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Innersky23

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There is no such thing as “self improvement”.

The fallacy of self-improvement comes from the fact that you must first believe there is something outside that needs to be improved upon.

When people believe they are flawed, the tendency is to start searching, searching, and searching some more to find a solution, an answer…

Looking for meaning, solutions, and happiness “out there”.

Here’s the point, nothing outside can solve your problems.

If this were true, if there was a magical outside “fix” to life- there’d be no sad, high-strung, depressed people in the world.

There would be no depressed and unhappy rich folks…check out the tabloids!


Great news is that you already have the resources inside to be happy, wealthy, and successful.

This idea is so foreign to many (and to conventional knowledge) that most people would have trouble believing it!

It can be a “hard pill to swallow”…especially when you feel in lack, lonely, depressed, or frustrated. When you can’t pay your bills, hate your job, and things aren’t going right.

But, this breakthrough can happen instantly.

All you need is a shift. This will enable you to get CLEAR on what you want, be inspired to take MASSIVE action, and things will start to move into place effortlessly.

When your life changes overnight, it’s not because you “improved” yourself, it’s because you had an internal shift.

This internal shift can also be called “alignment”. When you are in alignment with what you want, you will always manifest it.

And manifesting is not a magical voo-doo power from la la land…its the ability to “align” your conscious desires with the power of your unconscious mind…and thus create what you want faster than “improving” yourself from a point of limitation.
 
huh?
self improvement is inside not outside
its not about flaws
its about needs
its not about solutions
its about steady growth
its not about looking out there
its about working in here
self improvement isnt a disease
stagnation is
 
I disagree.

For me it's both inside and outside. You can always learn from other peoples point of views and opinions. That is good, and necesary. Everyone does it, voluntarly or not.

To not listen to what others say is unhealthy. It's closing yourself to the rest of the world. Is best to live in contact with the universe...

Not to mention believing you have all the answers inside is naive... and quite egocentric...

Seeking compulsively isn't good either. So i'd say is something in between. A matter of balance...
 
really true felix
u use things from the outside 2 improve the inside
 
You're both right, so stop arguing. jk :)

Self Improvement can come from all around you, influences that help you with what's on the inside to become a better person.
 
SophiaGrace said:
gelnn said:
Are you guys talking about sex?

LOL!

That was so random.

Renae N I made love all night last night?


anyway,
I'm one those people that believe in the self fullfiling prophecy.
I didnt makeup these ideas or beliefs on my own. I got the informations from others such as books, articles, ..which is from
other people or outside sources.

It's healthy for me to question any ideas or concept presented to me.
I'm free to chose whatever I chose to believe in.

WHAT WORKS FOR YOU MIGHT KILL ME.
WHAT WORKS FOR ME MIGHT KILL YOU.

I must remain open or keep and openmind to new ideas ( the universe or life have unlimited posibilities).
At the sametime I also must filter things out. I cant run with whatever ideas thrown at me.
Try out new ideas and beliefs that will work for me.
Even old ideas sometimes...just change my perpection or understanding for it. See it in a different light (the shift)

Also at the sametime...I felt the knowingness or intuition.

Ideas such as..."I'm complete, perfect and whole already"
It's a spiritual concept. ( I got this idea from various sources)
If I'm perfect, complete and whole already...obviously
it implies no improvements or dont lack anything.
My spirit, my soul...whatever terms you wish to label it.

I've also written about HAVING verse LACKING.
GRADTITUDE is a state if HAVING.

I've also wrote many times.
BELIEFS = CUASE
ACTIONS = EFFECTS.

The psotive self talk, positive thinking...
These are all inside jobs.

Im also awear that our mind consious mind is designed to resolve
problems. Sometimes it'll create problems so it can resolve that problem. It's constant.
Thats why some people came up with meditations.
The " OFF SWITCH"


Being an ACOA or having been in recovery (12 steps).
Lots and lots of changes...(behaviors and beliefs) are
require to improve my living CONDITIONS or LIFE SITUATIONS.
Letting go of OLD unworkable ideas or beliefs ( the SHIFT ).
REPERANTING/REPGRAMMING..ect

if I grew up in a dysfunction enviorment and is a product of
that inviornment...obviously I'm effected or influences by outside source. Removing myself from that inviorment help. However
I retained the behavior patterns and beliefs system.

Wheater I chose the word " getting WELL" or " self improvement"
it's all realitive to me.

I'm sitting here with my fiance...obviously i had to take some sort of actions to be with her.
The motivating factor of my actions are my beliefs. I believe in our love. I believe in myself.
I believe in her love for me. I allowed myself to feel her love for me. Act as if we're married already.
Some sort of alignment. The universal mind and my consious mind. ( god's will and my will ).
FAITH....dosnt have anything to do with religion.

INSPAIRED TO TAKE MASSIVE ACTIONS.....
For the first time in our lives we're both throwing our hearts and soul into our relationship and for
the love of our children. It's what I want. It's what she wants...We are both in agreement or alignment.

Renae and I HAVE a very LOVING relationship, NOW. and forever.
Our lives are manitfesting itself on the outside from the inside out.

Trinity or atonement...

 
Sci-Fi said:
You're both right, so stop arguing. jk :)

Self Improvement can come from all around you, influences that help you with what's on the inside to become a better person.
aww he wasnt arguing
think he just misunderstood wut i was trying 2 say
i always blame myself if ppl do
that means im just not delivering clearly
n wut u said is really well said
u just use all u can 2 self improve
n its a good thing
not a disease



gelnn said:
Are you guys talking about sex?
ru hoping? LoL



Lonesome Crow said:
the whole post
agree with everything u said
all so xactly true
the 12 steps helped me tremendously 2
being alanon saved my life!!
its 1 of the things im most gr8ful in life 4 finding
taught me a lot in terms of self improvement work



 
You do realize that OP is a spammer, yes? This same post is cross-posted to multiple message boards and he/she never replies; the main purpose is just to spread the link in the signature.
 
IgnoredOne said:
You do realize that OP is a spammer, yes? This same post is cross-posted to multiple message boards and he/she never replies; the main purpose is just to spread the link in the signature.

lol he as a bit weird but looked so real...
 
Felix said:
IgnoredOne said:
You do realize that OP is a spammer, yes? This same post is cross-posted to multiple message boards and he/she never replies; the main purpose is just to spread the link in the signature.

lol he as a bit weird but looked so real...

Smart spammer. :)
 

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