The guy and silence

[SlavicNa97]

Maybe some of you have read my diary. It is about the Werewolf. Somehow after a call about work I got a solid breakdown and I feel all-fire lonely. I messed up somein a way that I overwhelmed the guy (not on purpose), we had no boundaries and I confessed too soon. I like that guy saying simply, just the silence is scary. Idk anything. I see him online on snapchat normally and Idk if he removed me from the list or not (I see our chat normally in mobile app but in pc version I can only look for him and see as a friend but not see chat, do something with it).
When I was in a hospital, we were normally talking and he was like "yeah we can talk but not right now", I was falling asleep and shortly after I woke up (within 4 hours I guess) and I have noticed he removed me from discord. I asked about it on snapchat: around 2 weeks of silence in total.

What else can I to do from a human way? I wanted a normal contact, I get about me but we didn't talk about it at all. I want to talk with him and solve it once forever. We have no mutual friends so it gets harder. Idk what else I could add, just today I exploded about it and I have no one to talk with about it

 

[TheRealCallie]

Sadly we often don't get the closure we need to move on from people. Nothing we can do about that really. Even if he did end up talking to you to resolve things, there's no guarantee that you will get the truth. And that's a people thing, not just a guy thing.

 

[TheRealCallie]

Also, feel free to come back into chat when you want to talk. I know what you said, but we really don't mind talking with you.

 

[SlavicNa97]

Also, feel free to come back into chat when you want to talk. I know what you said, but we really don't mind talking with you.

Thank you for your responses. Just I am much silent mostly because of the pain. Today I exploded so at the same time I felt I need to give a sign, I wanted to ask about it.. It hurts, saying simply it hurts and I would like even be friends or something like I want the comunication, things to be solved

 

[Hoarse Whisperer]

Maybe some of you have read my diary. It is about the Werewolf. Somehow after a call about work I got a solid breakdown and I feel all-fire lonely. I messed up somein a way that I overwhelmed the guy (not on purpose), we had no boundaries and I confessed too soon. I like that guy saying simply, just the silence is scary. Idk anything. I see him online on snapchat normally and Idk if he removed me from the list or not (I see our chat normally in mobile app but in pc version I can only look for him and see as a friend but not see chat, do something with it).
When I was in a hospital, we were normally talking and he was like "yeah we can talk but not right now", I was falling asleep and shortly after I woke up (within 4 hours I guess) and I have noticed he removed me from discord. I asked about it on snapchat: around 2 weeks of silence in total.

What else can I to do from a human way? I wanted a normal contact, I get about me but we didn't talk about it at all. I want to talk with him and solve it once forever. We have no mutual friends so it gets harder. Idk what else I could add, just today I exploded about it and I have no one to talk with about it

Sometimes it just isn't meant to work out with that person even though it seemed right early on. It's important to give people their space and hope they come back to you. Pushing yourself on someone that has pulled away will only drive them further.

 

[0mgofhappiness]

Maybe some of you have read my diary. It is about the Werewolf. Somehow after a call about work I got a solid breakdown and I feel all-fire lonely. I messed up somein a way that I overwhelmed the guy (not on purpose), we had no boundaries and I confessed too soon. I like that guy saying simply, just the silence is scary. Idk anything. I see him online on snapchat normally and Idk if he removed me from the list or not (I see our chat normally in mobile app but in pc version I can only look for him and see as a friend but not see chat, do something with it).
When I was in a hospital, we were normally talking and he was like "yeah we can talk but not right now", I was falling asleep and shortly after I woke up (within 4 hours I guess) and I have noticed he removed me from discord. I asked about it on snapchat: around 2 weeks of silence in total.

What else can I to do from a human way? I wanted a normal contact, I get about me but we didn't talk about it at all. I want to talk with him and solve it once forever. We have no mutual friends so it gets harder. Idk what else I could add, just today I exploded about it and I have no one to talk with about it

A relationship cannot be sustained on phone calls alone. It feels fake, he could be in a room with another woman, a bunch of mates that could be saying crass things behind your back but want you to know at the same time?

Have you met him in person? Do you know he is real?

 

[SlavicNa97]

Sometimes it just isn't meant to work out with that person even though it seemed right early on. It's important to give people their space and hope they come back to you. Pushing yourself on someone that has pulled away will only drive them further.

I know about it and I am afraid I could scare away or something. Communication wasn't straight. I wish I could fix it, fix the miscommunication

 

[SlavicNa97]

A relationship cannot be sustained on phone calls alone. It feels fake, he could be in a room with another woman, a bunch of mates that could be saying crass things behind your back but want you to know at the same time?

Have you met him in person? Do you know he is real?

We had video calls and he is real

 

[0mgofhappiness]

We had video calls and he is real

Has he made excuses not to see you? I hate to be the bearer of some realities but have you heard of CGI's capabilities. I had a demo, it looked very real, but something felt off about the imagery. Has he asked to meet you, have you asked to meet him?

 

[SlavicNa97]

Has he made excuses not to see you? I hate to be the bearer of some realities but have you heard of CGI's capabilities. I had a demo, it looked very real, but something felt off about the imagery. Has he asked to meet you, have you asked to meet him?

We were talking about it and I heard how he was, tone etc. I messed up some, I wanted to solve it face to face, like I was better in this type of contact. I get that I was too much. Just since things happened, I got anxiety and I had a strong one. It was his last message on discord (on snapchat he acted like all was good): Hey i've been feeling a bit better but also i saw your bio and i think there's been some misunderstood things here lol we havent started dating yet Na and sorry for being super distant but when you said stuff like "i love you bradley" it kinda worried me cause i was not ready for that kind of thing so quickly

I see his side but I wanted to talk and idk if he cutted off himself completely or it is a temporal distance and silence (and maybe he expects silently me to get better? my very close friend is like that and kinda I connect it but still for me, no communication doesn't help me to know things and understand - I suspect after doing research and after talks with friends that I have Asperger's syndrome = I need exact instructions and confirmation how things look). I wish I could meet him and talk, talk in a way that he will feel pressure to open up and will let go off the bad atmosphere.

1 tiny disclaimer to his message: I said "I love you" during one of video calls and he was like "aww" (in general there was more)

 

[0mgofhappiness]

We were talking about it and I heard how he was, tone etc. I messed up some, I wanted to solve it face to face, like I was better in this type of contact. I get that I was too much. Just since things happened, I got anxiety and I had a strong one. It was his last message on discord (on snapchat he acted like all was good): Hey i've been feeling a bit better but also i saw your bio and i think there's been some misunderstood things here lol we havent started dating yet Na and sorry for being super distant but when you said stuff like "i love you bradley" it kinda worried me cause i was not ready for that kind of thing so quickly

I see his side but I wanted to talk and idk if he cutted off himself completely or it is a temporal distance and silence (and maybe he expects silently me to get better? my very close friend is like that and kinda I connect it but still for me, no communication doesn't help me to know things and understand - I suspect after doing research and after talks with friends that I have Asperger's syndrome = I need exact instructions and confirmation how things look). I wish I could meet him and talk, talk in a way that he will feel pressure to open up and will let go off the bad atmosphere.

1 tiny disclaimer to his message: I said "I love you" during one of video calls and he was like "aww" (in general there was more)

But you haven't met him in person. Why do you love him, what makes you think you love him. Also can I ask your age? Because it is not deemed as appropriate of you should be under 18. I am nearly 50.

 

[TheRealCallie]

But you haven't met him in person.

The several thousand miles between them might have something to do with that.

 

[SlavicNa97]

But you haven't met him in person. Why do you love him, what makes you think you love him. Also can I ask your age? Because it is not deemed as appropriate of you should be under 18. I am nearly 50.

We both are 27. I have some view and there was some misunderstanding from my side. True that I like him that way and I just needed the talk + he said once "if we end up together" so we had the same view about how to run things, I went just wrong way with communication + I didn't realize for a long time that during chat videos I communicated better way than in text

 

[0mgofhappiness]

We both are 27. I have some view and there was some misunderstanding from my side. True that I like him that way and I just needed the talk + he said once "if we end up together" so we had the same view about how to run things, I went just wrong way with communication + I didn't realize for a long time that during chat videos I communicated better way than in text

Ot sounds like you have a blossoming relationship. I am surprised you haven't met already. What's stopping you? I might have missed something you had posted. You said you loved him, if it's the distance that's keeping you apart if he loves you, surely there is a way?

 

[SlavicNa97]

Ot sounds like you have a blossoming relationship. I am surprised you haven't met already. What's stopping you? I might have missed something you had posted. You said you loved him, if it's the distance that's keeping you apart if he loves you, surely there is a way?

We had the romantic spark (still it didn't fade away and I wanted say like formally, like keep inside the stronger feeling inside; for me knowing that we have the phase let's call 0 would make me more confident, I would enjoy his company in more simple ways and vice versa) and we had chat videos and I have my view about him, he was pretty easy to understand about intentions and all. We both aren't able to see each other from financial side (idk if he found work in this time, I guess not really; he lives with family what is a mother and 2 older sisters). Also I have the family issues what I have mentioned in one of threads so it is a big problem on my side. I need to be on my own first

 

[0mgofhappiness]

We had the romantic spark (still it didn't fade away and I wanted say like formally, like keep inside the stronger feeling inside; for me knowing that we have the phase let's call 0 would make me more confident, I would enjoy his company in more simple ways and vice versa) and we had chat videos and I have my view about him, he was pretty easy to understand about intentions and all. We both aren't able to see each other from financial side (idk if he found work in this time, I guess not really; he lives with family what is a mother and 2 older sisters). Also I have the family issues what I have mentioned in one of threads so it is a big problem on my side. I need to be on my own first

He told you that? Do you believe him? How long has he been stringing you along, it sounds like it is very one sided. Like you have stronger feelings for him than he does for you.

 

[TheRealCallie]

How long has he been stringing you along, it sounds like it is very one sided.

Well, that's kind of bitter of you to say, not every man is evil... Personally, I think if it sounds one sided, it's because she's only one side of the relationship...whatever stage it might be at right now.

 

[SlavicNa97]

He told me that and I have no reason not to believe in. It was also like on beginning when I was shy and I wasn't too much so he felt more comfortable I bet. I saw his interest in me

 

[SlavicNa97]

Well, that's kind of bitter of you to say, not every man is evil... Personally, I think if it sounds one sided, it's because she's only one side of the relationship...whatever stage it might be at right now.

Thank you for being more neutral. I hope you and more believe me like what I saw, especially when we had few video calls. Just later in crisis situation I was all alone and I didn't know how to fix it. The best would be to try to text about call and explain in few words and go silent everywhere so distance could help with communication

 

[0mgofhappiness]

Well, that's kind of bitter of you to say, not every man is evil... Personally, I think if it sounds one sided, it's because she's only one side of the relationship...whatever stage it might be at right now.

I am speaking from experience. Why is it bitter the guy has been making extreme excuses not to see her?