Weird problem of mine

[Guest]

When I see a girl that I would like to approach and talk, I get a lot of anxiety. On the hand, if i'm already talking to a girl and she bluntly rejects me, I would feel fine.

By reading the first sentence, u would think that i have anxiety due to fear of rejection but how come I don't feel it when a girl directly rejects me?

I tried thinking about it but I don't really know the answer to my own way of thinking.

 

[That Guy]

I kind of feel the same thing. When you're approaching a girl you are interested in you have to worry about a lot of things: is she taken? Would she like a guy like me? What should I say? How should I say it? Should I talk to her now?

All these shoulds/coulds/woulds are all over you while you're approaching a girl. There's a lot on the line and you must decide how to act. However just the opposite is true when a girl outright rejects you. When she does there's no longer anything to worry about. In fact, you don't even have to worry that it it might have been YOU that screwed up. She very well could have been a bitch and you're just better off for not getting close to her.

This is why it's very important to act quickly when you're interested in a girl. Get all the anxieties out early. I learned the hard way. I just kept chickening-out until I couldn't take it anymore. Had I acted earlier and just been rejected outright I would have dealt with a lot less frustration and pain.