What are you feeling, hoping, thinking, or remembering right now?

[Tealeaf]

This attempt to organize my growing list of projects had better work...

 

[ladyforsaken]

Honestly, Lady, people getting defensive - not just on the forum, but anywhere - can stem from them not liking someone. For example, as a person, I like you. I think you're kindhearted and gentle, and you really do give your heart's sincere advice. And if you said something to me that was on the edge of the fence, I wouldn't mind. I'd take your words to mind and think on it.

But if you take the words from someone that you just didn't get along with, you'd have a bigger chance to see the most unfavorable, archaic, inimical nonsense ever spouted from a pair of split lips. That's when people tend to become hostile, and then they tend to be combative. It's a chain reaction, and one that's not always so easily broken.

That, and not realizing that much of the advice people give is really in a general sense. If everything were personal, we'd be able to solve each others problems. And we can't do that. Not until we're all robots.

You make a good point, Nilla. You're right, on that. It is inevitable for people to get offended and defensive, especially dealing with people you already have issues with or don't like for any particular reason, and more often on a place like this for sure.

Maybe we need more peacemakers , perhaps that would help.

 

[TheRealCallie]

You make a good point, Nilla. You're right, on that. It is inevitable for people to get offended and defensive, especially dealing with people you already have issues with or don't like for any particular reason, and more often on a place like this for sure.

Maybe we need more peacemakers , perhaps that would help.

Or maybe we need less judgments and less of people trying to interpret something that they cannot possible interpret if they don't know a person extremely well.

LF, we could give the same exact advice (I believe we have, many time), but people will interpret what I say in a completely different way than they interpret what you say.
Why...because they judge me to be a ***** or a troublemaker because of the way I speak and the words I use. No I won't coddle people or being overly polite (not saying you do that all the time). But it shouldn't matter whether I'm not as polite as you or whether someone likes me or not. If it's the same advice, what's the problem?

 

[ladyforsaken]

Or maybe we need less judgments and less of people trying to interpret something that they cannot possible interpret if they don't know a person extremely well.

LF, we could give the same exact advice (I believe we have, many time), but people will interpret what I say in a completely different way than they interpret what you say.
Why...because they judge me to be a ***** or a troublemaker because of the way I speak and the words I use. No I won't coddle people or being overly polite (not saying you do that all the time). But it shouldn't matter whether I'm not as polite as you or whether someone likes me or not. If it's the same advice, what's the problem?

Lol Callie I was just thinking that the other day, exactly. I thought we give pretty much similar replies but we deliver it differently. But it shouldn't be taken differently because you are right, we are pretty much on the same page, saying the same thing - which is why I wish people would stop taking what people say so personally just because they have a judgement made on that person or who knows what. Unfortunately, people can't see this.


On topic, I am feeling rather alone tonight. I hope this mood passes, seriously. I think I should do more Dutch tomorrow. I remember why I wanted to move out so much.. it's because of everyone else in this home, and not my mother.. and that's probably why I feel so honeysuckle about doing this to her.

 

[johnny196775]

im a happy cat.

 

[Peaches]

today I feel so worthless… hope not to take the wrong decisions

 

[lonelyfairy]

Numb.

 

[johnny196775]

i am sad about the internet and happy about real life.

 

[Rainbows]

happy.

 

[johnny196775]

edit. have a nice day.

I was wondering if anyone has ever welcomed a new member twice in the same thread by accident yet.

 

[Cavey]

I've been welcomed in my own introduction thread, over a year after I posted it. It's not the same thing, but in a similar vein.

 

[johnny196775]

Sometime i jog in place for no reason. Or because of untreated adhd. I exercise and it reduces the hyper part a little but not really. If i ate better i could really go nuts with fitness. I am glad i have my guitar to keep me busy.

 

[Tealeaf]

I am afraid of this Starbucks. It's 2, maybe 3, times the size of the coffee shops in my city.

Have retreated to the corner.

 

[lonelyfairy]

How much I understand people who take their own life.

 

[Peaches]

How much I understand people who take their own life.

I understand your understanding completely, but let's postpone all that for a bit




-- on another note: so many things that can be done that I end up doing nothing and reading silly articles, I wish I had some social support to do stuff :-/ but that's just me complaining, methinks

 

[zero]

How much I understand people who take their own life.

Hug

 

[Rainbows]

 

[Case]

I'm getting more stressed out. I have no job, my lease is up in 2 months, and my rent will be going up again, so I've started worrying about finding a cheaper place. The more stress I feel, the worse I feel. It also makes me wish I had a relationship because then I could have that feeling of being "in it together." But I don't, so I have to do this all by myself. *sigh*

 

[zero]

"Nothing isn`t better or worse than anything. Nothing is just nothing." (Arya Stark, GOT)

 

[murmi97]

Considering staying up all night and tomorrow to get back to sleeping at the right time, even though I only have done so once successfully once before. Anyone have suggestions?