Because I don't want to go though all that again. Let me explain :
I have dated on and off for 5 years now since my last serious relathionship and I have never had any problem getting dates. People always tell me i am stunning when I go out. However I am not the kind of girl who sleeps with guys very easily and i am careful not to get too attached stright away.
Being this way can sometimes make me some kind of conqest. As soon as I let my gard down a little, or sleep with a man I always end up wondering why I did it in the first place. I spend time dating a guy and really getting to know him but in the end it comes to the same thing stage two.
Stage two.
Every girl has had it at some point. the reduced phone calles and a guy suddenly being too busy to see you lots of times in a row. We can see the signs so when this happens I ring the guy or arrange to meet and and ask him out right. He admitts that he dose not want to see me any more so I wish him luck, say I wil be friends,try not to show him I am upset and move on. Of course I am upset though. It hurts ever time.
Then there are the ones who come back to you at a later stage. They
want to see you again. take you out, they made a mistake etc.......... They really like you . So I always reserve judgement and see them again. but in most cases it either turns out they want company for one night. I realise and chuck em out or we date for a few more dates and it ends up going back to stage two.
If this sounds EXSAUTING to you this is why I am single.
Then there is my self. I think secretly men want a kind of woman who polishes the oven and cooks amazing pie's (only joking but you get the idea . A girl who loves cooking)and has fantastic nails. I love the out doors but are more likely to be seen unblocking the washing machinge then being obsessional about whether the floor has a spec if dust on it. Saying that though I would not stop wearing my high heels and nice dresses for the world. The other thing is that sometimes I can be a little disorganised. I know some guys don't like that.
So I say why am I single
1. because I am not your average kind of girl . This dose not fit with a lot of guys
2, Not Going though all that again is something that keeps me sane .
:club::club: There are only so many times you can be hit with this
I prefere
cool:
:shy::shy:
3. A belief that by being mates with guys you get to be your self and not get any of the hassell I have just decribed ,and you know whether they like you for being your self or not .