What is your coping mechanism, when life is a brick wall?

[0mgofhappiness]

When faced with imminent prospect of having a council organised funeral? Nothing you can do about it you know it's coming, but once you had a life, you had children, a spouse, something of a worklife, actual interests. And now, you are receiving your deathnote, a council funeral where the only people that will be attending your funeral are council staff that do not know you. What do you do in the interim of that? Sit and wait, because thats all you can do, its a terminal illness in itself.

Im a fantasist, I don't believe things should end, it's hard to fight that feeling, why should good things come to an end? I don't believe that life should even begin if it is all just to end and be lived in vain. Even the most celebrated people come to an end, why are we born just to endure the pain of being controlled. We always have to make the right decision to stop the wolfs at our doors. All we ever really live for is money. Keeping the bailiffs away, we cant rebel them. They have the power. and so I lie her waiting to die, they may get money out of me when I am dead but that's the only way they will. I am not worth a dime to anyone, my divorce saw to that. All this love yourself and nasty 'Get a job' people. why do they do that, say those things, when they know they are always the winners. some people just cant 'Get a job' if they are so concerned, why don't they get the person they are shouting at a job then, or do they enjoy ridiculing people beneath them?

I could understand If i was a lifes black belt and someone seen me as a threat but to have bailiffs at your door, while you are living on the breadline after suffering the loss of everyone you know. seems to me the biggest ******* inult from god if there was ever one. There are people out there that have commited heinous crimes that get away with murder, they have their own bailiffs and will use them corruptively too. because they have power, if they can get away with it, they will

 

[TheRealCallie]

Here's the thing. In order to not be lonely or alone, you have to put yourself out there around people and be open to getting to know them and letting them get to know you. There's no way around that. People talk ****, people spreads rumors, but when you find your group of people, they won't care what other people say about you.

You have the choice to give up or keep trying. That choice is 100% yours to make, but you will never find what you are looking for if you give up. And on top of that, if you live your life with a negative mindset, it is very difficult to succeed because you will just be doing the self fulfilling prophecy thing.

 

[Unsigned]

Booze.

 

[ardour]

old video games

 

[okidoke]

Life is never a brick wall, except if you're literally in a cell, and even then there are mental exercises one can do to get through. Perhaps you came to this forum to get a lot of your chest, which is fine. We all need to vent at times. But if you're looking to get out of your funk, you need to take some steps. Obviously I don't know enough about you, so I might suggest things you've already done or are doing; like seeing your GP for a check up and they might prescribe something to help you cope, getting things in order in your life that you can handle (ie house chores, maintenance, etc), seeking some support groups, seeing a mental health professional, exercising (after you've been checked by your GP), avoiding certain substances and anything that is a negative impact.

One thing you can't do is to continue the track you're on. That is self destruction. Everyone has some worth, whether you believe that or not. If you really detest where you are because of who and what is in your life, then you need to change, a change, and that takes a bit of effort. When you're in your emotional state, it's difficult to think rationally and easy to dismiss anything that might be of value that someone offers, so that's why you need to get your head straight first. See your GP. Ease you mind into a better state with some positive distractions. You might even need to consider moving if where you live is too small and infested with people you can't stand or are a problem for you.