Red_Wedding_Casualty said:
DarkSelene said:
Are you serious? Like, really... Do you actually believe that someone becomes bitter because they want to? Like... Really, though...
I think that, if left long enough, the bitterness can become somewhat of a crutch. Believe me, I know. I've been bitter for so long that I don't know how to be anything else. And so letting go of that at my stage in life is a very terrifying prospect. That being said, no. I don't believe for a second anyone actively chooses to be bitter. They become that way through dissapointment, for whatever reason. Anyone that believes that honeysuckle can just be switched off like a light switch has a serious lack of empathy for their fellow human.
Who said it can be switched off that easily? WHY do you (generalized you) always jump to "oh they said that, they think it's easy, they're ******* morons"? NO ONE said it was easy. NO ONE said anything was easy. It's not. But it is a choice. You can always choose how you let your emotions take hold of you. You don't have to be bitter, you could remain at least a little bit positive or if that's too far for you, just not negative.
It's on YOU how your life turns out. It's on YOU if you let bad honeysuckle stop you or hold you down/back. Sure, wallow it in for a while, if you feel you must, but let it the fresia go and move on from it. Stop letting life hold you back just because you didn't get what you wanted. You will NEVER get what you want if you let yourself become and stay bitter and negative. I don't care who wants to dispute this or call me ignorant or even a dumbfuck, people CAN see that honeysuckle, it turns people off.
So yes, it is a choice, everything is a choice. Not all choices are good, not all choices want to be made, not all choices are going to make your life better.
If you are mugged, it's your choice to be scared and paranoid or not. You could take self defense classes and learn how to protect yourself, you can go to therapy or whatever to get over the paranoia or fear.
If you are rejected (even if it's a million times), it's your CHOICE to let that make you bitter. You could simply accept that maybe you're asking the wrong people out or maybe your standards are too high or maybe your coming off in a way you don't mean to. You could regroup, find out what you're doing wrong and keep trying.
Almost everything in life is a choice, even if it doesn't seem like a choice at all.