Craving deep connections - online friends (men and women)

[AlexandraOcean]

Hi there,

As the title states, I'm here because I'm struggling to fulfill my need for deep connection and it leaves me feeling lonely even when I'm around people, even when im with the people I love most in the world.

I've been struggling with PMDD for a few years now meaning I have bouts where I am bed bound and unable to get out and connect with the world.

I'm struggling with a few different things

- ageing - as a woman in my late forties I'm noticing my youthful beauty fading, I know that there is so much more to me than just my looks but the more I feel 'unseen' for who I am on the inside the more I find myself relying on my external to capture attention and appreciation and the greater my fear is of losing my looks

- no strings attached yet deep connection - I go in and out of wanting / needing deep connection. I struggle with friendships because I can't always be there for my friends and they can't always be there for me when I need them so I love the idea of having online connections that I can call upon and visa versa but that don't carry the weight of expectation or attachment.

- meeting like minded men and women - I thrive and thoroughly enjoy deep and honest conversations, my hubby is the polar opposite and it has me feel really sad. He is happiest talking about topics that are not about him, or me or us and it leaves me feeling disconnected. Whrn he talks about himself its usually about the past. I really hope in time we can learn to enjoy speaking each other's languages. Whilst this is my main priority to deepen my connection with him, I think that connecting deeply with others will feed this need taking the pressure of my relationship (if that makes sense).

- overeating I've been turning to food to deal with my loneliness and I want to break out of this unhealthy habit by replacing it with satisfying connections

Looking forward to hearing from you soon and tackling our loneliness together one deep juicy connected conversation at a time

Thanks for reading and thanks to the founders for creating this forum!

 

[Fred]

Hi there,

As the title states, I'm here because I'm struggling to fulfill my need for deep connection and it leaves me feeling lonely even when I'm around people, even when im with the people I love most in the world.

I've been struggling with PMDD for a few years now meaning I have bouts where I am bed bound and unable to get out and connect with the world.

I'm struggling with a few different things

- ageing - as a woman in my late forties I'm noticing my youthful beauty fading, I know that there is so much more to me than just my looks but the more I feel 'unseen' for who I am on the inside the more I find myself relying on my external to capture attention and appreciation and the greater my fear is of losing my looks

- no strings attached yet deep connection - I go in and out of wanting / needing deep connection. I struggle with friendships because I can't always be there for my friends and they can't always be there for me when I need them so I love the idea of having online connections that I can call upon and visa versa but that don't carry the weight of expectation or attachment.

- meeting like minded men and women - I thrive and thoroughly enjoy deep and honest conversations, my hubby is the polar opposite and it has me feel really sad. He is happiest talking about topics that are not about him, or me or us and it leaves me feeling disconnected. Whrn he talks about himself its usually about the past. I really hope in time we can learn to enjoy speaking each other's languages. Whilst this is my main priority to deepen my connection with him, I think that connecting deeply with others will feed this need taking the pressure of my relationship (if that makes sense).

- overeating I've been turning to food to deal with my loneliness and I want to break out of this unhealthy habit by replacing it with satisfying connections

Looking forward to hearing from you soon and tackling our loneliness together one deep juicy connected conversation at a time

Thanks for reading and thanks to the founders for creating this forum!

Well hello and welcome

 

[AlexandraOcean]

Well hello

Well hello and welcome

Thanks Fred! Appreciate the welcome

 

[okidoke]

Hello fellow Victorian Good to see another Aussie here. Welcome to you.

 

[AlexandraOcean]

Hello fellow Victorian Good to see another Aussie here. Welcome to you.

Well hello there okidoke

 

[okidoke]

...... I'm noticing my youthful beauty fading.....

you're smile looks awesome

 

[AlexandraOcean]

you're smile looks awesome

Nwaaaa, thank you, that's a very sweet thing of you to say, did you mention you are also from Australia? Or am I getting confused

 

[Minus]

Welcome to the forums

 

[AlexandraOcean]

you're smile looks awesome

Nwaaaa, thank you, that's a very sweet thing of you to say, did you mention you are also from Australia? Or am I getting confused

Welcome to the forums

Thank you so much Minus!

 

[okidoke]

Nwaaaa, thank you, that's a very sweet thing of you to say, did you mention you are also from Australia? Or am I getting confused

Thank you so much Minus!

yep, as my profile notes. Near Bendigo. I've posted a few travel videos (have a youtube channel) and pics I take.

 

[AlexandraOcean]

yep, as my profile notes. Near Bendigo. I've posted a few travel videos (have a youtube channel) and

yep, as my profile notes. Near Bendigo. I've posted a few travel videos (have a youtube channel) and pics I take.

yep, as my profile notes. Near Bendigo. I've posted a few travel videos (have a youtube channel) and pics I take.

Oh cool, I only just worked out how to view a profile

 

[okidoke]

When you visit the forum on a PC, it's easier to see the info.

 

[okidoke]

btw, I'll copy and paste info i've written before about attaching pics fyi.

"I click "attach files" underneath the writing area, then on that file you will see "insert". Click insert and you have two options, "thumbnail" or "full image". If you choose "full image" you will be able to resize the image how you wish, by dragging in the corners, which is what I do, but I didn't learn that until later, hence some of my earlier photos are so large (if you're viewing on a computer). Hope that helps."

 

[AlexandraOcean]

Ah OK, thanks so much!

 

[ringwood]

Hello there, and welcome! I’m a similar age to you (early 50’s) and struggle with a few of those things. Feel free to PM me if you’d like to chat, my inbox is always open.

 

[AlexandraOcean]

Wonderful to hear. I'll definitely reach out soon, going to sleep now but look forward to connecting in near future

 

[TheRealCallie]

Welcome to ALL

I'd be happy to chat with you. I can relate to a few things you mentioned.

 

[AlexandraOcean]

I just checked out your YouTube channel. Must admit I didn't watch a lot but I really enjoyed your energy in the videos - seems like you embody a peaceful groundedness in that video and have a real love of nature

 

[AlexandraOcean]

I just checked out your YouTube channel. Must admit I didn't watch a lot but I really enjoyed your energy in the videos - seems like you embody a peaceful groundedness in that video and have a real love of nature

Oops I think I posted in the wrong place, I'll DM instead

 

[Unsigned]

Hi @AlexandraOcean and welcome.

- overeating I've been turning to food to deal with my loneliness and I want to break out of this unhealthy habit by replacing it with satisfying connections

I overeat often too.
It's usually when I overdrink.
I'm trying to break those unhealthy habits as well.
I try replacing it with exercise, and sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
Hope you have better luck!