Astral_Punisher
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WishingWell said:Here's a good one FOR THE MEN: Let's say that you told a woman that you are friends with for about 6 months, that your feelings are deeper than just friendship, and you love her and want to take the relationship to the next level.
Her answer is that she doesn't feel the same way about you, and she hopes you can remain just friends. Would you be able to handle being JUST FRIENDS with her, and what would you say to her?
I think it's difficult for men to have female friends, period. It's pre-programmed that we have this primal urge to mate with pretty much anything that looks fertile. And if our friend Patty is cute, and happens to be wearing something attractive (or reveling), you can bet the thought will rear up and take over some portion of our minds (and bodies).
If I was the man in your scenario, I would probably have to cut her out of my life, and dedicate and focus on something else that was positive to get my mind off it. The classic "Work Hard to forget the pain" kind of thing. Every time I thought of her, I would be thinking about being with her, physically and mentally, as a mate, not as a friend. Plus, her very existence would remind me how I wasn't good enough for her, or didn't meet whatever standards she had.
It's a pretty deep and emotional blow for a guy.
I completely understand that the rejection has nothing to do with the woman wanting to hurt me in any way, and she probably feels terrible about rejecting me, but that doesn't really help me feel better about it. This woman I have known for six months, and gotten to know me back, has surveyed me as a person, in detail, and found that I am not fit to be with her as a mate.
This type of rejection is probably one of the worst feelings any man ever has the displeasure of feeling.
Would you be able to handle being JUST FRIENDS with her, and what would you say to her?
I would not be able to handle a woman rejecting me that like. I would tell her that I am sorry that we both wasted our time. Then I would say "Goodbye".