I think I might end up all alone forever.

[ardour]

Assuming for a minute that it's true that they're rejecting you on first sight, are you sure that they aren't rejecting you because your body language gives away the fact that you expect them not to like you as opposed to your looks? Could be posture or mannerisms.

Men still have to play by a tight script to be considered desirable (the tired cliche of being outgoing 24/7, never fazed or indecisive).

He probably needs to like himself a bit more, but thinking too much about things like body language can make make someone more self-conscious.

 

[Iceman1978]

Learning to like myself is going to be the greatest battle of my life so far. Considering that I have an overwhelming sense of worthlessness.

 

[Menorahman]

lol women

 

[reynard_muldrake]

lol women

lol men

 

[Sun35]

I'm a 29 year old guy.

I'm going to be totally honest here. I have only had sex with one single girl for my entire life. That was 9 years ago....

I'm a loser in the sense that most people don't like me. The main reason for this is that I hardly ever speak or say a word. I suspect I might have selective mutinism, since sometimes, I can't even speak altough I want to.

That's fine, I don't see anything wrong. Why do you think you are a loser? first of all you have to stop thinking like that, you should stop believing that. To be honest this kind of self defeatist attitude is not attractive at all. People can sense that, and I am sure any woman will find this unattractive as well.

This could be one of the many reasons as to why you are having difficult getting women.

People avoid me, like really avoid me in irl for this. I feel rather sad and depressed.

As I said above, I think people can sense that you have a self defeating attitude and that's why they try to avoid you.

I don't know how to reach out to others, I really don't. i try to be open and speak out. but it always comes out as awkvard and stupid. I dunno. Maybe I'm too dumb or afraid to be with others?

I have no friends. I study art at the moment. But I can't find any meaning in life. Im badass at painting and sculpting, but what does it matter when no girl likes me?

What I think is you need to develop your confidence, you clearly seem to be lacking confidence , you need be a little positive and keep improving yourself, keep working on whatever you think are your flaws

I know it's easier said than done, but that's how life is, it's always easy to say something but it's always difficult to execute the very same that is being said. Hence you will need to be strong, you will have to find a way to put it in action.

I don't want to be alone forver, and make my mother disappointed beacuse she can't ever have any grandchildren.

Why can't anyone ever love me?

I can understand you don't want to be alone and you don't want to dissapoint anybody, but then logically speaking it's your life, I am not saying that making others happy is wrong but in the end you have to live for yourself as well hence you need to do what you believe is right as well, and sometimes that can dissapoint people but that is inevitable.

 

[JackJohnson]

I'm lonely too but in a different way. I was married for 14 years and had the same person by my side since 1999. I moved away from the city we lived in and she moved back home. Dating has changed so much and women nowadays seem to be able to have sex with whomever without any emotional attachment whatsoever. I get attached because I get lonely and then I find someone and loneliness goes away. I've been living by myself for a year, I'm 38, befor then as I previously stated I was with my ex wife. Women seem to not want to give me the time of day but all I've really tried is online dating. I do that because I don't frequent bars and I don't want to attract that kind of woman. I believe with enough practice I could get laid but I don't want to get just laid. I want to have a relationship. It's just no one wants me and that's just how I feel and some of that comes from getting passed over again and again by families when I got adopted at 5 y/o. No amount of counseling or medications can fix me but living life alone is hard

 

[EmilyFoxSeaton]

No amount of counseling or medications can fix me but living life alone is hard

Sorry jack but it kind of sounds here like you want someone to take care of you. That is probably why women won't give you the time of day. At least you were married once. A lot of guys here weren't. My advice, if you ever knew any women who you liked when you were married.. look them up. I had a "second time around" list of guys I wished would get divorced. But they didn't!!

 

[JackJohnson]

No amount of counseling or medications can fix me but living life alone is hard

Sorry jack but it kind of sounds here like you want someone to take care of you. That is probably why women won't give you the time of day. At least you were married once. A lot of guys here weren't. My advice, if you ever knew any women who you liked when you were married.. look them up. I had a "second time around" list of guys I wished would get divorced. But they didn't!!

I don't I've been taking care of myself just fine. It just sucks being alone but I'm getting used to it I guess. I want someone to enjoy life with and someone to enrich me and me enrich them. I don't need to be fixed and I don't want to fix anyone.

 

[sentiententity]

Being in a relationship isn't really that great of a goal. It's easy to romanticize a relationship from a distance. But in practicality they are quite the ordeal. At least the ones I've been in.

There are better, more attainable goals to be had in life. Like finding a way to enjoy life on YOUR terms. And not living for other people's acceptance.

 

[KTMChristian]

Are you drunk now? How are you now? I'm trying g to get drunk now because of the loneliness. I'm Christian and if you ever want to talk. I'm also good at art but I've lost my direction. Maybe all artists suffer pain and solitude? After all art is the highest expression. Hope your well buddy

 

[sentiententity]

Is everyone getting drunk now? Maybe I should join in, lol.

 

[Fragile]

The thing is, I never let these thoughts show when I'm with a girl. Never.

Considering how depressive my first post is, you'd be surprised with how positive and funny I am irl.

Yet it counts for nothing apparently? Since no girl I have met wants to be with me?

I'm awesome really, the thoughts I gave in to in my first post was an acknowledgment to the feelings I harbor deep inside, no one knows that side of me. If psychotic killers can hide their lust for blood, than **** it be if I can't hide my insecurity...

I meet a couple of girls within the span of a few months 2 years back now. Nothing but failure.

I give up! Nothing works, everyone hates me, ok!? What the fresia can I do? I play the game, I'm full of humour, and I try to look my best...

Maybe I truly suck at life?

 

[nibbysaurus]

Just saw the title, haven't read most of the posts. But yeah, me too. I never go out, hardly any friends, just got dumped by someone I'd been together with for a year. I have no idea what to do now. What do I do? Where do people go to find other people? I have no money and I'm not going to bars alone. How do people do this stuff?

 

[JackJohnson]

Just saw the title, haven't read most of the posts. But yeah, me too. I never go out, hardly any friends, just got dumped by someone I'd been together with for a year. I have no idea what to do now. What do I do? Where do people go to find other people? I have no money and I'm not going to bars alone. How do people do this stuff?

Getting dumped sucks, I've been to bars by myself and I make small talk and it is enjoyable. I'm new to it all though. I'm having to re-learn how it is to live alone, not having someone constantly there to make plans with and go do things with is different.

If you don't have money then you need to re-evaluate your priorities and your bills and figure out how you can get more money. You will need money to get out of the house.

Everyone around you will seem like they are doing so much better than you when in reality they aren't, it's all a Façade.

 

[Restless soul]

I hear ya. Also got dumped right before the summer. And it took it's toll. Nothing compounds and highlights just how lonley you were previous to the relationship especially when you went years without one.Just Speaking for myself. And the relationship didn't even have to be a long one to know that is what you wanted/needed. How it stabalized me. Yes kinda like a drug. A relationship can be a drug, doesn't have to be a bad thing. In general I am this hypersexual kind of guy. Always getting so easily visually stimulated. Years of porn. The only release.

That is why it is a healthy thing to be in a relationship. Maybe you might not be healthy in other areas of your life but being in a romantic, affectionate,sexual can only be a good thing. I think i a lot of my strong sexual urges, desirss and impulses might be due to some depression and stress or just knowing and feeling like you will go without for a long time can induce that aggresive desire to seek it out constantly. So its sorta a chicken and the egg scenario. You can question it forever. Am I sex crazed because I don't get any? Just natrually high libido?
Stress from not being in a healthy stable relationship?
Depression, anxiety and therefore I might need meds to calm that desire? But why would I want meds to quell that sexual urge? Maybe it's totally warranted? So Just a rant and tried to stay on topic. But you get the picture.
And if you have any specific questions feel free to ask

 

[movinggirl]

I don't have a lot of friends but that is ok. I never did in high school either. I'm 49 now. I enjoy my pets, they are wonderful companions.

I also don't look for relationships. Despite being lonely at times, I quite enjoy being single. Perhaps someday I'll get into a relationship, until then I'll accept what I do have.

Much love to you.

 

[WrongDecision]

Hello ladies and gents. Okay so I read a lot of posts on this thread and one thing keeps coming up over and over and over again. "No girls likes me, I'm alone, I haven't had sex" Not to sound like the football jock that every guy and girl hated in high school but I've done all of that x100 and I'm still not happy with my life.

From the other side it may seem that once you have a girlfriend and sex that life will be grand. In all honestly it's not and no where close to it. What everyone should focus on is their passion in life and what you wish to do with it for the rest of your life. Don't end up like me stuck in some office working 8-5 working a job you can care less for. Don't get stuck like me married to some good looking girl but no physical attraction. Life is so much more then the opposite sex and the physicality of it. The best time of my life were the times I spent with a group of DJs doing what we loved most and playing music. Find something that excites you in life and peruse your dreams. Don't let a girlfriend and boyfriend be your ultimate goal. There will come a time and you will find someone but dont force it or else you are going to end up like me !!!

So if you are good at art and sculpting pursue a career in that. Join a meet up group and find others like you. Go to museums, travel the word and see historic art. Man there is so much I wish I did in your years and now find myself stuck and can't do so. We get to live life once and don't make the wrong decision.

Girlfriends, boyfriends, and sex are over rated. Once you had one one then it's not big deal and once you did it well it's all the same. Okay fine some better then others lol But, the moral of my story is don't let this be your top priority. The more you force things and the more you look the less you will find. If you surround yourself with the kind of people you want then you will find someone just like you not some fake bimbo who's just good in bed. But, actually someone who cares for you and most of all enjoys doing the things you love to do.

Good luck

 

[Restless soul]

Hello ladies and gents. Okay so I read a lot of posts on this thread and one thing keeps coming up over and over and over again. "No girls likes me, I'm alone, I haven't had sex" Not to sound like the football jock that every guy and girl hated in high school but I've done all of that x100 and I'm still not happy with my life.

From the other side it may seem that once you have a girlfriend and sex that life will be grand. In all honestly it's not and no where close to it. What everyone should focus on is their passion in life and what you wish to do with it for the rest of your life. Don't end up like me stuck in some office working 8-5 working a job you can care less for. Don't get stuck like me married to some good looking girl but no physical attraction. Life is so much more then the opposite sex and the physicality of it. The best time of my life were the times I spent with a group of DJs doing what we loved most and playing
music. Find something that excites you in life and peruse your dreams. Don't let a girlfriend and boyfriend be your ultimate goal. There will come a time and you will find someone but dont force it or else you are going to end up like me !!!

So if you are good at art and sculpting pursue a career in that. Join a meet up group and find others like you. Go to museums, travel the word and see historic art. Man there is so much I wish I did in your years and now find myself stuck and can't do so. We get to live life once and don't make the wrong decision

Girlfriends, boyfriends, and sex are over rated. Once you had one one then it's not big deal and once you did it well it's all the same. Okay fine some better then others lol But, the moral of my story is don't let this be your top priority. The more you force things and the more you look the less you will find. If you surround yourself with the kind of people you want then you will find someone just like you not some fake bimbo who's just good in bed. But, actually someone who cares for you and most of all enjoys doing the things you love to do.

Good luck

I should have your problems

 

[WrongDecision]

Hello ladies and gents. Okay so I read a lot of posts on this thread and one thing keeps coming up over and over and over again. "No girls likes me, I'm alone, I haven't had sex" Not to sound like the football jock that every guy and girl hated in high school but I've done all of that x100 and I'm still not happy with my life.

From the other side it may seem that once you have a girlfriend and sex that life will be grand. In all honestly it's not and no where close to it. What everyone should focus on is their passion in life and what you wish to do with it for the rest of your life. Don't end up like me stuck in some office working 8-5 working a job you can care less for. Don't get stuck like me married to some good looking girl but no physical attraction. Life is so much more then the opposite sex and the physicality of it. The best time of my life were the times I spent with a group of DJs doing what we loved most and playing
music. Find something that excites you in life and peruse your dreams. Don't let a girlfriend and boyfriend be your ultimate goal. There will come a time and you will find someone but dont force it or else you are going to end up like me !!!

So if you are good at art and sculpting pursue a career in that. Join a meet up group and find others like you. Go to museums, travel the word and see historic art. Man there is so much I wish I did in your years and now find myself stuck and can't do so. We get to live life once and don't make the wrong decision

Girlfriends, boyfriends, and sex are over rated. Once you had one one then it's not big deal and once you did it well it's all the same. Okay fine some better then others lol But, the moral of my story is don't let this be your top priority. The more you force things and the more you look the less you will find. If you surround yourself with the kind of people you want then you will find someone just like you not some fake bimbo who's just good in bed. But, actually someone who cares for you and most of all enjoys doing the things you love to do.

Good luck

I should have your problems

I'll trade you anytime dude =) As the saying goes it's all fun and games at first but when you look back and see your entire young life was wasted on fake girls and no real purpose you begin to wonder about your choices.

 

[Xpendable]

I'll trade you anytime dude =) As the saying goes it's all fun and games at first but when you look back and see your entire young life was wasted on fake girls and no real purpose you begin to wonder about your choices.

Trading your life with any guy here would be an even worst decision.