Reverse the Genders in this Music Video

[Lonesome Crow]

You all need to go to wal mart more often.lmao..

There you will notice even a chick thats been beat with an ugly stick holding a baby....

 

[Peter Lorre]

[video=youtube]

Here we see a female nerd singing about her stalkerish obsession with the top notch Alpha pretty boy jock of her school. Mind you, this is Taylor Swift, not Ke$ha, Katy Perry, or one of the Jersey Shore girls. Swift is supposed to be the "sweet innocent girl" of the media.

Women from age 13 to 22 look up to these celebrities, and role model from their behavior. I bet none of you think this video by Taylor Swift is "shallow", you all probably think it's about "young love".

Imagine the OUTCRY that would exist if this was about some unathletic gamer dork who's obsessed with the head cheerleader... half the audience would say "OH HE'S SOOOOO SHALLOW AND SUPERFICIAL!" and the other half would say "EWWWWWWWW THAT UGLY DORK THINKS HE HAS A CHANCE!!! WHAT A STALKER!!!"

More proof to the fact that regular girls would rather date the top-notch Alpha and share him with other girls than date guys in their own league. Remember, I'm not angry that that's how it is, I just think guys need to be reminded to WORK THEIR ***** OFF to get to the top league, or else EVERY WOMAN you date, you will be sharing with one of these guys. She will always be looking into your eyes, and seeing him.

If it is a mainstream theme accepted and even PROMOTED by our PC media, then it's obviously a very REAL phenomenon.

Watch the video carefully, gentlemen. Does the video game dork get the hot cheerleader in the end? NO! The Alpha Pretty Boy steals a dorky girl from YOUR pond. Wake up, and smell the coffee, and fight for membership to the top leagues.

Isn't this just the reverse:

[video=youtube]

Man, Wheatus Wonder what happened to them.

 

[Ladysphinx]

You all need to go to wal mart more often.lmao..

There you will notice even a chick thats been beat with an ugly stick holding a baby....

LMAO

But this is true, sometime I can't help but wonder if the guy has an vision impairment. If you've seen my hubby's nieces bf it will give everyone here hope, he is the ugliest man I've ever seen, lol but he's not single.

 

[SophiaGrace]

Oh come on you guys! You haven't seen a guy and just turned to goo because he was SO DAMNED CUTE?! (not talking to the actual guys in this thread) I admit it doesn't happen often to me but it HAS happened. haha

Come on, the first thing we see about another person is their appearance. That's the VERY first thing. Sorry. We are primally primed to be shallow on first glance. THAT is first impression. What do you want your first impression to be?

Second, we are all on this forum for a reason (or at least originally came for a reason). Hello? This is a loneliness forum. Loneliness means we are alone and are suffering negative consequences for it, or, we lack feelings of being connected to others & loved. So, hey, apparently what we are doing isn't working for us. In this state, it might not be so bad to listen to point of views different than ours because it's our mindsets that've gotten us into this damned state in the first place.

P.S. Taylor Swift is hot, we all know that. A pair of dorky glasses won't hide it, sorry.

 

[jales]

I agree I have seen guys and thought they are so cute.. then I have thought about sex with them.

But to say that I would date them because they are cute is a lie.

I just find them cute... whether I would date them or not is another story. Also I have seen guys who I thought were not soo cute then got to know them.. and wanted to date them a whooooooooole lot!

Oh come on you guys! You haven't seen a guy and just turned to goo because he was SO DAMNED CUTE?! (not talking to the actual guys in this thread) I admit it doesn't happen often to me but it HAS happened. haha

Come on, the first thing we see about another person is their appearance. That's the VERY first thing. Sorry. We are primally primed to be shallow on first glance. THAT is first impression. What do you want your first impression to be?

Second, we are all on this forum for a reason (or at least originally came for a reason). Hello? This is a loneliness forum. Loneliness means we are alone and are suffering negative consequences for it, or, we lack feelings of being connected to others & loved. So, hey, apparently what we are doing isn't working for us. In this state, it might not be so bad to listen to point of views different than ours because it's our mindsets that've gotten us into this damned state in the first place.

P.S. Taylor Swift is hot, we all know that. A pair of dorky glasses won't hide it, sorry.

 

[nerdygirl]

To me, this music video doesn't really say much. It's a boy and a girl who live next door to each other. They've probably known each other their whole lives. They've been best friends since they were little kids. Obviously from the window note thing, they've always done that kind of thing. I never saw it as girl falls for football player. It's girl falls for best friend.

I'd like to note that I have NEVER in memory turned around to goo at a guy because he was cute. It's just not what floats my boat.

 

[fortasse]

Women from age 13 to 22 look up to these celebrities, and role model from their behavior. I bet none of you think this video by Taylor Swift is "shallow", you all probably think it's about "young love".

I think the song stupid, actually. I'm weird, though, and actually spend time critiquing popular music. It's my idea of fun.

Imagine the OUTCRY that would exist if this was about some unathletic gamer dork who's obsessed with the head cheerleader... half the audience would say "OH HE'S SOOOOO SHALLOW AND SUPERFICIAL!" and the other half would say "EWWWWWWWW THAT UGLY DORK THINKS HE HAS A CHANCE!!! WHAT A STALKER!!!"

Makes me think of Brad Paisley's "Online." Another song I don't care for lol. Although at the end, nerd boy does get some confidence and go get the girl. (getting confidence being the key element here)

More proof to the fact that regular girls would rather date the top-notch Alpha and share him with other girls than date guys in their own league.

If by this you mean more proof to the fact that society is highly hypocritical and loves a good double-standard, I agree.

I think I'm regular (maybe. Might have a bias going on here), and I'd rather date a regular guy with great character than a hansom guy with absolutely no substance. I could care less if he is gregarious, confident, and out-going. If he's a jerk who thinks he deserves the attention of 10 girls at a time, he isn't worth it.

Watch the video carefully, gentlemen. Does the video game dork get the hot cheerleader in the end? NO! The Alpha Pretty Boy steals a dorky girl from YOUR pond. Wake up, and smell the coffee, and fight for membership to the top leagues.

That statement made me laugh.

By the by, this is one sexy dork: [video=youtube]

All in all, like others have said, it is confidence that is more important. If a guy cannot talk to a girl at all, then he probably isn't going to have any luck getting into a relationship. Also, if he hides out in his room 24/7, he is obviously not going to meet any girls. And when he does come out, if he neglects personal hygiene, then that will do nothing for him. Sure some girls like the grunge look, but that doesn't mean they like the grunge smell.

 

[Mr. Sir]

But here's my point, what do people have to be "confident" about?

 

[evanescencefan91]

haha interesting thread it's an interesting perspective and you have some good points, but wasn't there a movie anout a crazy stalker chick and breaks the guys legs?

what movie am I thinking about?

lols I don't know if this counts or not, But I dated this adorably hot and sweet nerd in HS before I came out, he was a real nerd we were in japanses class together he taught me how to play D&D ( seriously ) and seriously he was cute, no acne good teeth, nice body figure. I'd go straight for him if I could,

but nerds aren't all augh and ugly

But here's my point, what do people have to be "confident" about?

whatever the **** they got or don't got, my motto is simply fake it till you make it it's not what makes the man confiednet like his car job intellect or whatever that makes him attractive to other women, it's his confidence

Man a bunch of chicks playing football would be pretty hot

I agree

More proof to the fact that regular girls would rather date the top-notch Alpha and share him with other girls than date guys in their own league. Remember, I'm not angry that that's how it is, I just think guys need to be reminded to WORK THEIR ***** OFF to get to the top league, or else EVERY WOMAN you date, you will be sharing with one of these guys. She will always be looking into your eyes, and seeing him.

I see your point but I don't think that's entirely true, some woman may want that alpha male stuff,
a real woman will love you and not your socal level

 

[fortasse]

But here's my point, what do people have to be "confident" about?

I don't rightly know. That would have to be a personal matter. I would have to know a person in order to be able to point out their assets.

I think one of the problems is that people that like video games, or dorky shows, or comic books, are taught by society that they should be ashamed of such things and that those things are lame. That would hurt anyone's self-esteem if society is continually reinforcing the idea that the pastimes a person likes are somehow stupid.

Well I say be comfortable in your dorkiness. If some guy knows all the characters in the Justice League, that's fine by me. It's no different than my little brother knowing the name of every player on the Vikings team. They're both obsessive behaviors over things that don't matter at all. Or if a guy would rather fantasize over Amy Pond instead of a Cowboys Cheerleader, whatevs. They're both fantasies about girls the guy will never have an actual chance with.

I say, whatever your quirks, embrace them and be confident in your quirkiness/dorkiness.

[As a sidenote, I do not look at confidence and extroversion as the same thing. One can be confident in themselves without having to let the whole world know. I am relatively confident, but I'm also an introvert. I don't walk out into the world and say "Look at me! I'm confident and proud of it!" It's just a quiet acknowledgement within myself that I am confident in who I am, and I am not ashamed of my character]

On a more pessimistic note, one could also be confident in their wonderful failures in life. Pessimism can be quite entertaining at times if you're willing to laugh about it. ...I guess it would require a sort of dark/cynical humor. Like I met a woman once who was in a wheelchair, and she said her doctor told her that if she had a positive attitude, and was just confident in herself, she could be walking again. Her response was "I am confident... that I will be in this wheelchair for the rest of my life." She laughed about it.

 

[ShybutHi]

But here's my point, what do people have to be "confident" about?

That is extremely subjective.

 

[nerdygirl]

But here's my point, what do people have to be "confident" about?

Surprisingly, there are good traits people could be confident about (without quotation marks) that have nothing to do with physical appearance. Who knew?

 

[Badjedidude]

But here's my point, what do people have to be "confident" about?

At the very LEAST...

Everyone. EVERYONE should have the confidence that they are able to explore their world and look for their gifts. ALL OF US have gifts or talents that we're good at or have promise in. You can have confidence in the fact that you're searching for your gift or talent.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Its in the payoffs...

Non of us lack motivations. We either more motivated to sit on ur *** or motivated to get up N do someting.

Being lazy gets comfortiable N feels good. Playing the victim or playing sick also gets attention and approval.

Its all just prefence N cioces.
Persoanlly for me.. a nice fine piece of ***...motivates me A man has to do what a man has to do to get what me wants.
I just keep it simple like this.