Trusting people who shouldn't have been trusted. Letting them get close to me, despite people's advice not to.
Letting jealousy and anger and fear of loneliness, basically all negative emotions, take control of my actions, putting me in a very unhealthy place, repeatedly.
Btw it's more encouraging if the thread starter shares their story first, otherwise it just looks a bit nosey
I hate problems around Christmas the most. Makes them harder to forget. As for me.. This may sound terrible but sometimes I think being born into my family was the biggest mistake of my life. Of course that is impossible as I didn't make the decision to be born into my family (that I know of) but still.. I assume I'm by far not the only one who sometimes wish they were born into some other better off family
More realistically, I sometimes wish I was brought up by my Dad. Years ago, I believe there was some sort of battle over mine and my Brothers custody. Of course my Mum won. But my Dad is better off in life in every way. Had he brought me up, I could lead an absolutely different life now. I could be in university with a better social and love life. I could have more money and more ambition.
That said, I do like the person I am today. I'm stronger then I probably would be had my Dad brought me up.
My biggest mistake is something I failed to do, never growing a thick skin in the face of criticism and disappointment. I'm a mess now because of it. Not socialising much in my earlier teens is another regret for me.
Listening to my parent's when they told me the women I was dating was to old for me, and made me choice between them and her. I should have let my parents disown me.... They where psychotic selfish animals from hell, and my life is better sense they died.
But it left me all alone. Now I don't even have a tormenter .
Kept going back to my ex every time he abused me or mistreated it. Kept telling myself that one day he'll change. Only in the end I was left damaged and broken. The only positive thing I look at this is, I won't ever stay with anyone who mistreats me anymore. And the one thing that still creeps me out about him is the fact he wouldn't ever stop. He just kept persisting it no matter how many times I told him to stop.
For me,it would have to be trusting in others who I thought were closest to me.I have made this mistake over and over again with so called friends,family and women.This trust I put in these folk led me to make many other mistakes that have pretty much defined my life.
doing the things that were expected of me instead of what I really wanted to do for many years, now I am over it. Taking all those antibiotics in my teens that destroyed my immune system until today.
Not realising early enough that any girl would be so lucky to be with a guy like me, holding on to my ex gf, letn her treat me bad thinking I could never do better, all the while believing that it was love, but its a mistake & a life lesson that i am truly thankful for