ardour
Well known loser
Sci-Fi said:I hope you guys do realize that it too CENTURIES for women to get where they are today. They had to fight for equal rights and still are not equally on par with men. There is a growing trend of acceptance of men being more emotionally in touch, but just like woman fighting for equality, it is going to take time. Nothing just happens overnight. It seems like you guys just except to snap your fingers and everything be perfect, that is not how the world works. You screw up your first impression that is your fault, NOT the fault of the other person. You want a second chance you have to prove yourself differently which WILL TAKE TIME!! If you've repulsed someone so much with your first impression it's time to really evaluate yourself.
There's a girl here who's very aloof and almost never makes much effort beyond basic politeness, like she can't bothered or doesn't care, yet the other women took the time to get to know her, eventually bringing her into the fold. If a male colleague behaved as she does it would be a different story. Too much to ask that even a fraction of this good will exist across gender?
Badjedidude said:The people that you want to be around are the type who will give you that second chance, so... don't stress too much when people reject you based on first impressions. Those probably aren't the sort of people you want to be around to begin with.
Too bad you can't get away from people you work with aside from mentally zoning out. Then there's the ripple effect, people taking their cues on you from others. After a while half the place ends up hating you based on passed-on impressions or hearsay (exaggeration of course)