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Actually, this USED to be true Random, but it isn't the case anymore. Why? Because the world, society, PEOPLE have changed.I know, people can frustrate, hurt and anger one another, but the vast majority of us are doing the best we can.
Over the years, I’ve found that many people who proclaim their hatred are simply attempting to express frustration, or they erroneously believe it will protect them from pain. In today’s world of constant change, fear and uncertainty, it's become an increasingly common behaviour.
Our beliefs are powerful, we unknowingly morph thoughts into facts. We also unconsciously search our environment for further evidence that our beliefs are true. If we are holding firm that "people are idiots" we'll certainly find evidence to back it up. Conversely if we believe people are innately good we'll encounter more validation to fill up that bucket of beliefs. I know which world I'd rather live in.
There used to be one simple truth that stood out, as long as I could remember, I noticed that when I was a kid. People DID for each other. Wether it be friends, family, lovers, potential boyfriends or girlfriends, even random people off the street the notion of selflessness, even if it wasn't systematically or massively present, was still very much a part of human interaction.
It isn't anymore.
We live now in a world where selfishness and our own points of views are dismissable, where you are ENCOURAGED to be selfish, in ordee to protect yourself from harm. Hell, that's why people are so upset by what they consider "woke", it's kind of the epitome of that, yet they use whatever they want of it when it suits their interests. It's pathetic. I understood why I shied away from the dating world and it's exactly because of that. Find what YOU want. Don't settle for less than YOU deserve, I will only date XYZ...it's all me me me. No one wants to take an extra step that isn't rooted in what they want, because they don't remember what it is to give. The planet's all about taking now. We see it every day.
People ARE idiots. They think their points of view matter in the long run. At least I'm not stupid enough to think I'm actually important or that my opinions count for honeysuckle. Whereas the vast majority of people think they can honeysuckle and pawn it off as gold at their local pawnshop. Even if they could, they don't realize how they cone across and that's, at best, uncaring dirtbags and at worst, psychopaths.
It's why there's so many miserable people around. It's why you hear ads about not murdering women, ir nit committing suicide, on Spotify now. Because people have never been as isolated as they are now and have NEVER been as miserable as they are now, on a global scale. Sone people know it; that's why you got ads on Spotify.
And it'll get a lot worse before it gets better.
So yeah, while what you say is true and how guys like you and me might have been raised to believe, it's not the world around us anymore. Doesn't mean we should stop trying, but it does mean qe shouldn't be surprised when it doesn't work.