Questions for the Men

[MrLonely86]

Men know what they want from a girl in 10 minutes, we don't need 3 months. XD

 

[Cherubino]

any time between 3 days to 3 years

 

[Finished]

Do men really know if they want to marry you after 3 months of getting to know you?

There was one woman that I knew I wanted to marry after about two weeks. Our personalities meshed really well. I even told my friend at the time that I was going to marry her. But, things very slowly continued to go down hill. After almost five years she asked if we were going to get married or not. I said no. Then we parted ways.

At first you get to see all the great things about each other. Then it takes a very long time to find out all the bad stuff.

 

[BeyondShy]

Men know what they want from a girl in 10 minutes, we don't need 3 months. XD

Try five minutes for me.

 

[NoxApex(N/A)]

Do men really know if they want to marry you after 3 months of getting to know you?

Unless he's 50+ or on his deathbed with a terminal illness, it's probably just infatuation and neurochemistry doing what neurochemistry does. Actually, for pretty much the first year or two of a relationship, it's mostly more feels than reals, which is likewise quite difficult for younger people to navigate...Hell, even older people have trouble navigating it if they've never really tried to organize feeling with the cold dead hands of logic.

I've only ever considered getting married once, and well, I'm fortunate that I didn't because in retrospective analysis of that relationship, I was unhappy in it because she was afraid to let me be myself. And oddly, actually my quality of life improved after it.

 

[user 139760]

Right, YouTube university has sent me back...

Do men really know if they want to marry you after 3 months of getting to know you?

Idiotic ones do. Or really young and naive ones.
Smart ones probably don't have marriage high on their priority list

 

[CenotaphGirl]

This man does, been there, done that, never again.

If it's a long white dress and a fistful of flowers she want's I'm not the one.

Awh Randomguyyy, this is oddly so romantic, I think being upfront about that is so refreshing, so many guys just pretend and string along women who harp on more about getting married than I do about needing a **** job.

Men know what they want from a girl in 10 minutes, we don't need 3 months. XD

Oooh Lala, to have and hold in sickness and in healthhhh

any time between 3 days to 3 years

3 days!!! 10 mins!! You guys have to be joking, thats it... sorry for the next guy, I want my ring before the first date at this rate lmao

There was one woman that I knew I wanted to marry after about two weeks. Our personalities meshed really well. I even told my friend at the time that I was going to marry her. But, things very slowly continued to go down hill. After almost five years she asked if we were going to get married or not. I said no. Then we parted ways.

At first you get to see all the great things about each other. Then it takes a very long time to find out all the bad stuff.

Awh Finished, I remember going on a long drive with my ex and we was trying to name one thing we wasn't the same on, just one thing, and all we could come up with was that he smokes and I dont lol flash forward... that bloody clown and I are nothingggg alike... I actually cant think of one thing we are the same on anymore... strange that.

Try five minutes for me.

Thats it... you men are just messing with my emotions aren't ya!?!

Unless he's 50+ or on his deathbed with a terminal illness, it's probably just infatuation and neurochemistry doing what neurochemistry does. Actually, for pretty much the first year or two of a relationship, it's mostly more feels than reals, which is likewise quite difficult for younger people to navigate...Hell, even older people have trouble navigating it if they've never really tried to organize feeling with the cold dead hands of logic.

I've only ever considered getting married once, and well, I'm fortunate that I didn't because in retrospective analysis of that relationship, I was unhappy in it because she was afraid to let me be myself. And oddly, actually my quality of life improved after it.

Awh you know Apexyy you are one of the only men I think would have a chance at a successful marriage, just the way you think is so different.

Idiotic ones do. Or really young and naive ones.
Smart ones probably don't have marriage high on their priority list

Marriage has to be high on the priority list, we all know you men are useless without us devils in heels lolz I joke I joke, but thats interesting, do you think its society that makes a man wanna get married?

 

[Cherubino]

3 days is really not that rare ... especially few generations ago

 

[user 139760]

Awh Randomguyyy, this is oddly so romantic, I think being upfront about that is so refreshing, so many guys just pretend and string along women who harp on more about getting married than I do about needing a **** job.

Oooh Lala, to have and hold in sickness and in healthhhh


3 days!!! 10 mins!! You guys have to be joking, thats it... sorry for the next guy, I want my ring before the first date at this rate lmao


Awh Finished, I remember going on a long drive with my ex and we was trying to name one thing we wasn't the same on, just one thing, and all we could come up with was that he smokes and I dont lol flash forward... that bloody clown and I are nothingggg alike... I actually cant think of one thing we are the same on anymore... strange that.




Thats it... you men are just messing with my emotions aren't ya!?!


Awh you know Apexyy you are one of the only men I think would have a chance at a successful marriage, just the way you think is so different.


Marriage has to be high on the priority list, we all know you men are useless without us devils in heels lolz I joke I joke, but thats interesting, do you think its society that makes a man wanna get married?

Well, the advantages for women, especially in divorce cases, are well known. Tell me one good reason where a man has any kind if advantage in marriage. Just one. Besides "love", that's not an advantage.
I've yet to read one.

 

[Hazed]

Well, the advantages for women, especially in divorce cases, are well known. Tell me one good reason where a man has any kind if advantage in marriage. Just one. Besides "love", that's not an advantage.
I've yet to read one.

Stability. With the way the divorce rates are going there's less and less certainty of that, i get that. Marriage has been defiled by our quest to make the self divine. That doesnt make marriage itself bad, though.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Well, the advantages for women, especially in divorce cases, are well known. Tell me one good reason where a man has any kind if advantage in marriage. Just one. Besides "love", that's not an advantage.
I've yet to read one.

Honestly, marriage was always described to me as the highest honour a man can bestow on a woman and fatherhood is the highest honour she can bestow on to him... It was never about gaining advantage more so than promising a life together. The issue with today is, everyone has a "whats in it for me" mindset (not you but society in general) Like my love language is cooking, do you know how many women would want my head on a spike for saying that I would cook for my future husband, they would say... he has hands and it's women like me keeping them in positions they do not want to be in. Do you know how many men would laugh at another for being loyal to his wife if a young hot 20 something gave him the option to lay with her... many... It's this mass mindset thats ruining marriage in my honest opinion - rant over.

 

[user 135671]

Do you know how many men would laugh at another for being loyal to his wife if a young hot 20 something gave him the option to lay with her... many

Tbh Princess, this says so much more about the kind of men you have in your life than it does about men in general.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Tbh Princess, this says so much more about the kind of men you have in your life than it does about men in general.

Hmm I don't know RandomGuy, I mean even as a society, marriage to men is the "ball and chain" and "no freedom" and all these other negative terms. Being tied to one woman isn't typically deemed to be what any man actually wants to do... (rather something he should do) throughout every culture of man in the whole world lol. There is not one that depicts a man with the most power, with just one wife... or one woman, even the royals have their... concubines. The Alpha man on Youtube university say men should have rotations and a true alpha cannot have one woman. As for the men in my actual life well... the men in my life over 35 are all married but... pretty sure with minimal persuasion I could make them unfaithful to their wives... I dont, but I could.

 

[MrLonely86]

I want one girl for life, but relationship is all by my rules and my terms , not hers.

 

[user15010]

I think that marriage is the choice taken by two people separately but more less the same time, freely. If only one decides, and the other just follows, what is the point. And I don't think it's the permanent decision taken once for ever, but one each person takes (or confirms) every year, month and each moment during the marriage. Now, I'm afraid Callie will come saying I'm wrong. Well, nevermind, whatever

 

[user 139760]

Stability. With the way the divorce rates are going there's less and less certainty of that, i get that. Marriage has been defiled by our quest to make the self divine. That doesnt make marriage itself bad, though.

Doesn't make it good, either.
You can have stability before marriage. Stability isn't exclusive to marriage. I don't see that as an advantage.

 

[user 139760]

Honestly, marriage was always described to me as the highest honour a man can bestow on a woman and fatherhood is the highest honour she can bestow on to him... It was never about gaining advantage more so than promising a life together. The issue with today is, everyone has a "whats in it for me" mindset (not you but society in general) Like my love language is cooking, do you know how many women would want my head on a spike for saying that I would cook for my future husband, they would say... he has hands and it's women like me keeping them in positions they do not want to be in. Do you know how many men would laugh at another for being loyal to his wife if a young hot 20 something gave him the option to lay with her... many... It's this mass mindset thats ruining marriage in my honest opinion - rant over.

I don't mean to sound rude, but that's almost a 50's mindset. I've never met anyone, and I've met thousands in my life, who ever thought that way. The world of today is incompatible with that line of thinking.
If you walked into a Feminist meeting, they'd probably berate you no end. If it's what you believe though, fine with me, good on you.
That still doesn't tell me what an actual, clear cut benefit to marriage for a man actually is. You can have love without it, stability without it, faithfulness without it. It was a society thing 50 years ago, but today, I really don't see the point.

Beyond a little girl's fairytale story. Which I think has a lot more to do with that than anything else.

 

[user 139760]

Hmm I don't know RandomGuy, I mean even as a society, marriage to men is the "ball and chain" and "no freedom" and all these other negative terms. Being tied to one woman isn't typically deemed to be what any man actually wants to do... (rather something he should do) throughout every culture of man in the whole world lol. There is not one that depicts a man with the most power, with just one wife... or one woman, even the royals have their... concubines. The Alpha man on Youtube university say men should have rotations and a true alpha cannot have one woman. As for the men in my actual life well... the men in my life over 35 are all married but... pretty sure with miimal persuasion I could make them unfaithful to their wives... I dont, but I could.

That's bull. I wouldn't watch too much youtube, it's bad for the brain
Look that guy up in 20 years, I guarantee you he'll have changed his tune. 100 bucks on the table. Or pounds, by your reckoning.

 

[Finished]

One woman for me is MORE then enough. Actually it's too much! Ha! ha!

 

[CenotaphGirl]

One woman for me is MORE then enough. Actually it's too much! Ha! ha!

You know you men always bite off way more than you can chew or however that saying goes Come on guys, would it be Ceno if I wasn't in someway advocating for Poly? Just let me have this