chrisii said:
26 and still have "virgin-lips' and on top of that virgin - everything else. Maybe it's just my looks, I don't know, I try to at least half-way decent but I am in no position to judge that.
Apart from that what I would really like is a nice hug from a girl who actually does like me instead of just "sort of like / I just wanna be friends" type. I do have someone who I really like but from my perspective the feelings are not mutual. I can't do anything about that, I guess.
Man, this could have been written by me. 20 here, I don't want sex or nakedness or anything like that. I just want a nice kiss and a meaningful hug with a girl. I'd be a happy man for the rest of my romance days with just that.
I don't think it's much to do with looks - in all likelihood you probably look good if you're thinking about keeping your appearance in check. I think it's more to do with giving off a sort of easy-going air around the lady of your desires.
People keep telling me I look good and I'm friendly, but I'm totally rubbish at getting further than friendship level with girls because I start to get shy with that stuff rather than having the confidence to push on. It's also about a hefty dose of luck too.
I've had the "two-second-bye hug", the "I sort of think you're cute but circumstance stops stuff" hug, the "friend hug" and the "whassup hug", but never any kind of warm, sweet-womanly-smelling hug of "I really really like you and we're going to snuggle for seven-point-five seconds"
A kiss would probably be fantastic, but I'm a little less enthusiastic about that. I get stupidly shy and start burning up when I
think of it. Plus I can't imagine any girl I like actually wanting to kiss me - my confidence is just balls sometimes.
I have the horrid feeling I'm going to go on a date one day, there'll be this opportunity for a great first kiss, and I'll just go red, stupidly scratch my hair and then say "Uh, bye." or something :\
Badjedidude said:
sentiententity said:
Not really.
You'll get a damn sight closer by TRYING than by NOT trying.
True, but at the same time, it's not always that simple. Trying more often makes you seem desperate, which means no kissing. In fact, it's the people that don't try that seem to get the most kissing, because it doesn't bother them and so they don't get nervous nearly as easily.
I "try" with this girl I like, but getting through the kiss barrier is like wading through syrup sometimes. You need the right situation, some privacy, some time to talk and the right location for it to happen - that's a lot of variables that need to be there.