What are you thinking right now?

[wolfblood]

I wouldn't purposely hurt him just to have him move on. Just be honest and assertive about it, and he'll eventually get the point. If not, be aggressive, he'll surely get the point then. But, doing the opposite will end up having an effect on you, and you'll feel worse and guilty about it down the line, which might prompt you to reach out. Trust, I know from experience, not so much as far as purposely hurting someone, but doing everything else in a fit of anger, etc. Just take care of the issue now, and it won't be an issue later.

Thank you! Yes, I don't want to hurt him. I will stop replying to his texts, that should get the message across.

 

[TheRealCallie]

until my son becomes an adult

How old is he again?

I told him several times, he should move on. I will stop replying to his texts. I almost feel like I should hurt his feelings right now, so that he'd hate me, so that he'd move on

You can't make someone do something they don't want to do. But here's a potential solution. The father of my children and I haven't been together for a very long time. He's had several long term relationships since we split. The third and the fifth are the same person. The third girlfriend and he broke up because of issues dealing with her daughter and they just couldn't be together, so they split up, my ex ended up with someone else and she ended up with someone else. Three or four years later, they got back together. If it's meant to be, you two will come back to each other.
So tell him to go out and have a life, tell him to date other people and when the time comes, if you two are meant to be together, maybe you will find each other again.

I don't need that kind of love.

But do you WANT that kind of love?

 

[HellsLittleAngel]

@wolfblood The only way that ignoring will work is if you haven't responded to him the last time you told him the deal. If he just randomly texted you after he knows better, and you don't respond, he'll eventually get the message again. But if you have contacted him in between, that's going to give him mixed signals and you need to tell him the deal once and for all and cut off all contact.

 

[TheRealCallie]

My kid goes for MEPS next week. It will be real after that.

 

[wolfblood]

@wolfblood The only way that ignoring will work is if you haven't responded to him the last time you told him the deal. If he just randomly texted you after he knows better, and you don't respond, he'll eventually get the message again. But if you have contacted him in between, that's going to give him mixed signals and you need to tell him the deal once and for all and cut off all contact.

I haven't contacted him ever since I told him it's better for him to move on. He said ok and that was it. And now he's back, texting me again. I'm going to ignore that. I hope he'd understand.

 

[wolfblood]

How old is he again?



You can't make someone do something they don't want to do. But here's a potential solution. The father of my children and I haven't been together for a very long time. He's had several long term relationships since we split. The third and the fifth are the same person. The third girlfriend and he broke up because of issues dealing with her daughter and they just couldn't be together, so they split up, my ex ended up with someone else and she ended up with someone else. Three or four years later, they got back together. If it's meant to be, you two will come back to each other.
So tell him to go out and have a life, tell him to date other people and when the time comes, if you two are meant to be together, maybe you will find each other again.



But do you WANT that kind of love?

My son is 6 years old. My ex-partner is 34, I'm 31.
And no, I don't want that kind of love. I used to want it when I was younger, but not anymore. After experiencing it, I realized it's not what I need. What I want is to be alone and to care about people, but not commit to someone like that. I rather be hated than loved like that. I now feel like love is supposed to be a state, not an action, nor a bond. To me, love is a state of the heart and I am able to shine that kind of love upon humanity as a whole. I don't want to focus it on one single person. I can still love, even when I'm alone. And I want to be alone because that's the only way I can do the things I want to do, and make the mistakes I want to make.

 

[JackieLynn]

My bio dad in my life,we reunited in December and has been going well. He left my bio mom and I due to her being an alcoholic and said I should of went with him too. He does love and accept me for who I am also, supports me crossdressing part time. He is also glad I was adopted into a loving home

 

[HellsLittleAngel]

I haven't contacted him ever since I told him it's better for him to move on. He said ok and that was it. And now he's back, texting me again. I'm going to ignore that. I hope he'd understand.

Yes, ignoring it would be the best option, unless it's about your child.