In my opinion, it's not a habit. At least one that should be considered an entirely bad one at first. It has it's benefits as well. And yes, I'm very much guilty of overthinking. Often. Then again, so is almost every single one of us here in some shape or form. It's sometimes unavoidable. How I view it as, at least the version I think you're implying here with the recent talks, it's a complex person with a past or passion
(stemming from good or hurt) that wants to stick it's head out to be shown and vent. Most of the posts here consist of people relating or pertaining to a topic that bothers them more on a personal level. So yeah, it's always going to be the social topics the most. The clear indicators are there as the same people post the same similar stances over and over again. We're all ****** up here in our own way.
So, I say, if people don't want to get their hands dirty. Don't play in the dirt. Ya know.
Most of us don't come here to be told about the problems we already know we have or to be told to face the demons we already have trouble facing. That's why some ask for help, some don't. Some people known their demons well-enough and even use them as their guardian from further hurt. There's just tons of different factors as to why people may over think, lash out, etc. here.
And in those moments of someone's demons, hurt, anxieties, insecurities, or other things that would normally keep them quiet emerge, they choose to stand vigilant in that moment finally and say what's on their minds. That is what is happening and what causes the overthinking. Even if it causes in-differences or conflict, they have to vent it out. Because everyone is self-righteous in their own views or opinions here. It more times than not stems from a very ******* real problem that they are facing and is why I am not a fan of simple vague advice to a far more and complex and clearly misunderstood from my angle, situation.
The over-boldness of statements and absolutely certainty in one's intuition or experience that seemingly over-bears others, and doesn't show any waver either, is when I turn passionate and sometimes ugly especially knowing the counter of it. That's when I most certainly overthink and not shut the **** up lol.
I will openly and honestly admit, I go even harder when it's familiar advice I've been on the receiving end countless ******* times and know what it's like to get such advice and be utterly destroyed because I was very much misunderstood and anything said to counter it is simply you not "getting over your feelings" or not wanting to change. The not wanting to change stance is actually extremely hypocritical in those debates lmao. but yeah, kudos to the people who don't feel enough anymore in order to conquer those buried feelings, but that's simply not everyone. Things of that nature, etc. How many people here are willing to admit and acknowledge that their posts also come from a place of strong passion and/or previous anguish?
I know I'm guilty of the same treatment to others and I am far from perfect. But I suppose we just have to remember that certain stances will always contradict one another and are sometimes unavoidable. But yes, I actually beat myself up on the regular basis when someone makes a convincing argument, but you won't ever get anywhere if you decide to be quiet because someone misunderstood you. There's always something positive to take away from nearly any conversation.
I just want to always promote the idea that it's very much more to it than what's said, shown, or known and in a more understanding and open minded way without me falling into that same damn familiar 'comforting' trap that people use in order to keep themselves from feeling guilty or more hurt when realizing they were wrong or did the opposite than they intended. Not a cynical one in order to preserve themselves. I hate being cynical.... It leads nowhere but being stuck in your own head and confirming your
own beliefs further rather than growing. You convince yourself you know and have all that you need to know already. We sometimes wear it like a badge in order to boost our own confidence, mood, or self-importance. There's MANY different forms of needs and imperfections in
all of us. To say otherwise, is lying to yourself. What works for you, works for you. Don't project entirely too much, leave some room for understanding.
I want to say here, I'm sorry if what I say or do affects people in a negative way. As everyone else here, I'm also too just trying to help the only way I know how. As I'm sure most people here feel the same. They either want to help, be helped, found, understood, and/or the biggest one of all; accepted. So, in that fact alone I think we should all respect one another in our own ways and maybe we'll all find out things about each other besides our views. Things we can admire and not only know each other's differences first.
Besides, we'll only grow bouncing our views off one of another. But it's up to the reader if they want to absorb them or not. Our advice and views will affect different people in different ways.
So yeah, realistically and rationally speaking; asking people here to not overthink is asking for our primary demographic to simply change on a dime. If that were true or even possible already, they wouldn't even be here in the first place. No?
We're all here trying to help to the best of our abilities and our perspectives and subjective experiences. Paired with our heavy baggage that it seems hardly any of us let go of whether we think we have or not.
