeah, but like I say, I'm fed up of losing out. I've realised, for one thing, that you have to let people know they can't **** with you. If you don't, they will take advantage of you to the full extent of their powers.

I try to be a good person. I've helped people out but have got nothing s**t for my trouble. It's true people see kindness for weakness. But no matter how despicable other people are, I'm not going to be brought down to their level. I like to that that they'll get what's coming to them, but do they really?

 

[SophiaGrace]

I agree with the opening post. I've tried to be a good man, to treat people with utter respect and love, and been kicked in the ******* face repeatedly. I'm tired of it. I'm beginning to think, 'if you can't beat 'em, join 'em'. Is that a weak cop out? Yeah, but like I say, I'm fed up of losing out. I've realised, for one thing, that you have to let people know they can't **** with you. If you don't, they will take advantage of you to the full extent of their powers.

This has happened to me. So, I just make myself emotionally inaccessible to most people rather than compromise my integrity by joining them in their nasty games.

It makes me lonelier, but I'd rather be lonelier than be heartless.

 

[A new life]

Thank you all for your replies.
I think it's inevitable that what will happen is:
I'll help those who ask for my help,
but never again (I wish) be the one to first make the offer of help.

Today I read an article by a psychiatrist who said that
doing good deeds is a narcissistic "rescue fantasy"
I can't help but think that he's right.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

You cant give what you dont have....

it depends on ur motives of doing those deeds....you must get really honest with yourself...

people pleasing, priase seeking, approval seeking, enabling ..these are all nuratic behaviors..
Theres a lot of guilt and shame at work..so you must sit down and take a good look @ yourself.

Its like taking care of someone elses problems so that you dont have to deal with your own problems..
Like giviing fucken advice thats not worth a ****..tell people how to solve their problem but you dont take ur own god damn advice and solve the problems in your own life..
Theres billions of unpaided advicsors and their advice aint worht a ****.
easier said than done...bascailly.

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Poeple in support groups get cuaght up in service to otheres all the time. Its like a fucken ego trip...they on a fucken mission or some ****..but their personal life remains unmanagealbe..but they feel so so damn good when the group priased them...but to their wives N childrend..its still bascially the same old ****...going to fucken happy hours or recvoery meetings...whats the fucken difference...daddy aint home spending time with his wife N chikdren...Then they complain about how their wife are ******* and their kids act out.
Nothing worng with doing deeds...just chech your motives...
Love yourself first N formost.
Work on you first..
Happiness is an inside job.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

So I was talking to my daughter after a meeting tonight. She needs me to be there for her. Alot of personal matters. My daughter dosnt hide anything from me N her situation aint a bowl of cherries. I love her very much and was justing to her go into something very deep...

So an old parks behiined me..As he walked by my truck he fell. So get out of truck to go help him...the entired time my daughter is in this deep though talking to me..and I really needed to listen to her...so had my cell phone stuck to my ears trying to help this old man up...He was bleeding pretty bad. I kept asking him if he was ok...and continue to assist him into the building...
But 20 feeting away were 5 dudes just
chit chating...One dude came over and asked me for ciggs...As is was helping the old man into the door way..One dude started making fun of me as if it was a fucken joke...
I tried to remain calm through all of this..becuase I didnt want my duaghhter to give up hope even if it fuked up simetimes....

 

[blackwave]

By the way, the title of this post rules. I might have to use it as the title of an essay at some point.

 

[A new life]

By the way, the title of this post rules. I might have to use it as the title of an essay at some point.

I'm glad you like it, but it's as old as the hills
and I can't take credit for anything more than remembering it.

 

[Spare]

It saddens me when I see nice people who are about to give up on being nice. Because I know for a fact that nice people don't always finish last. I know from first hand experience that it IS possible to be a good, helpful person without also being a pushover. I am living proof that you don't need to compromise your beliefs or moral values to find happiness.

Never let society dictate who you should be. The choice belongs to you, and no one else.