ardour said:
Dudebro culture in the last few years.
Wait, you're saying that before the last few years, dudebro culture WASN'T totally awful????
ardour said:
A farcical satire and perversion of traditional masculinity.
I agree. Dudebros, along with other types of guys, are pretty much caricatures of masculinity which usually exaggerate its worst traits. I'd also say that masculinity has to adapt with the modern world. As we move away from lawlessness towards civilization, and as physical work moves from being done by people to being done by machines, a lot of what used to be considered "manly" like solving problems with people using intimidation and violence, pretending you don't have feelings or that you're fine when you're not, and working a job that depends more on brute strength than brainpower just doesn't apply anymore.
ardour said:
Being stupid, insecure and without empathy makes you arsehole, not a man.
I can't agree with this enough, and I wish more people could understand this. This is a big part of why I despise these types of guys, whether they are bros or bad boys, because I think they are con artists. It's pretty easy to be confident when you've always been the biggest and you've always been able to use your charisma to get the majority on your side. But I don't even think they are that confident and fearless. I think they're stupid and insecure and full of flaws, and I think their personality is all an act to cover it up and draw attention away from it with rebelliousness, obnoxiousness, bravado, and casual superiority. They either act like their flaws don't exist to the point that others believe it too, or they blatantly wear their stupidity and flaws on their sleeve because it covers up their insecurities and they don't bother improving because they know it won't be held against them, and because they don't want to improve, they want to be an antagonist and they use manliness for an excuse, and people keep accepting it. Why be nice when it gets you less, when being a jerk gets you more? I think they are afraid of something, seeking attention, or just don't have any better ideas of what to do with themselves besides focus on power, dominance, and rebellion for shock value and status. And I don't believe it when people act like they don't have feelings either, or are too cool to be interested in anything. Everyone has feelings, and I always thought it was dumb and dishonest to deny that.
I wish the whole trope of the "cool guy" that pretends to have no feelings or fears would stay in the past, and I'd like to be able to be honest about my fears and flaws and insecurities and to not have to be a macho man stereotype in order for women to take me more seriously. But I guess it is all a game, and the best way to play is to just have less fears, flaws, and insecurities in the first place.
I'm flawed, expected to work on it, but it doesn't necessarily get me anything and I am expected to eat that honeysuckle sandwich with a smile on my face. They're more flawed than me and all too happy to show the world how much they don't care about working on it because they do it on purpose, are not expected to work on it, and are rewarded with whatever they want because status and charisma overrules **** near everything. People say that nice guys don't have much personality, but at least I'm trying to build one out of sincerity. Dudebros and bad boys have personalities that are made of grease and bullshit, and yet, not only do people let it slide, but it flies. I guess I accomplished nothing by ranting about this again, but it just gets me so angry that this is how people work. I even find honeysuckle like this in fiction. I used to think that this stuff goes away after school, only to find that it's not a kid thing, it's a people thing. And it's not a dumb people thing either, smart people get caught up in it too. People probably don't stop caring about popularity, charisma, and social status until they are senior citizens, if they ever stop caring about it. Oh well, back to trying to figure out how to be more correct while still being me. If there's even a point to trying.