When might it be too late?

[Siertes]

I've often felt that it's simply too late to even bother with the hope of finding someone. I turned 28 last month and have never been in any kind of relationship. It just feels like eventually you reach that point where everyone around you has experience in this whole other side of existing and you yourself may as well be a newborn. Who's going to have the patience for you? You've missed out on learning from all the mistakes you could make when you're young, dumb and in love. Now you're older and people will assume you know a thing or two about what it means to be with someone, about what you want. The fact that you don't know might make them wonder "What's wrong with you? I don't have time for this." It's like the state of employment here in the states: Nobody wants you because you don't have experience but you can't get experience because nobody wants you.

It seems like the only catch someone of us are getting is a "22".

 

[EveWasFramed]

I've often felt that it's simply too late to even bother with the hope of finding someone. I turned 28 last month and have never been in any kind of relationship. It just feels like eventually you reach that point where everyone around you has experience in this whole other side of existing and you yourself may as well be a newborn. Who's going to have the patience for you? You've missed out on learning from all the mistakes you could make when you're young, dumb and in love. Now you're older and people will assume you know a thing or two about what it means to be with someone, about what you want. The fact that you don't know might make them wonder "What's wrong with you? I don't have time for this." It's like the state of employment here in the states: Nobody wants you because you don't have experience but you can't get experience because nobody wants you.

It seems like the only catch someone of us are getting is a "22".

I can't speak for any other women of course, but Im sure there are others who share my view on this.
I wouldn't bat an eye because a guy didn't have any (or not much) experience with women - as long as he was willing to listen when any issues might come up and try to compromise and talk about the issues or what have you. So it's not so much experience, as it is willingness to make things work.
As far as the sexual side of a relationship, it's kind of the same way...anyone (male or female) who doesnt have any/much experience shouldn't have any problems if they're willing to listen to their partner and engage in that activity for the mutual gratification of both parties. Of course that even applies to those who have plenty of experience.
Just my two cents...

 

[Hawx79]

I'm 34 and I don't mind anymore. Just because you don't have someone doesn't mean you should stop enjoying life for what it is. Life is amazing everyday, even if it sucks, everyday's life is still amazing!

 

[Triple Bogey]

I'm 34 and I don't mind anymore. Just because you don't have someone doesn't mean you should stop enjoying life for what it is. Life is amazing everyday, even if it sucks, everyday's life is still amazing!

I enjoy my life very much !
of course not having a girlfriend nags at me, it's always going to be there but it's all I've known so I am used to it.

 

[lonelyfairy]

Never give up. Life is too precious for that. It really is.

 

[Hawx79]

Never give up. Life is too precious for that. It really is.

Life is precious so you need to reproduce, is that what you're saying? You don't make sense!

 

[Triple Bogey]

I've often felt that it's simply too late to even bother with the hope of finding someone. I turned 28 last month and have never been in any kind of relationship. It just feels like eventually you reach that point where everyone around you has experience in this whole other side of existing and you yourself may as well be a newborn. Who's going to have the patience for you? You've missed out on learning from all the mistakes you could make when you're young, dumb and in love. Now you're older and people will assume you know a thing or two about what it means to be with someone, about what you want. The fact that you don't know might make them wonder "What's wrong with you? I don't have time for this." It's like the state of employment here in the states: Nobody wants you because you don't have experience but you can't get experience because nobody wants you.

It seems like the only catch someone of us are getting is a "22".

I can't speak for any other women of course, but Im sure there are others who share my view on this.
I wouldn't bat an eye because a guy didn't have any (or not much) experience with women - as long as he was willing to listen when any issues might come up and try to compromise and talk about the issues or what have you. So it's not so much experience, as it is willingness to make things work.
As far as the sexual side of a relationship, it's kind of the same way...anyone (male or female) who doesnt have any/much experience shouldn't have any problems if they're willing to listen to their partner and engage in that activity for the mutual gratification of both parties. Of course that even applies to those who have plenty of experience.
Just my two cents...

my mother split with my dad in 1987. She has been involved with a few men since. She often mentions their dating experience. 'never been married' or 'never lived with anybody' is a bad thing in her book. Not sure how many women think like this though.

 

[Stonelands]

Never give up. Life is too precious for that. It really is.

Life is precious so you need to reproduce, is that what you're saying? You don't make sense!

I don't think she was referring just to sexual reproduction, I think she meant in regards to finding someone who makes you happy.

 

[Solivagant]

I've often felt that it's simply too late to even bother with the hope of finding someone. I turned 28 last month and have never been in any kind of relationship. It just feels like eventually you reach that point where everyone around you has experience in this whole other side of existing and you yourself may as well be a newborn. Who's going to have the patience for you? You've missed out on learning from all the mistakes you could make when you're young, dumb and in love. Now you're older and people will assume you know a thing or two about what it means to be with someone, about what you want. The fact that you don't know might make them wonder "What's wrong with you? I don't have time for this." It's like the state of employment here in the states: Nobody wants you because you don't have experience but you can't get experience because nobody wants you.

It seems like the only catch someone of us are getting is a "22".

^ I know what you mean. I feel that way a lot, exactly.

 

[EveWasFramed]

I'm 45. I've been married, etc. but currently single.
I haven't given up on eventually finding someone to be happy with.

 

[Mr.YellowCat]

I wish someone else, who suffers from the lack of relationships, would be in my place.
I had relationships, and even after my decision not to have any, I had opportunities to have some. I´m no womanizer, but I had normal possibilities, so to say.

And its sad that I got this chance that I dont want, instead o someone who wants it but does not have the possibility.
This sucks. I wish for others to have possibilities I have/had.
I´m sorry.