Who do you miss from ALL?

[reynard_muldrake]

I miss lifestream. We had a lot in common and spoke everyday for a few years. Wherever he is, I hope he's doing very well for himself.

 

[BeyondShy]

Dandelion. We me in chat and she was and is a very nice person.

Bee. It is an honor to be friends with her.

Peaches. Quiet and friendly.

Serenia. A kind and respectful lady.

Ladyforsaken. She commanded a lot of respect here and deservedly received attention from everyone.

 

[TheSkaFish]

I'm not thinking of a specific person this time, but of the idea of people leaving forums too quickly.

I'm on another forum, and I was talking to someone there this past month. It was just friendly conversation, I had no motive. But all the sudden, they just up and left the site after being there for less than a month. I've seen it happen a lot here too, and elsewhere. It's like people want there to be instant connection, instant fireworks. They don't give things the time and space they need to grow.

I feel like it takes a while before connections happen. At least that was my experience here. It took me a while to get to know people and open up, a lot of time of just saying things, sharing my thoughts, interacting on the threads. I don't think it's realistic to hang around most forums for a short period, and then just give up on it if your attempts to talk to people or make threads don't just take off right away.

Then there's also the fact that topics, and forums themselves, have periods of high and low activity. And individual people too. Sometimes there just isn't a lot to say, and you don't know what to do, what direction to go in order to find more to talk about. You don't have a lot going on, and what you do have is mundane, or topics that are otherwise best left unshared. Or sometimes you do have a lot going on but you're stressed out by it, and not feeling talkative.

I understand people can do whatever they want, but at the same time I feel like it's too bad people don't stick around to give forums a chance.

 

[okidoke]

I understand people can do whatever they want, but at the same time I feel like it's too bad people don't stick around to give forums a chance.

How long is long enough? Some people need less time to realise a forum isn't for them. Some stay longer for all the wrong reasons.

 

[TheSkaFish]

I miss lifestream. We had a lot in common and spoke everyday for a few years. Wherever he is, I hope he's doing very well for himself.

His account is still active here, and was active early in 2022.

If you message him, there's a chance he might get notified, and get back in touch.

 

[TheSkaFish]

Randomguy.

If he really did move to China, then I hope it is going OK.

 

[reynard_muldrake]

His account is still active here, and was active early in 2022.

If you message him, there's a chance he might get notified, and get back in touch.

I messaged him a few months ago and haven't heard back. It's possible he'll decide to visit the board again. Thank you.

 

[TheSkaFish]

@Finished

@Butterfly 2

@Rohini

@sunflowergirl1306

@Lonely girl 28

@KimP

@NoxApex(N/A)

@Bam111

 

[okidoke]

I miss the people I had some good long PM conversations with.

 

[TheSkaFish]

@Finished

@Butterfly 2

@Rohini

@sunflowergirl1306

@Lonely girl 28

@KimP

@NoxApex(N/A)

@Bam111

The same, plus:

@WanderingInTheWoods

@randomguy

@TryingToSurvive

 

[Unsigned]

Richard39

He's a good guy.

 

[TheSkaFish]

Richard39

He's a good guy.

Very true. I knew my list was incomplete.

 

[Diagnosed]

I got an email today, from someone who used to be on this forum. They haven't been around in a long time and I happen to know that they met someone, fell in love, and they are likely married. The email was actually spam, from their old email address (likely hacked or spoofed), but it made me think of all the people who used to be here who are gone or haven't been around in a while.
Who do YOU miss from the forum?

None!
Yet there are several nicknames that I felt they could have been the girls I wish I had met to love.

 

[BeyondShy]

Some stay longer for all the wrong reasons.

I just caught this after almost a year. For your information I stay two weeks because I don't want things to be difficult again.

 

[okidoke]

I just caught this after almost a year. For your information I stay two weeks because I don't want things to be difficult again.

I wasn't referencing you at all.

 

[TheSkaFish]

I just caught this after almost a year. For your information I stay two weeks because I don't want things to be difficult again.

Yes, it was about a completely different issue.

Oki was referencing my post, which was about the group of members that was around for the last few years but unfortunately have now mostly gone away. They really kept this place light-hearted. I miss them.

If I had to guess, I'd say that when he said "some people stay for all the wrong reasons" he meant that people stayed out of using this place as a safety blanket/comfort zone, rather than being more proactive in the real world.

 

[okidoke]

If I had to guess, I'd say that when he said "some people stay for all the wrong reasons" he meant that people stayed out of using this place as a safety blanket/comfort zone, rather than being more proactive in the real world.

Nah, at the time I wrote that, there were people here that I felt just wanted to cause deliberate angst for some others.

 

[TheSkaFish]

Nah, at the time I wrote that, there were people here that I felt just wanted to cause deliberate angst for some others.

I agree, this site has definitely had a few bad actors over the years.
There have been a few members here and there, that don't really care about this place, aren't trying to make friends, and get their kicks just from attacking people. They know full well what they are doing.

Thankfully they are the exception, rather than the rule.

 

[BeyondShy]

Yes, it was about a completely different issue.

I believe you and thank you for clearing this up.

 

[BeyondShy]

I will get this back on track if that's ok. Surprise names here

@Solivigant

@ladyforsaken

@itsmylife

@Peaches