Tyranny of first impressions with no second chances

[StormChild]

So - that was my first impression. Do I sit next to her next time? Would any of you?

I wouldn't make a point of sitting beside her but I wouldn't avoid her either. Some people do have a permanently negative attitude to life and I find them wearying to be around. Doesn't make them bad people, though.

 

[ardour]

So - that was my first impression. Do I sit next to her next time? Would any of you?

Fact is she had several chances in that exchange.

Some of us don't get near that length of conversation before we're consigned to the creep heap.

 

[jaguarundi]

This could of course turn out to be a trick question, because I am not at all sure, given her dismissal of everything I said ( my camera, my choice of supermarket, veggies ... and a couple of other things I never mentioned) that she would want to sit next to me next time. There is always that to consider...

 

[FPL2014]

I am going through a similar situation with a colleague of mine, whom I used to like very much and be in very friendly terms with. But he's a guy, not a woman, what makes things worse. Because we all know how stubborn men are.

He simply refuses to talk with me unless it's about the job. With all the other people in my workplace, he talks a lot and is very polite. This HURTS me a lot because I actually like him and he is a very charming, nice guy.

I have probably acted in an innapropriate manner with him, and he now thinks the more distant he keeps from me the better.

I actually think of quitting my job, but I have some weird hope that in time he'll realize how much he hurts me.