online dating sites

[Hoffy]

plentyofnarcissists - (laughing my ass off)...cool.

It seriously is though. None of the myriad of dating sites I've been on (around 13 I think in total) have literally made me sick with contempt as POF does.

Avoid like airborne cancer.

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I look on them every now and again. I do a search and look at the women. Every woman - I think 'she wouldn't be interested in me' - I go down the list until it ends.

I do this every 3 months or so.

If you haven't yet gone onto plentyofnarcissists sorry I mean plentyoffish then for God's sake DON'T.

I will save you the grief right now by advising you to smash a cricket bat repeatedly against your cranium instead. Because in a weird, (not really) metaphysical sense, that is exactly what you might as well be doing.

Course, who am I to say? Just because it NEVER worked out for me in the 5 oh so years that I've been on there (I can count all of THREE count 'em THREE messages I've received and about 3 replies back). I got one woman to actually want to meet me on a date and we'd talked for weeks up to it so I thought that we'd get along just fine in person. We did at least it seemed that way in the pub then I came back from the bar with our drinks to just catch her getting in a cab outside. I then got a text message an hour later with her telling me how much she basically wasn't interested and she wasn't sure why she bothered in the first place.

Yet someone I know (a female someone) was on there 2 months and met the man of her dreams who she is still with now years later. Then again AND I'M SORRY TO SAY THIS LADIES......women don't exactly get the same problem with just nobody contacting them. Certainly not anywhere NEAR the same ratio as the other way around. Same goes for being chatted up. There's still this age old stereotype that for men, it's just clearly a case of opening our mouths and voila - we get what we want, be it women, jobs, money or otherwise. Oh sure if you happen to be Colin Farrell or EXTREMELY lucky but how many of us does that apply too?

And goddamnit I specifically said at my first post that I WASN'T going to get onto the subject of dating sites grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

I hate to say I agree, it's much easier for women to be contacted than men. I've never used a dating site nor would I, but I imagine I'd have no problem. I kinda feel bad for guys, us girls expecting y'all to do all the chasing, although I've chased before. As for that woman, I'd have text her back something not so nice. Have you not tried any other sites?

Hello Hoffy; I just left a comment on your picture earlier on in "Let's see the faces". I am not surprised you don't use or feel the need to use a dating site as clearly you are very attractive and I would be somewhat shocked if you told me you had any trouble attracting a guy (assuming you're single). And thanks for the sympathy so to speak; it's not that I as a guy 'mind' the chasing, it's just that the odds seem so ridiculously stacked against the majority of us. Certainly for me it has my entire bloody life. Same story over and over.

As for that harridan that sent me the text, I can't remember what I sent back by way of reply. I do remember wanting to throw my mobile in the bin on my inevitably drunk and dejected walk home (and it started raining too).

And yeah as I just mentioned in another reply, I have been on about 13 approx. Only one that proved to be any much cop was some free dating UK one where I met my last g/f last year in March. Ok, so it lasted 3 months if that, but still, I don't regret it. Especially when it's usually an average cycle of about 10 years in between having a relationship.

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Thanks for the comment and nope not single, I snagged me a Brit right off ALL
Have you tried meeting people locally? Like neighbors or have you thought of community work or charity work? Always nice gals involved in that kinda stuff.

 

[gnome3]

"But open your angel's arms
To this stranger in paradise
And tell him that he need be
A stranger no more"
[video=youtube]
PS: POF sucks - VEVO sucks

 

[putter65]

She doesn't love you. She doesn't know you. How could she love you?
*
In the meantime, while waiting for her to ask for money,
check out what's going on in the Japanese dating circles:[video=youtube]

look I'm not daft - I don't buy for a second that she loves me. I am waiting for her to ask for money. When she does I'm gone. Ive no emotional connection with her, not really. Ive spoken to a work colleague about her and she said - go along with it until she asks for money, to see what happens - thats what I am doing. Of course, I know it's slim, she might actually like me. Strange things happen !

 

[Lonesome Crow]

She doesn't love you. She doesn't know you. How could she love you?
*
In the meantime, while waiting for her to ask for money,
check out what's going on in the Japanese dating circles:[video=youtube]

look I'm not daft - I don't buy for a second that she loves me. I am waiting for her to ask for money. When she does I'm gone. Ive no emotional connection with her, not really. Ive spoken to a work colleague about her and she said - go along with it until she asks for money, to see what happens - thats what I am doing. Of course, I know it's slim, she might actually like me. Strange things happen !

Sreange as in its actauully a dude sending you those messages.

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fAce to face.....im goung to know real quick whats real or not.

 

[kinzeUK]

I thought I'd copy and paste the main text of my profile on Plentyofwankers. I have a somewhat cynical and sardonic sense of humour (you have to in this day and age for **** sakes, it's what enables me to cope a lot of the time). I had someone I know (a female) send me a message saying that if she didn't know me, that she would think I'm a total sexist, arrogant **** for putting this up. She'd be wrong on all 3 counts because I am anything but. But the whole point of this is to illustrate just EXACTLY how I perceive these things to be. Albeit with a somewhat snidey edge.

Just for you@OP and anyone else that bored/curious and wants to waste 5 mins reading this:



About Me
5 years on and off this site, all I've gotten out of it is R.S.I.

So I decided to conduct a non-scientific study that I pulled out of my a** of the types of dating profile jargon that I see all the time on here and sites just like this and what it means to me. This study ultimately proves that I really have far too much time on my hands. But for the sake of entertaining myself and possibly anyone else out there with a slightly sarcastic/dryly cynical streak a mile long, here goes:

*DISCLAIMER: This does NOT include everybody on here, just some that I've come across - 'tis not meant to be taken too seriously

"I'm very bubbly" = I'm really annoying/hyperactive/ignorant to an almost unbearable degree

"I'm a bit mad!" = I'm probably a bit borderline sociopathic!

"I'm crazy but in a good way" = I haven't killed anyone or anything yet

"Don't want pervs messaging me" = Just because I have several pics of me posing/pouting with my ****s barely contained in a shoelace for a top and upskirt shots a plenty, doesn't mean I'm slutty

"I've kissed too many frogs trying to find my prince" = I've sufficiently lowered my standards time and time again and now I'm considering trying to meet someone who still looks good when I'm sober

"Are there any genuine men left on here?!" = Are there any genuine lookers left on here?!

"I'm a real party animal" = I love nothing more than getting completely s**t-faced and falling down constantly whilst being loudly obnoxious to anyone within screeching distance

"No profile picture" = I'm an absolute horse-frightener

"Pic on request" = Just not my ACTUAL pic you understand

"I'm looking for a man who is independent, solvent, good looking, keeps in shape, patient, understands my moods, loves my kids, wines and dines me, takes me places, is ambitious, loves the outdoors, loves travelling....." = I realise the likelihood of finding my Mr Right on here and him contacting me is in an inverse ratio compared to some ugly, feckless, drug addled, compulsive liar/womanizing toad pestering me instead but hey, a girl can dream, right?

"Msg me if u wnt 2 no more" = I really can't be bothered to type out anything, so much so that I will use text-speak to emphasise this fact. (I am also allergic to spell check)

"Just sending me a msg saying "hi" or "nice pics" will not get a response/reply from me so don't waste you're time" = You can message me with the absolute bare minimum of information. Only if you're hot. Or very well off. Or preferably both.

*People who type 'lol' or 'lulz' every fourth or fifth word = Yes! I really AM that witless! And I honestly have fu** all of interest to say too! YAYYY ME!



First Date
I'd like to go lion-taming. But not using myself, more an array of people I truly loathe. And they aren't allowed to use a chair. Or a whip. Just their arms and legs.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Damn, there must be a lot of ****** up decieving women in the UK, KinzeUK.
Or you repell women even in cyber space....

There's plenty of " I Just wanna ****" on line sites.
Plenty of women getting freaky using thier web cam, going on line now adays.

Plenty of women that just wanna **** and get thier freak on in real life too....
I dont mind a woman, being a ****, a bitch, or a fucken whore.
Just as long as she's my ****, bitch and whore....

Yes, yes...we all want a clean whistle to blow on, in the name of Mrs Right. a good
repectful woman and all that good horse ****.

Anyway..I ve been with women and ******* them ...while they were scamming other men
on line and in real life.
Ive also recieved text messages, phone calls, e-mails etc...from men interacrting with these men.
Becuase sometimes...I get to use thier old cell phones or share PC...ect.
It's totally ridculous of the the stupid **** these men would say and do to wooo up to these women.
Playing the fucken preditor AND victim both ways.....

Ive also been with women that dosnt even use a PC or go on line...Young women too.
Nor they play with other men when they're with me...
She can dress like the girl next door, super sexy, or freaky gothic with a dark side.
She'll cook, clean, do my laundry, give me blow jobs, let me take nude photos and make porn with her...
Toss her around like a rag doll in bed if i want too. She loves and respects me like that.
Girls will be girls....nothing wrong with me shelling out doe for her to go on a shoping spreed,
get her hair and nails done. Purchase whatever she wanna. A nice outfit or a piece of furniture
to make it all look nice where we live. She grew up playing BARBIE.lmao

 

[kinzeUK]

"Damn, there must be a lot of ****** up decieving women in the UK, KinzeUK.
Or you repell women even in cyber space...."

Yes there are I'm afraid. And clearly I do. Whoooooop!

"There's plenty of " I Just wanna ****" on line sites.
Plenty of women getting freaky using thier web cam, going on line now adays."

And that's absolutely fine and dandy with me. But that's those kind of sites. I don't see why that **** should be appropriate on you know, 'normal' dating sites like POF.

"Plenty of women that just wanna **** and get thier freak on in real life too....
I dont mind a woman, being a ****, a bitch, or a fucken whore.
Just as long as she's my ****, bitch and whore...."

Can't really argue with that philosophy. Sha'moan.

 

[gnome3]

look I'm not daft - I don't buy for a second that she loves me. I am waiting for her to ask for money. When she does I'm gone. Ive no emotional connection with her, not really. Ive spoken to a work colleague about her and she said - go along with it until she asks for money, to see what happens - thats what I am doing. Of course, I know it's slim, she might actually like me. Strange things happen !

Ok there, Putter. I think we are all on the same page here.
As LC said, "Strange that it's actually a dude sending you those messages". There's lots to warrant that statement. It could really be some sleaze ball in Texas with a computer, and a six-pack of Coors, rattling off love letters to hopeful men.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Im not trying to be mean. Ive been stood up before.

Kinze....for a woman leave your ass in the dust before
even sitting down...There has to be something or a lot of something about
you she dosnt like.

I know...people should love me for me..and all the good horse ****.
But heck...there's stuff about me that I dont even like about myself.

How do you actaully go about it on POF?
Do you depend on your creative writting to set cheese in a mouse trap or what?

 

[putter65]

look I'm not daft - I don't buy for a second that she loves me. I am waiting for her to ask for money. When she does I'm gone. Ive no emotional connection with her, not really. Ive spoken to a work colleague about her and she said - go along with it until she asks for money, to see what happens - thats what I am doing. Of course, I know it's slim, she might actually like me. Strange things happen !

Ok there, Putter. I think we are all on the same page here.
As LC said, "Strange that it's actually a dude sending you those messages". There's lots to warrant that statement. It could really be some sleaze ball in Texas with a computer, and a six-pack of Coors, rattling off love letters to hopeful men.

No i think she's real. Seen enough photo's of her. She mentioned the weather in an email and I checked it out. It was the same. So I can't believe some guy in america would put weather details in emails and get them right. Why on earth bother ?

3 options I think.

1. She will ask for money for the trip to England and disapear with it, if I send some (I won't ever do that !).
2. She wants to move to England and live here and looking for an english bloke to marry her.
3. She likes me and is genuine.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Putter.....how in the **** can she loves you when she aint even ****** u yA?
what???...she gets her rocks off by a couple of your photos?

I can get weather on my cell from any place N any time.
Get Sattilite photo images of where u live with my GPS on my phone.
Go on line with my cell..dont need a tower or LT no more.
I can google easily for weather.

 

[Unwanted94]

Like I always say;**** online dating. It is ******* useless. I have gotten absolutely nowhere on dating websites, and no one even messages me. I used to message people like last year and stuff, but now I just sign on and see if anyone messages me. Of course;no,and the messages that I do happen to get are always horny perverts or men literally twice my age or more. I have told myself that I'm going to give up, but for whatever reason, I keep going back. I seriously hate myself sometimes.

 

[firebird85]

I look on them every now and again. I do a search and look at the women. Every woman - I think 'she wouldn't be interested in me' - I go down the list until it ends.

I do this every 3 months or so.

If you haven't yet gone onto plentyofnarcissists sorry I mean plentyoffish then for God's sake DON'T.

I will save you the grief right now by advising you to smash a cricket bat repeatedly against your cranium instead. Because in a weird, (not really) metaphysical sense, that is exactly what you might as well be doing.

Course, who am I to say? Just because it NEVER worked out for me in the 5 oh so years that I've been on there (I can count all of THREE count 'em THREE messages I've received and about 3 replies back). I got one woman to actually want to meet me on a date and we'd talked for weeks up to it so I thought that we'd get along just fine in person. We did at least it seemed that way in the pub then I came back from the bar with our drinks to just catch her getting in a cab outside. I then got a text message an hour later with her telling me how much she basically wasn't interested and she wasn't sure why she bothered in the first place.

Yet someone I know (a female someone) was on there 2 months and met the man of her dreams who she is still with now years later. Then again AND I'M SORRY TO SAY THIS LADIES......women don't exactly get the same problem with just nobody contacting them. Certainly not anywhere NEAR the same ratio as the other way around. Same goes for being chatted up. There's still this age old stereotype that for men, it's just clearly a case of opening our mouths and voila - we get what we want, be it women, jobs, money or otherwise. Oh sure if you happen to be Colin Farrell or EXTREMELY lucky but how many of us does that apply too?

And goddamnit I specifically said at my first post that I WASN'T going to get onto the subject of dating sites grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Women appear to have it easier. They basically have a free ride in the dating scene or whatever you want to call it. WHY? Lots of reasons. That's about it.

Some of them say they only get messages from perverts, but yet there's guys like me, who have been alone forever, who just want to get to know them or say hello, and I can't get any messages back. I can't even pay a girl to write me back. I was on POF for about a year straight, and I never got a single message at all. I had all kinds of new pics every once in a while, I rewrote stuff, I sent out messages (no replies), never got any unsolicited interest. It hurt me pretty bad for a while. I am convinced that I am living true forced loneliness.

It's funny because, you can be good looking, or have good looks (like some say I have), but you can get stereotyped out for other reasons. Not having a job, having a crappy job, no college degree, no car, living with your parents, not having any friends, having a certain hair color, certain interests, yes, girls will refuse getting to know you if you miss some of those.

People want to be in denial about alot of this stuff, but it's really insane.

 

[Limlim]

I get the feeling people are going to be pickier on dating sites since you can sort of just shuffle through as many people as you like. What sort of things are you trying in the offline world firebird?

 

[firebird85]

That's not just limited to online. That's how it is in real life as well.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

That's not just limited to online. That's how it is in real life as well.

Well..dude
No job, no money, no ride, no place of your own....Thats a lot of
limited options you're throwning at the ladies.

Yes, i know, i know. I get women in whatever situations...but
it's like kind da limited too. My chances improve as I have more
resources.

Yes. yes...She made it well knows that i was a dead beat SOB
on this forum. She has legets reasons to expressed her anger
towards me.lol

Have you tired sugar mamas or cougers????

 

[putter65]

Putter.....how in the **** can she loves you when she aint even ****** u yA?
what???...she gets her rocks off by a couple of your photos?

I can get weather on my cell from any place N any time.
Get Sattilite photo images of where u live with my GPS on my phone.
Go on line with my cell..dont need a tower or LT no more.
I can google easily for weather.

i haven't sent her any photo's

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Putter.....how in the **** can she loves you when she aint even ****** u yA?
what???...she gets her rocks off by a couple of your photos?

I can get weather on my cell from any place N any time.
Get Sattilite photo images of where u live with my GPS on my phone.
Go on line with my cell..dont need a tower or LT no more.
I can google easily for weather.

i haven't sent her any photo's

anyway like Ive said, I am not taking this seriously, I'm just seeing what happens. If she asks for money then I'm not ******* daft enough to send any.

But if she's real and she visits me and we have a good time then I will come on here and gloat like you do !

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Never had a Russian woman in my life.
I spoke to someone that said they were Russian.
Sent me all kinds of photo too. Looks like she was living it up N
party it down on those photos....cant imagined her being that lonely
and desperate. She was maybe 25 -30. A sexy young thing like her.
She can have men eating out of her hands...If that was actaully her.

I still get freaken e-mails from on-line dating site i hanvt used in years.
How in the hell can someone be looking at an unfinished profile and havnt
signed on in years?
I know...I know. Im such as sexy stud, women will still love me even if I dont exist and a ghost

 

[Swamp Yankee]

Helpful hint: as soon as you hear the words "capitalist pig", run like hell!

-SY

 

[Phaedron]

They are scams. Most of them are fake, if paysite.
First they say they are free, but you can't actually talk to anyone until you pay the $37 a month or so. You don't learn about this until after finishing your profile. Then they hit you up with fake profiles that seem to be eager and horny. One I knew was a scam because her whole email was about how our profiles had so much in common... I only filled in about 2 sentences. Then look them up and find out lots of other people are writing scam reports. Those who did buy membership say once you buy all the attention disappears. If all matches are always online or always last online today watch out. If you get thousands of people from far away and no one local thats probably bogus too.