What Nice Guys Can Learn From Bad Boys

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I think to most super sexy thing about a man is first his humor and second his intelligence. Looks are way down on my list of importance actually.

I've had multiple women tell me they weren't interested in me because I could make them laugh and because I was intelligent.

They were probably making excuses. Nobody wants a stupid man with no sense of humor.

 

[blackdot]

crap.. now I find out women are liars!
*laughs*

 

[EveWasFramed]

:club:

 

[theraab]

I think to most super sexy thing about a man is first his humor and second his intelligence. Looks are way down on my list of importance actually.

I've had multiple women tell me they weren't interested in me because I could make them laugh and because I was intelligent.

They were probably making excuses. Nobody wants a stupid man with no sense of humor.

I'm starting to think that humor may be one of those things that is a long-term necessity for a relationship, but is not a sexy thing in the short term.

The other day I was looking at some high quality ****ography with the TV on in the background - I heard something from the TV that made me laugh, and suddenly I lost my arousal. That got me thinking about a few times during "sexy time" when either me or my partner would laugh about something, it would completely kill the mood. And that got me thinking about two women I have taken out in the past year that I got along well with, and made both of them laugh throughout the date, and neither wanted a second date; whereas the women I didn't make laugh throughout the date all wanted second dates.

So maybe laughter just isn't that sexy.

 

[nerdygirl]

I'm starting to think that humor may be one of those things that is a long-term necessity for a relationship, but is not a sexy thing in the short term.

The other day I was looking at some high quality ****ography with the TV on in the background - I heard something from the TV that made me laugh, and suddenly I lost my arousal. That got me thinking about a few times during "sexy time" when either me or my partner would laugh about something, it would completely kill the mood. And that got me thinking about two women I have taken out in the past year that I got along well with, and made both of them laugh throughout the date, and neither wanted a second date; whereas the women I didn't make laugh throughout the date all wanted second dates.

So maybe laughter just isn't that sexy.

I've heard this before from a few guys. I find it really sad that some people can't laugh about things and continue to feel sexy. I couldn't be with a guy who lost his ability to stay aroused while we were laughing and having a good time.

 

[blackdot]

sexy does not exist

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I actually find a woman more attractive when she can make me laugh. So maybe I'm just odd?

 

[ghbarnaby2]

I do not understand the point of this thread. Is this not simply rehashing something that such a large group of people have already posted about continually? Is this not just insanity? Are not people asking the same questions or giving the same advice or mentioning incredibly similar situations in perpetuity? There is very little point in repeating this "information" and I feel this adds little to no substantive help to others on this site. In all honesty, I feel this thread should be closed down.

 

[theraab]

I do not understand the point of this thread. Is this not simply rehashing something that such a large group of people have already posted about continually? Is this not just insanity? Are not people asking the same questions or giving the same advice or mentioning incredibly similar situations in perpetuity? There is very little point in repeating this "information" and I feel this adds little to no substantive help to others on this site. In all honesty, I feel this thread should be closed down.

I really disagree - I think this thread could go for another dozen pages before it devolves into a combination self-loathing/self-pitying thread that will have occassional mysoginistic comments, that will eventually result in apologies, with a few filler comments that are either helpful, sarcastic or non-sensical (I may put all three in this very thread, I really haven't decided yet). So let's just see how this thread plays out.

 

[Felix]

Sense of humor helps... but cool beats funny. That's why musicians get laid all the time and comediants... I'm not really sure but they don't have the same reputation, do they?

 

[Shipster0958]

I think to most super sexy thing about a man is first his humor and second his intelligence. Looks are way down on my list of importance actually.

I've had multiple women tell me they weren't interested in me because I could make them laugh and because I was intelligent.

Are you sure about that? That doesn't sound right at all.

 

[Bones]

Cool - I will pick you up on Friday at 7 - and, I will pay for the date unless you insist on going Dutch - lets both wear all black (and a little bit of black lace would look awesome on you!

LOL! Nope, no Dutch. I encourage you to hold my door open and pull out ... until at least the 3rd date.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I hate, HATE, HATE, Bad boys....


They are just so....






























BAD!

Ugh! :rolleyes2::rolleyes2:

 

[blackdot]

I'm evil.

 

[Fustar]

The problem with any kind of theory, on what personality traits can get you dates, is everyone is different. Not all women like men with humor, and what makes one woman laugh won't make the next one even crack a smile. The thing is you have to find your type, learn how to scope them out in a crowd and successfully show off your personality. Advice is nice and all, but one set will not work for everyone. Remember test the waters so you know what temp feels right to you. The best advice I can give, is never never ever change your personality for anyone. That and make sure you can successfully pick out your potential dating type within a few secs of conversation. It saves time, and if you don't have a lot of time available to talk you can just quickly ask for a date, or a phone number.

 

[VanillaCreme]

Okay, I've got a question... What about the guys that are neither? I mean, many of us want to say that a guy has to be this, that, and the other. But, what if he's neither? What is he? Because I've got a dude who's neither nice nor a baddie.

 

[Lippy_Kid]

Okay, I've got a question... What about the guys that are neither? I mean, many of us want to say that a guy has to be this, that, and the other. But, what if he's neither? What is he? Because I've got a dude who's neither nice nor a baddie.

Very true this, people are more rounded.

I can be a nice guy but I can be a right ******* sometimes too. Most people are the same.