We value hard work and rugged individualism.
I think that is commendable.
That's the thing though.
I think capitalism has become too extreme for most people. Most people can't live up to those ideals.
The world has become more competitive, and a person needs to be more competitive just to do "just OK" anymore (and that's just economically, not even taking the dating market into consideration) but people haven't become more intelligent to match.
I feel like the reason that most people are "most people" - why most people struggle with making money, is because they lack the intelligence to do anything well enough, that makes enough money. They're simply not smart enough/can't process enough complexity to do the "right" careers. Most people's "hard work" just isn't considered difficult enough to have much value. They aren't cut out for the game of individualism, just because they were born that way. In a purely Darwinian sense, most people aren't "good enough". They aren't good enough at anything to have a competitive advantage for life.
This also combines with NOT having interests that just so happen to be well-paying careers.
Of course, it stands to reason that people don't tend to be interested in things they aren't good at.
It doesn't feel like there is much of a point being interested in something you feel like you can't do.
And doing things badly to "just OK", is not fun, interesting, exciting, encouraging, or makes you feel good about yourself.
It could be said that it's just natural selection, that nature is just correcting itself, and those that are not competitive, won't survive.
But I feel like as sentient life, we can do better. That's what I thought it meant to live in a civilization.
In the Third World, you survive only as far as your strength, cunning, and/or family money, or luck, will allow.
In the First World, I thought we took care of our own, regardless of physical or mental ability, because I thought we had kinder, gentler values. I thought we were more ethical, and our culture valued life more. I thought First World countries cared about providing a good standard of living for its citizens, whether they were "good enough" or not, because we can - because we're capable of it, and because it's the right thing to do. I thought the people running things were benevolent leaders that knew most people couldn't live up to the highest standards, and saw themselves as the caretakers of civilization. Like they knew most people couldn't do much beyond live their lives and be entertained, but because we were an advanced and moral society, we took care of our population.
I've wondered all my life, what are all the non-math/science-smart people supposed to do? Because the world is getting more technical every year. A person needs to be able to process more and more complexity to stay relevant. A lot of people can no more do that, than they can stay competitive in an athletic sense. At least, that's how it's always looked to me.
Then there's interest. It helps when a person is actually interested in engineering or something like that. Interest in something makes it more inspiring to go through pain for it. I run, and it's not comfortable, but I want to
not have a potbelly enough to keep doing it. But without that, then it's like forcing yourself to be something you're not. Then, it makes a person feel stuck in a life they don't like, and negative. And negativity is a turnoff. It's hard to attract a woman when you hate your life because of what you have to do for a living. What would you talk about on the date? What vibes would you give off? The competitive world kind of imprisons people in their own lives. It's great if a person's interests, and what they're good at, just so happens to align, and just so happens to be the right stuff. Otherwise, not so much.
Honestly, I think even you could benefit from a less competitive world. If you had more work/life balance, if you could still have a good quality of life for less working hours, then you could have more hours outside of work to do things that would give you more conversation material to interest and impress women with.