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I've been in similar situations. Eventually you just gotta say **** it and move on. If they don't want you then **** 'em. They had their chance. On to the next attempt.

The more it happens the easier it is to get to that point. It's pretty much an instant reaction now whenever I'm rejected. (See my sig)
 
TheRealCallie said:
And who the **** cares if they smoke a joint here and there or get drunk or are covered in tats from head to toe.

Nobody would care about those, you're right. But, this guy tried to commit suicide by OD'ing on hard drugs, then almost went to jail. Tries to take the coward's way out with no regard for anyone, including himself - going against your own basic instinct to stay alive. Ooh, that's so genius and confident and "cool", isn't it? Makes others do a bunch of work and go through a bunch of stress just to keep this zombie alive. So yea. What a "badass". I'll call a spade a spade.

Whatever. Doesn't matter anyway.
 
TheSkaFish said:
TheRealCallie said:
And who the **** cares if they smoke a joint here and there or get drunk or are covered in tats from head to toe.

Nobody would care about those, you're right. But, this guy tried to commit suicide by OD'ing on hard drugs, then almost went to jail. Tries to take the coward's way out with no regard for anyone, including himself. Makes others do a bunch of work just to keep this zombie alive. So yea. I'll call a spade a spade.

Whatever. Doesn't matter anyway.

So he's a "junkie loser" because he tried to commit SUICIDE??? Holy ****, dude. Wow, just ******* wow. Get a damn clue and step down from your ******* high horse.

Oh and COMPASSION is one trait girls generally look for in guys. Perhaps you might try to find some, because clearly you have none.
 
Uh, no. He's a junkie loser because he uses hard drugs. Seriously? I think you just like picking fights with me.

No, I don't have compassion for people like that. I have compassion for people and animals who want to live but are denied their lives. Not on people who choose to mess up their bodies with hard drugs.
 
TheSkaFish said:
Uh, no. He's a junkie loser because he uses hard drugs. Seriously? I think you just like picking fights with me.

No, I don't have compassion for people like that. I have compassion for people and animals who want to live but are denied their lives. Not on people who choose to mess up their bodies with hard drugs.

No, I'm actually not picking a fight.

What pisses me off is the fact that you talk of things that you seem to have no clue about. You seem to know nothing of addiction by the way you talk, you seem to know no one close to you that has tried to (or HAS) commit suicide. Who are YOU to judge people like that?
I will assume from the fact that you ignored my first sentence that you do not actually know this guy. You may be entitled to your opinion, but just because YOU have an opinion, it doesn't make it true.
Maybe you should walk a mile in someone else's shoes before you go judging something/someone you don't know.
 
I feel empty, not sad, angry, or happy. Just like something is missing and I can't figure it out.


TheSkaFish said:
Nobody would care about those, you're right. But, this guy tried to commit suicide by OD'ing on hard drugs, then almost went to jail. Tries to take the coward's way out with no regard for anyone, including himself - going against your own basic instinct to stay alive. Ooh, that's so genius and confident and "cool", isn't it? Makes others do a bunch of work and go through a bunch of stress just to keep this zombie alive. So yea. What a "badass". I'll call a spade a spade.

Whatever. Doesn't matter anyway.

I can't stand when someone says there taking the cowards way out. Look man I don't know you, but whoever this person is they obviously have a lot of emotional pain if they would even consider that. There is no reason to kick someone when they are down and insult them. I don't know if you have ever been through something very traumatic in your life but it takes a heavy toll on you, and you shouldn't judge someone unless you have been in there shoes before.
 
TheSkaFish said:
Fine. I should devote myself to being successful, so I never lose anything to another ******* person again.

The sooner you realize that she was never YOURS to lose, the better off you'll be.

Oh and I took the liberty of editing your post. So sorry...
 
TheRealCallie said:
TheSkaFish said:
Fine. I should devote myself to being successful, so I never lose anything to another ******* person again.

The sooner you realize that she was never YOURS to lose, the better off you'll be.

Oh and I took the liberty of editing your post. So sorry...

I agree here, completely. I still feel fishy-wishy that you are seeing her as some kind of prize in a rutting competition with another male. In fact what I feel I am hearing from you are bellows of thwarted masculine pride, not heart-broken love. Now maybe you are keeping the heartbreak to yourself and sharing the anger with us - well, OK (I guess).

But unless I mistake - I haven't seen all your posts so I apologise if I am wrong - you haven't once said that you are worried about her with a guy who might be bad news because of his past, or that you hope she is alright, or that you would do anything to help her? :(

But I am thinking that all this anger might be about something other than heartbreak. You have gone on quite a bit about 'success' and I am thinking you feel that she went with this guy because you aren't successful. Some of your posts re work on other threads leads me also to conclude this. In fact all your insistence that you are the better man makes me feel that this situation has maybe touched some sense of inferiority and unworthiness in you.

Coupled with the outraged masculine pride, obviously..:D
 
Plenty of people have done foolish things in their lives. Bad things even. Feeling compassion for someone's plight, even if said plight was self-inflicted, is not something to be looked down upon. I've seen plenty of people "bring things down on themselves" and while I don't agree with, nor condone some of these things, it doesn't negate the compassion I feel for people, in general. As one poster said.... compassion (and empathy too) is a very attractive trait in someone.
Also, I don't feel that people who become miserable enough in life, to end their lives should necessarily be labeled as "cowards."
(As a couple of other posters have mentioned)... Don't cast stones at someone whose shoes you haven't worn yet. No one can know what goes through the head of someone who chooses to end their own suffering. Personally, I feel someone who has reached that point and is miserable enough to TRULY want to end their own existence, needs as much understanding, empathy and compassion that we, as humans, can possibly give them.
Just my two cents and not aimed at anyone - just my general opinion.
 
Today, a friend told me that he and his wife might get fed-up of my visits in the very distant future. I only see them twice a year. FML.
 
Damn adverts, don't you hate the way it uses people who don't suit those particular glasses on eye-corrective surgery ads?
 
Sometimes you get reduced to the worst version of yourself, and there doesn't seem to be anything you can do about it...
 
EveWasFramed said:
Plenty of people have done foolish things in their lives. Bad things even. Feeling compassion for someone's plight, even if said plight was self-inflicted, is not something to be looked down upon. I've seen plenty of people "bring things down on themselves" and while I don't agree with, nor condone some of these things, it doesn't negate the compassion I feel for people, in general. As one poster said.... compassion (and empathy too) is a very attractive trait in someone.
Also, I don't feel that people who become miserable enough in life, to end their lives should necessarily be labeled as "cowards."
(As a couple of other posters have mentioned)... Don't cast stones at someone whose shoes you haven't worn yet. No one can know what goes through the head of someone who chooses to end their own suffering. Personally, I feel someone who has reached that point and is miserable enough to TRULY want to end their own existence, needs as much understanding, empathy and compassion that we, as humans, can possibly give them.
Just my two cents and not aimed at anyone - just my general opinion.

+1
 
Just signed up for a free entry-level course in project management at my local library.

-Hoping that it will brush up the skills I learned from school and make me look good on paper.

-Thinking that, while I don't enjoy the business environment, that for now it may be smarter to play to my major rather than against it. I can always take lessons in the things I truly care about after work. Just found out one of my favorite new bands' bassist started learning guitar when she was 27, and now they're touring and everything. Perhaps dreams do come true after all.

-Feeling a slight twinge of optimism for the first time in literally years about being able to get an entry-level middle class job.
 

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